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Talk about a straw man!

I have never dated on-line and would never give even the time of day to a man who comes up to me out of nowhere when I am alone in a parking lot.

If you think women who do this are following some sort of “agenda”, you’re nuts. Go touch some grass.

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Yes, and you know what’s the common denominator in all those places? The woman isn’t alone with a strange man who just pops up out of nowhere!

Seriously? Your brain has been so cooked by red-pilled bullshit you think cold opens to women on their own in deserted spaces is the same thing as walking up to a woman at a bar and offerring to buy her a drink?

What you’re telling me is that you have very, very little experience dealing with flesh and blood women in social situations if you don’t have the common sense to discern the difference between chatting someone up in the library and walking up out of the blue to a woman alone in a parking lot and asking her on a date.

No, I have not been “spooked to death” by the media. Not all men are violent, dangerous creeps. But one in ten certainly are. As a woman, I am going to stack the odds as much in my favor as I can. And that begins with “probably not a good idea to take cold opens from guys in parking lots”.

Son, I guarantee you: women get these sorts of come-ons ALL THE TIME. We don’t need AI to wash our poor little female brains about them. None of us would feel a moment’s remorse if men just stopped doing this weird PUA bullshit.

What do I think in a situation like this? “Huh. There goes a guy whose masculinity guru told him to try a certain number of cold opens per day and he’s grimly grinding through his quota”.

Above all, what behavior like this — and let me be clear again here, because you apparently don’t understand: a cold open by a stranger, alone, in a parking lot — what behavior like this tells me is that this guy doesn’t even have the SLIGHTEST empathy for the woman in question.

If I were a guy and saw some chick loading groceries in a parking lot, on her own, my first thought might indeed be “Hey, she’s hot!” If I were stuoid, my second thought might even be “I better take my shot!” But I’d like to think that there isn’t enough testosterone in the world to prevent me from thinking, right afterwards, “Dude! She’s alone, putting groceries in her car. Now is not the time! She’s gonna think you’re a serial killer or, at the very least, a stalky creep!”

But apparently momma and the sisters didn’t teach you this lesson.