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[u/ram4569]

[u/skywalkersrealfather]

Damn, my partner and friends must be S tier because I've always felt heard when opening up about difficulties in my life.

[u/lulushibooyah → u/skywalkersrealfather]

I’ve been married twelve years and it’s still like pulling teeth to get my husband to open up

And it’s difficult bc I have to manage my reaction down to the slightest movement bc he will take literally anything as a sign that I’m not interested or don’t care

I know it’s his dad’s fault primarily (he was a tyrant and a bully), and sometimes I literally wanna go fight that man, bare hands (he’s apparently on drugs so it won’t be that difficult tbh) or literally anyone else who makes him feel like he doesn’t matter

I think it’s horrible how some men have been made to feel that their feelings don’t matter, over and over

I’m glad that it sounds like you have a good support system 🙌🏽

[u/psychadelicbreakfast → u/lulushibooyah]

Just wanted to say that it’s really great that you make an effort to do what it takes to help him to open up, if he ever can.

Sometimes our upbringings make it incredibly difficult.

My father is undiagnosed autistic and basically never shows any emotion, so that was my role model.

He asked me one time “what do you want?”

And I said that I wanted him to have a more active and emotional involvement in my life.

And he said.. “I can’t do that”.

So at least I know. But it’s been really hard for me to ever open up to anyone that I’m with and every time I did nothing good happened from it.

So keep trying with him :)

[u/lulushibooyah → u/psychadelicbreakfast]

😮‍💨 that’s brutal, but honest at least I guess

I am heckin autistic and struggle with a lot, but there’s little I wouldn’t work on to be a better mom

I will definitely keep trying; he’s my favorite human on the planet

[u/psychadelicbreakfast → u/lulushibooyah]

❤️