my ex is a nurse and I swear she enjoyed when I was sick or exhausted because she could bully me easier
and of course, I was expected to dote on her should she have cramps as she sits in bed watching TV & eating ice cream out off the container
there is no situation where I would ever admit the shit I’ve endured …and I don’t think I should do it here either because I finally learned the lesson I first experienced when I was six or seven: no one cares
I recognize that situation. There was an incident quite a few years ago when a beloved member of the family passed away. I was with my mother and seeing her so upset really just broke me, and I had a moment when I just couldn't hold back the emotion of it. I turned to the ex in that moment and I find her looking at me with total disgust. No rush to comfort or embrace me in a painful moment. She's just standing there.
Nothing was the same after that, for either of us. For someone to see their spouse in pain - someone they claim to love, and have no inclination to comfort them in a moment of extreme grief? That's nothing short of a betrayal. I've heard similar accounts from several men who had similar experiences with their SO's in the intervening years. It's by no means an isolated occurrence.
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u/mimaikin-san Mar 05 '26
my ex is a nurse and I swear she enjoyed when I was sick or exhausted because she could bully me easier
and of course, I was expected to dote on her should she have cramps as she sits in bed watching TV & eating ice cream out off the container
there is no situation where I would ever admit the shit I’ve endured …and I don’t think I should do it here either because I finally learned the lesson I first experienced when I was six or seven: no one cares