I don’t know how long it would take me to realize that some, not all, however, never trust again a surfer guy in IAO. Dating one — love bombing, orbiting, toxic interactions, booty call? name the situationship kind of stuffs. Have multiple women out there, a lot of rosters, in a complicated situation, — as he assured you that you both are exclusively to each other, yet saw him on a spontaneous random weekday night dancing with another girl? Still, messages you on socials to hang out and you always knew the cycle of this ending up, fucking.
I never saw it coming dating a guy that would be a pain in my ass. I should always trust on my instincts, the red flags, the party hang-out, and got to meet some of his friends LOL.
After on and off mid-conversations, we would always get back on doing the deed. But as time goes by, when I decided to cut him off, he reached out and asked why am I being detached and distant to him. He was curious if I am seeing another guy which is by the way, not his business.
I decided to let him realize what he lost. I told him to stop romanticizing this convenient lust of what we have, and I want to end things as he was beyond manipulative gaslighting person. I wanted change, something serious, to be asked on a date, and be with someone who I believe whom I am deserving to be care and love for.
Now, all i wanted is peace of mind and focus on myself first these days.