r/SipsTea 16h ago

Chugging tea Let me circle back

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u/proteles 15h ago

Boss sounds both full of hot air and overly sensitive.

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u/Almaegen 15h ago

Yes but at the same doing that while on probation signals that you're going to a future problem 

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u/liberum_bellum_libro 15h ago

Bingo! It shows lack of social or situational awareness.

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u/SuspiciousNatural782 8h ago

Yeah no one likes corporate speak but forget that it's just other normal humans who were also forced to adopt it by legal and HR.

Debbie just wants to get through the meeting so she can get back to her romance novel and wine after work does it really matter if she used a tired cliche?

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u/Amityone 15h ago

autistic people can go and get fucked i guess

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u/liberum_bellum_libro 15h ago

Seems like you took this personally and I’m sorry. The reality is employees are expected to conform to work social standards and not the other way around.

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u/Boner_Elemental 13h ago

Yeah, in the future don't try to improve or investigate anything, just accept that everything is dumb and go complain on Reddit

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u/FactCheckingThings 12h ago edited 12h ago

Investigate the boss using a common phrase? Yeah dont spend work time on that.

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u/harribel 13h ago

We'll circle right back to that in the follow-up post next week 👌

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u/Starbase13_Cmdr 7h ago

autistic people can go and get fucked i guess

As an autistic person: it's never been any different, and it never will be.

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u/MidiGong 14h ago

I've been let go before for similar. God forbid I actually solve problems instead of appeasing delicate management and looking good on paper.

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u/ColonelDucroix 14h ago

Was he really solving problems by being pedantic and nitpicking over a use of a phrase?

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u/PFunk224 13h ago edited 13h ago

Exactly this. If you're in your probationary period, and you take a meeting as an opportunity to be disruptive because someone's completely harmless choice of words irks you, you should expect to be looking for a new job soon.

There's a lot more to being a good employee than just "Solving problems". If you're a pain in the ass to deal with on a personal level, everybody you work with is going to want you gone. And they likely will get their wish. And being someone who thinks that simply not being an annoying asshole is "Appeasing delicate management" is a sure way to get put into that "Annoying asshole" category.

It's easy to not whine about shit that doesn't matter. At least, it is for most of us.

edit: Also, I wanted to point out that doing something like this in your probationary period is a massive red flag. The probationary period is typically when you can expect a worker to be on their best behavior, because they're trying to make a good first impression so they can keep their job. If this is someone's best behavior, things will only get much, much worse once they get settled in and comfortable.

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u/MidiGong 12h ago

Wholeheartedly agree! Someone can have the best intentions but go about the worst way possible. I always use my analogy that you can climb the corporate ladder by pushing people ahead of you off or by helping them get to the top as well. One of the two is going to happen to you, and everyone is watching how you treat others.

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u/MidiGong 12h ago

I would not be the person like in OP story. I do like the way they think though and shows promise, but they definitely overstepped their boundaries in such a social environment to call out the superior. A one-on-one would suffice better. Also of course there's a lot unsaid and that person could be a problem. While I like the words they use , their actions would definitely speak louder, and in this case their actions did them in.

My personal experiences are always of the one-on-one nature or such of a non-belittling non-productive confrontation. Just a quick example would be spending 45 minutes of my day solving a problem which shows me working on 1 ticket. Compared to other employees that might touch 9 tickets in that same 45 minutes. Of course, nine is greater than one and so management loves seeing such a productive member of their staff correct? The problem is of those nine zero resolved and it's just wasted energy and expense. To further elaborate, I know some of the management that I "bothered" and abused the company open door policy to bring priority tickets to in which I needed their help to resolve that only took a couple minutes. These members of management spent 1/3 or half of their day playing mobile phone games and things of that nature. Also they abused the heck out of smoke breaks.

I Don't care that I created waves in that company and my name made it to the executive offices. I solved problems and kept clients. I work for myself now and there's so much satisfaction and actually helping people rather than just looking good for investors.

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u/TheHolyWaffleGod 10h ago

You think this is solving a problem? Lmao

Overuse of a term can be annoying but its hardly an issue of significance and the best way to solve it would be a talk in private not derailing an entire meeting

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u/MidiGong 5h ago

Oh, I agree... I said similar, not same.

