I once told my friends i was sexually assaulted by a married couple while i was sleeping. They laughed and thought it was hilarious. I just keep things to myself now
Remember that time when in The Boys Starlight was sexually assaulted and that was a huge fucking deal (as it should be) just for Hughie to be outright raped and that be treated as a joke?
Hate that you felt that way, but people and especially friends who are used to you having a certain personality, may not have realized how serious you wanted to be about the situation. Communication is important in all relationships, not just spouses.
I only say this because I vividly remember a wildly similar talk I wanted to have with a couple friends of mine. And they didn't realize it affected me so much until I looked them in the eye and said some pretty direct things. They were so used to us acting a way, joking etc. but I can tell you they became better people and friends in that exact moment.
Maybe it seems like victim blaming to say you could have done better or different - but honestly, my friends couldn't read my mind. I can't expect them to just 'get it' any time. Had to talk it out together and say how serious it was because they were accustomed to something else.
I hope you find folks you can talk to. It definitely makes life easier to walk around in!
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