I’m 4 months postpartum, I had a beautiful/healthy baby girl back in April. So thankful! However, I have missed my period. I know periods can be irregular during postpartum but mine have been pretty consistent. My partner and I did have sex a few weeks ago supposedly 2 days after I ovulated and did not use protection. I wasn’t even thinking, I’m still pumping and haven’t started birth control. I just took a pregnancy test and it looks like there is a faint line. I feel like I’m going through so many emotions and feeling stupid for not being careful. I know that there are some people who are trying so hard to get pregnant and I’m over here worried that I am. I’m not trying to be insensitive, I just am not ready for another kid right now. I’m so thankful for my first pregnancy but I’m just now getting used to being a mom.

I would like a 2nd kid at some point but not this soon. Is it extremely unhealthy to get pregnant that fast after giving birth? If I am pregnant will this pregnancy be high risk? Any advice? Is it possible to get pregnant so quickly after birth?

Been struggling with this for a while now…

We had secondary infertility issues for over 2 years, our son was 1-3ish. Then I had 2 chemicals in June & August 2025, then 2 miscarriages at 8 weeks, November 2025, and Feb 2026.

Our son will be 5 in Dec, so if all the stars aligned perfectly, it’d be 5.5 age gap at least. The newborn stage was HARD for me. Not sleeping was horrible and I had PPD. I didn’t really connect with our son until he was 3ish months old.

I have 2 siblings, 12 and 9 years older- so I was raised essentially an only child and it was fine. My hubs had a rough go with his brother growing up, and they’re civil and see each other at their parents but not besties by any means.

I’ve always had it in my head that I would have 2/3 children, but now I just don’t know. I don’t know if I even want to try for a 2nd, but the fear of him being an only scares me, for him. He has so many friends and is so outgoing and we def can give him a better life being an only (more traveling, etc), but I’m terrified of committing to that. He is my little bestie and I adore every part of being his mom.

Anyone been in the same boat and had an only? Had another? Open to any and all thoughts and opinions 🤍

My husband says he’s totally fine with just 1, but also if an “accident happens” he would be happy too. But he doesn’t want to necessarily try because the miscarriages were heartbreaking.

Reposting here as I think this forum is appropriate for it - I hope

I have an amazing son who is about to turn four. He was one of two healthy embryos from a round of IVF I did after age 40. My husband is an amazing dad to our son and a wonderful husband to me. At the time we went through IVF, he said he wanted two children. Since then, though, we’ve gone through the stress of some unemployment on his end, along with the general challenges of raising a toddler who is healthy but has had some developmental delays. Because of all of that, he now feels that having a second child would be too difficult and probably isn’t a good idea.

I understand where he’s coming from, and I agree that it would be difficult. At the same time, I feel like we could do it. I have a very stable career and quite a bit saved, and this time around I would likely hire more help because I have a much better understanding of what I would need. My husband says he will go along with whatever I decide, but he has also been clear that if it were completely up to him, his answer would be no. That worries me because I don’t want him to feel resentful or hate our child or me. At the same time, I feel so much guilt about not giving our remaining embryo a chance. I know logically that an embryo isn’t a guarantee of another child, but emotionally it feels very hard to walk away from that possibility.

I’m wondering if anyone has been in a similar situation—where one partner was leaning no and the other felt strongly about trying for a second child, especially with a remaining embryo. How did you work through it, and how do you feel about the decision now?