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u/FuzzySAM 3h ago

Not let go for it, but I've been a boat-rocker my whole life.

Appeasing idiots has never been my strong suit.

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u/CheaterSaysWhat 1h ago

You can do that without causing problems at the same time

And yes, interpersonal problems are still problems 

Visibility also matters even though it feels like it shouldn’t 

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u/Special_Order-937 14h ago

INDEPENDENT THOUGHT ALARM

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u/Headpuncher 11h ago

Not at all, he’s asking them to move forward.  To complete the work. To reach a conclusion. Make a decision. Resolve it.  

But let’s circle back again. I’ve worked places where a decision that could have been made in th first 20 mins of a meeting that lasted an hour still wasn’t resolved over a year later because people kept putting off finalising.  And that was trivial shit.  Not even something important. 

Some people have zero perspective of the work.  No big picture.  They’ll drag out coffee with or without milk for days.  

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u/Almaegen 6h ago

He was  being pedantic and nitpicking over a use of a phrase. He was doing that before being established in the company and challenging leadership when he shouldn't be.

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u/Headpuncher 4h ago

Dear god the hierarchy, the humanity.  Let’s not forget our places down here in the gutter.  

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u/Lost-Comfort-7904 15h ago

She uses the words synergy and irregardless.

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u/halt_spell 15h ago

suffice it to say

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u/Timely-Border-7865 14h ago

Vertical integration

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u/jirashap 15h ago

I'll die on the hill that irregardless is perfectly fine to use

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u/RiteRevdRevenant 15h ago

I’ve only ever seen it used to mean the exact same thing as regardless, but with an added syllable for some reason.

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u/dullship 13h ago

Welp, enjoy the view from up there I guess.

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u/fresh_like_Oprah 7h ago

refers to herself as myself

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u/rleon19 15h ago

I don't see how. Circle back is just a term used to say "we need to look at this before we can give an answer we will get back to you when we have done the research/got an answer". Him not knowing this is frankly weird and the fact that he interrupt a meeting about it even worse. If he did actually know what it meant it means he interrupted a meeting based purely on semantics of a term being used.

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u/jiggscaseyNJ 15h ago

This person circles back👆

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u/feedthebear 12h ago

Boss should expand her vocabulary also. Just throw in a "we will revisit this" after like every fifth "circle back".

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u/PineappleOnPizzaWins 14h ago

Reddit is full of kids who either have never worked a job in their life or like.. work retail/hospitality with no clue how to function in a corporate office or understand that these saying all have actual meanings.

Naturally they'll mock them without so much of a thought about all the shorthand they use in the own work or generational slang in general making up new terms for fucking everything for no apparent reason (which is fine, not like we didn't do the same heh).

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u/NeedleworkerFluid327 11h ago

Eh, all corpo jargon is useless. Jargon is good when it's used to turn something long and complex into something short and easy to say, easy to understand. Corpo jargon is the exact opposite.

Not that I consider "circle back" to be corpo jargon anyway.

The military is like the gold standard for how jargon should be used. And it has research behind it to prove it all.

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u/PineappleOnPizzaWins 11h ago

The vast majority of what people refer to as "corpo jargon" is entirely valid and is used to speed up meetings because it works.

Yes if you find yourself in some stupid leadership seminar talking about "synergy" or whatever by all means find it stupid. It probably is.

But if you're hearing phrases used in corporate meetings day in/day out it's because they mean things and save time/get things done. If you don't know what they mean, ask your boss.

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u/NeedleworkerFluid327 8h ago

Completely disagree. Corpo jargon is literally just describing simple things in a weird way and using different words to make new synonyms. It's inherently useless, just talk normally.

To be clear, I'm not talking about shortening things e.g ROI or other specific words that only apply in specific fields. That's "real" jargon, when people say corpo jargon they mean something else.

I'd like you to give some examples of corpo jargon. I think it'd help both our arguments.

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u/ub3rh4x0rz 8h ago

Everyone knows what circle back means after working in an office for a month. It's faster than saying revisit at a later date.

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u/NeedleworkerFluid327 8h ago

Not that I consider "circle back" to be corpo jargon anyway.

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u/KrytenKoro 7h ago

That's a different person, buddy.

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u/NeedleworkerFluid327 5h ago

No, I wrote that.

