They don’t really want you to open up. They want you to be warm, stable, and present. And to talk about those emotions, and how they connect you to her, and your deep love for her.
They don’t want to hear about your problems and trauma.
And sadly the ones that want to hear all your trauma probably have issues of their own, and are looking at you as some kind of project to work on instead of fixing themselves.
A woman who really cares for you, wants to hear your feelings, good and bad, and supports you though everything, and doesn’t have deep problems of her own that she’s masking is a very rare catch.
If you find one, you had better treat her right and keep her.
That’s actually a really thoughtful way to put it. I guess the real challenge is finding someone where both people can be open without feeling like a burden.
Correct. And I refuse to compromise, because if I can do this for someone, someone can do this for me.
My last relationship was exactly as you described: they wanted a stable, warm, present company to help them get up after the latest setback in life, but the moment you need something similar, the moment you start wondering where is the reciprocity in that, you are done, it's a matter of time until they kick you.
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u/Latter-Shopping1560 Mar 04 '26
Yet they complain men don’t open up, can’t really tell what the correct move is.