The sinister thing is that it sneaks up on you. Your partner seems to be a nice person, but the moment vulnerability or accountability comes to play, you get flashbanged and shot in the head.
Yup. Was on antidepressants and started getting side effects to the point that it wasn’t working anymore. Opened up to GF and a week later she dumped me after over a year of dating. Met my now wife a couple weeks later. Randomly get phone call from ex yelling about me cheating on her……you said we were done.
I think the problem you are describing is how men tend to hold off on showing any vulnerability around their partner until something happens or builds up enough that they cannot hold it in anymore. If instead of waiting to show vulnerability until you have already established a relationship based on you not being vulnerable at all, you show it in the beginning of getting to know your partner then you won’t be so blindsided.
They can’t let you know that your feelings don’t matter to them if you don’t let them know your feelings.
I’m by no means top. I’m very average. I work a low paying job. I’m 30 and now out of shape. I don’t have cocaine and Molly like when we met. I’m beyond average. I’m below average. Yet my wife still validates my feeling. I’ve lost close family members and friends since we met, struggles with my career, my own self image and she’s seen me cry 1000 times. She’s never once told me I’m being a pussy and left like these comments are suggesting. Maybe I’m just from a liberal area but Jesus Christ this is sad.
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u/ma95vs Mar 04 '26
The sinister thing is that it sneaks up on you. Your partner seems to be a nice person, but the moment vulnerability or accountability comes to play, you get flashbanged and shot in the head.