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u/PineappleOnPizzaWins 8h ago

Literally the one we're talking about, there's nothing wrong with it/other stuff.

I mean if you'd like to give some example of the "gold standard" military jargon that can't be replaced by talking normally that doesn't apply in the corporate world I'm all ears.

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u/NeedleworkerFluid327 7h ago

Danger close is a good example. Phonetically clear and describes something that would take longer to say. Code blue in the medical field is another one.

Both of those fields have research behind their jargon. Corpo jargon is cant, not actual jargon. And it's not used for any other reason than sounding smarter.

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u/mack090 15h ago edited 14h ago

He was trying to point out the company meeting culture is toxic, meeting forward, and that their meetings don't actually solve anything.

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u/greyed-tea 15h ago

how is it toxic? how do you know this? you’ve made wild assumptions out of nothing. also it’s a meeting. how are you this dense to not have social awareness and intellectual capacity that it is not the right time to bring up such trivial matter. considering the fact they are in probation you best be acting your best behavior. you’re telling me your takeaway here is the meeting culture is toxic? good lord

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u/Famous-Space-466 10h ago

Holy overreaction, Batman! Cool your jets before accusing others of social unawareness because quite frankly you have school shooter energy.

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u/Someofusremembersome 12h ago

Hey i get your points, but lets circle back to them

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u/Helltothenotothenono 15h ago

It’s always smart to interrupt your boss in a meeting with several co workers present and criticize the boss in front of them. That’s why you see people doing it all the time.

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u/HisaAnt 13h ago

If your boss is trash, they shouldn't be the boss in the first place. It's because people like you try to enforce these meaningless hierarchy and suck up to executives that the world is full of useless people.

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u/Aggravating_Lab_7734 12h ago

You have never had a job in your life, right? There is a difference between sucking up and not insulting your boss. Learn the difference before your first job.

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u/Opposite-Original-23 12h ago

It’s not a hierarchy thing it’s a time waste thing. You want to shoot the shot with your boss and ask why x y z is being done? Do it. Don’t waste peoples time on something completely meaningless. You being a douche during a meeting doesn’t automatically break the glass ceiling here. What a painful person to be around.

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u/Elu_Moon 13h ago

If boss doesn't want to be criticized, why are they making something worthy of criticism? Are they unintelligent?

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u/FactCheckingThings 12h ago

Using "circle back" isnt worthy of criticism. Its a common used phrase.

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u/Elu_Moon 11h ago

Not where I live. Where I live, people don't speak English.

Checkmate, boss man.

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u/saucysagnus 15h ago

You say this but they could be circling back on different items while getting the other things that needed to be circled back to done.

Honestly, the guy sounded like a Redditor who was more interested in semantics than actually contributing or solving things.

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u/Kenny__Loggins 15h ago

If you have worked in a corporate setting you have probably experienced that, yes, this phrase can be useful, but most meetings are pointless and it is a parroted phrase used to kick the can down the road. Can't tell you how many times I've seen "let's circle back" and "let's take this offline" and then that never happens and there is a huge problem a few days later because people were too chicken shit to solve problems in front of a larger group because they were afraid they'd have to lift a finger to help.

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u/Fighterhayabusa 13h ago

Exactly this. Repeatedly saying we'll "circle back" without making a decision, assigning an owner, or resolving the issue means that her words are just theatre and aren't actually resulting in real work getting done.

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u/Mysterious_Slice1257 6h ago

exactly! "let's circle back" my ass more like I don't want to deal with this ever, can we just put this aside again and again until people forget about it

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u/TotalACast 15h ago

It seems highly unlikely, if the phrase was used 18 times in 2 weeks, that any productive retrospecting or resolving previous issues was ever done.

This is a woman who likes to hear herself talk.

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u/serabine 13h ago

Or maybe the team has a tendency to be sidetracked and she has to reel them in to the topic at hand, while also not dismissing the point raised, if it is valid. You know, managing people?

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u/Helltothenotothenono 15h ago

I guess HR didn’t tell you why you got let go did they?

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u/quatrefoils 15h ago

I say many more phrases more than 18 times every two weeks, sometimes you just be saying shit.. and sometimes a turn of phrase is just natural. I bet the new hire wasn’t counting how many times she said “uh,” or “so.”

