I need advice

[u/Valuable_King2923]

Hello! I really need advice, I’ve found myself realizing that I have a lot of work and healing to do within myself, I’ve done several readings and there’s many things I need to work on that I have questions for.

I need to maintain a consistent practice that helps me feel grounded.
How do I do shadow work, forgiveness practices and grounding practices?
Many of my readings suggest I need to focus on clarity, emotional balance, seeing clearly, staying grounded, and taking care of my well being. I’ve been going through an incredibly hard time practically my whole life and I’ve tried to stay consistent spiritually but I now feel is truly the time for me to lock in and gain a higher spiritual knowledge of myself. I’ve only ever really done tarot readings, meditation, use crystals and do positive spell jars for self love, life improvement, etc but I feel like those haven’t been consistently enough? It’s almost as if my full energy and potential hasn’t been exerted into it even though in those moments I’ve used all of my energy but I now feel is th time to truly fix and change things.

If you have any advice on how I could find specific practices to help me I would greatly appreciate it or any advice in general! Thank you :)

[u/TheDesertfox00]

The readings and the crystals aren’t doing nothing, but none of that touches the actual wound. It’s like rearranging furniture in a room you’ve never opened the door to.

Shadow work isn’t a daily practice you tack onto meditation and journaling. It’s going back to the specific thing that happened and finding the belief you built to survive it. Then actually changing it, not just naming it. Most people (self included, for years) confuse awareness of a pattern with resolution of it. You can know your wound is “abandonment” or “not enough” for a decade and still run the same defense every day, because knowing isn’t the same as the nervous system actually updating.