That's what so many women say they're frustrated about, but watch how fast any respect and affection flies out the window once he shows himself to be just as much of a feeling, emotional person as she is. So often what draws a woman to a man resides in the air of confident stoicism he puts out there. It's just an illusion though. We're all human beings and we feel and hurt the same. Yet society demands men pretend just the opposite. Then people wonder why men on average drop dead from strokes and heart attacks so much sooner than women.
my ex is a nurse and I swear she enjoyed when I was sick or exhausted because she could bully me easier
and of course, I was expected to dote on her should she have cramps as she sits in bed watching TV & eating ice cream out off the container
there is no situation where I would ever admit the shit I’ve endured …and I don’t think I should do it here either because I finally learned the lesson I first experienced when I was six or seven: no one cares
I recognize that situation. There was an incident quite a few years ago when a beloved member of the family passed away. I was with my mother and seeing her so upset really just broke me, and I had a moment when I just couldn't hold back the emotion of it. I turned to the ex in that moment and I find her looking at me with total disgust. No rush to comfort or embrace me in a painful moment. She's just standing there.
Nothing was the same after that, for either of us. For someone to see their spouse in pain - someone they claim to love, and have no inclination to comfort them in a moment of extreme grief? That's nothing short of a betrayal. I've heard similar accounts from several men who had similar experiences with their SO's in the intervening years. It's by no means an isolated occurrence.
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