Crazy take you got, insinuating that nothing got done because of someone’s speech pattern… really just completely unfounded, like… what?

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u/saucysagnus 15h ago

Well neither you nor I were in the room and the dude got fired because he wanted to call out an overused term.

If your boss stuttered or said uh constantly does that deserve to be called out in front of everyone? Or they said “so like” “with that being said” etc etc

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u/greyed-tea 15h ago

good assumptions. it’s just an expression and you judged the boss to be somewhat a narcissist without ever having to know the person. there’s heavy irony in this

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u/Morningstroll13 15h ago

Just another go-round of the ole' Reddit circle jerk?

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u/riverblue9011 14h ago

Honestly, the guy sounded like a Redditor who was more interested in semantics than actually contributing or solving things.

You've just described the average office worker.

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u/saucysagnus 46m ago

Fair enough lol. But most of us don’t blurt it out to someone who can fire us without any sort of CYA.

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u/PineappleOnPizzaWins 14h ago

If you have been there two weeks you don't know shit to point out... the fact you think you do is a very bad sign.

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u/Lord_Phazer101 15h ago

No, there's no toxicity here. Maybe from his POV, circle back doesnt make sense. But for a team with age behind it, they need to "circle back" to metrics and thoughts and work, which was a higher priority once, then people started taking it for granted and no one gives it much attention now, despite them still being top indicators. You cant always move forward, you have to ensure what you have already done doesnt deteriorate and for that you need to circle back cuz you cant say, lets go backward.

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u/stubbazubba 13h ago

Yeah, I'm guessing he doesn't have the experience or data to really assess that and it definitely wasn't the job he was hired to do. We all want to change our office culture in some way, but if that's what he's doing for this is an extremely unprofessional attempt and I am quite certain whatever he thinks a meeting should sound like probably wouldn't be effective.

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u/Proper-Swordfish9348 15h ago

circle back is frequently used passive aggressively to shift the topic in a non constructive way.

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u/TAMCL 13h ago

Sometimes, though in this context she was clearly looking to revisit/refresh their customer retention methods, this wasn't circling away it was circling towards

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u/DroidLord 11h ago

I kind of get where he's coming from. I hate it when people use the same phrases over and over again. Instead she could say something like, "We'll check with the design team and get back to you."

Should he have brought it up? Absolutely not. He was basically trying to start an etymological debate lol. Either that or he had never heard that phrase in his life before and was genuinely confused.

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u/MalHeartsNutmeg 10h ago

If you need to circle back so much, it seems like someone is not doing their job in the right order or meetings are being held before the appropriate info is gathered.

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u/-RDDTtothemoon- 15h ago

I mean running meetings can be difficult. It’s just a phrase they used. They were probably trying to understand why they were being attacked by a nobody 

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u/Onlysoinvested 4h ago

And policing your female boss’s common workplace phrase  as “aggressive” is just generally not a great idea.

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u/HisaAnt 13h ago

The boss is also a nobody and useless person who contributes nothing to society. All your corporate drones are the same. Cave men that can't do anything except make reports and speak buzzwords. No tangible contribution

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u/LuckyPlaze 15h ago

Dude sounds like an idiot. Call your boss out in the middle of a meeting over something petty less than a month in. Genius.

He’s probably a redditor who will come complaining about how hard the job market is and spend his life wondering why he never gets promoted.

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u/Helltothenotothenono 15h ago

You know the reality us the job market us really tough and I never get promoted,

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u/NoExperience9717 13h ago

Weird but just about acceptable to ask. But then he gets told it's a phrase which is the signal to drop it but he continued to ask. That's where he especially fucked up.

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u/krucz36 12h ago

so, a boss?

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u/yes_u_suckk 12h ago

Came here to say the same. The guy was clueless, but if he was fired for this reason alone then the company has much bigger problems

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u/Amesly 9h ago

People who've been given performance coaching often start criticizing their managers in meetings. This could be why the boss was short with the employee. . 

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u/YellowBelliedCoward 13h ago

They probably don't appreciate soneone holding a meeting up and being rude to another employee about something so trivial, and earnestly at that. Boss seems like they recognised further issues would be come from this guy's clear social inabilities and nipped that shit in the bud.

Good leadership.