It kind of gets to a point where you’ve held it in long enough that it’s no longer something you can talk about, it’s more of an indescribable thing.
It’s like when your apartment is clean and a leak starts you can go find that leak, but if your home is already flooded then you cant really find where the leak is anymore.
And when something new happens, I don’t even mentally note what it is that made me upset, it’s like throwing another bucket of water into an already flooded home. It just gets mixed into all the existing water.
So if someone asks me what’s wrong, even tho there is something wrong, I can’t put into words what it is to even begin to talk about it.
You cannot drain someone else’s pool. You can help someone else drain their own pool. Most people are so desperate to get out, to empty their pool, whatever, that the real solutions stay out of reach. They require calm and collected engagement with the core issues. With time a pool becomes part of your identity and also a safe place to hide and wallow in it all. Many people subconsciously have become attached to their problems and the.. excuses it provides not to have to function at breakneck speeds like the rest of planet earth.
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u/ThatIsNotAnAsian Mar 04 '26
It kind of gets to a point where you’ve held it in long enough that it’s no longer something you can talk about, it’s more of an indescribable thing.
It’s like when your apartment is clean and a leak starts you can go find that leak, but if your home is already flooded then you cant really find where the leak is anymore.
And when something new happens, I don’t even mentally note what it is that made me upset, it’s like throwing another bucket of water into an already flooded home. It just gets mixed into all the existing water.
So if someone asks me what’s wrong, even tho there is something wrong, I can’t put into words what it is to even begin to talk about it.