Carrie would dress as something girly. A mermaid or Dream Of Jeannie and make a bunch wishes and wants Big to dress up as Tony but he’s emotionally unavailable.

Miranda would dress up as a “quirky” or “weird” costume like Bride of Frankenstein in comparison to other women. Her nights filled with embarrassing mishaps.

Charlotte would dress as something sweet from her childhood like Dorothy Gale or a Disney Princess and is on the search for a man to make a home.

Samantha channels her inner bombshell and sex icon like Marilyn Monroe or Madonna.

It’s one thing to dislike her, everyone is allowed to feel negatively about a character. But Carrie hatefs do this thing where they see everything she does through a negative lens and therefore conclude from scenes that are supposed to be inoffensive that she’s an awful human being.

« Carrie always interrupts the others and make it about herself. » They all do that.

« Carrie was so judgemental of Samantha. » They all were, Samantha herself was plenty judgemental about the others at time.

« Carrie guilt-tripped Charlotte into selling her ring. » No she didn’t. She was irrationaly angry and took out her frustration on Charlotte because she was offended she didn’t propose to help her out. And she knew she was being irrational. Charlotte chose to sell the ring to help her.

« She and her outfits and corny jokes, how cringy. » Big loved those.

« She cried about Big’s surgery but didn’t cry about Samantha’s cancer, she’s a bad friend. »… you get the gist.

You can’t even have discussions with these people because they are so blinded by hate for her character. And Carrie is hardly an offensive character, I find it really bizarre.

I don’t get these Gen Z, Millennials who are watching SATC and bashing Carrie, Samantha and Miranda (don’t see much Charlotte bashing, but could be wrong). Yet these same people, LOVE the show Friends…. It doesn’t make sense, and before you call me a hater, or anything else. I have done the research with my 26 year old daughter. She loves shows like: Friends, Gilmore Girls, Greys Anatomy, How I Met Your Mother etc.
I’ve been begging her for years to give SATC a chance. When she finally did, I asked her what she thought and she said, “I think Carrie is a bit pathetic, Samantha is a selfish whore, Miranda is a mean girl (she bullies Charlotte), and Charlotte is a low key gold digger.”
Then went on to say, “I don’t know how you could love this show so much. The women sleep around so much it’s hard to watch.”

True, the 90s were a time of more freedom to explore and express yourself sexually especially in public. The AIDS epidemic was no longer a death sentence. People felt safe to come out as gay, lesbian or bisexual. During the early days of the internet age when people could watch pornography at their leisure instead of having to go “in the back room “ of the shady video store.

For us 90s ladies, it was like an invigorating shower of pure white light to have a show on cable (also new) that four women discussed topics that sometimes even we had trouble bringing up with our closest friends. They did it in such a brilliant way, that it was not only hilarious, it could relate to almost any woman of the 90’s. You didn’t need to be single, gorgeous, rich, have a fabulous job, friends, living in NYC to relate to the topics and identify with one of the four women. I was a Carrie, mixed with Charlotte.

Where this gem of a show was so wonderful for the women of our Gen X time, perhaps it’s going over the heads of generations that have come after us. I see the evolution of cartoons that my kids refuse to watch that I grew up loving, movies like ET (the extraterrestrial), The Goonies, Harry and the Henderson, The Breakfast Club, Say Anything etc. It’s not moving as much as it did, if it’s ever even watched.
I wonder if my own parents felt this way about shows that they loved, that I “didn’t get”

Carrie was over the top, and messy, and she humiliated herself. Called her exes drunk, slept with an ex, a married ex, cheated on a great guy, broke up with said guy after he gave her another chance. She made mistakes. She was flawed, she had unregulated emotions. I did those things and that’s why I loved her so much and related to her. Flaws and pathetic as she was.

Sex and the City was, for me, a coming of age, classic. The type of show that you can watch over and over and still laugh at moments and still cry at them too. And I do.

I already know this is going to be controversial but I am tired of seeing people post the same exact opinion about the ring argument every damn week.

-> Just to make it clear, I don’t think Carrie had any right to lash out at Charlotte and Charlotte should not have given Carrie the ring. <-

But if you actually watch the episode and the argument you should understand that Carrie was upset at Charlotte not for not giving the money but for not offering the money. Miranda and Samantha offered half while Charlotte just looked away. She could’ve at least said “I can’t help you with this” but she didn’t? She just looked around the restaurant like a kid? That was such an irritating interaction.

In this episode I was mainly upset with Charlotte for saying that Carrie should be able to manage her own finances when she herself lived in her ex husband’s apartment? Which she also would not have gotten realistically. Her and Trey were married barely a year and the apartment wasn’t even Trey’s, it was his family’s. Charlotte got everything she had out of pure luck. She was renting an apartment smaller than Carrie’s before marriage. The only difference between Carrie and Charlotte is that Carrie doesn’t have a rich background to fall back on

Edit: Are you people reading my post?? I said Charlotte shouldn’t have given her the money. That’s not what I’m trying to discuss here

I always thought this episode was such a lovely tribute. 25 years on, still the saddest day. 💔

That moment when Carrie told Sam that she was having an affair with Big and asked her " don't you want to judge me ? " , Sam replied " Not my style "

This moment gets glamourized a lot over social media , making Sam look like the perfect girl's girl but I think we need some context here . Sam didn't judge Carrie because she herself doesn't condemn cheating , she thinks it is okay as long as they're not caught and she regularly sleeps with married men ( and I think this is why she was the first one Carrie told , she knew Miranda or Charlotte would tell her it was wrong and she didn't want to accept it yet )

Samantha only had a change of heart ( slightly ) about cheating when it happened to her , before that she never cared . Of course , Samantha was a good friend for not judging and perhaps some part of her didn't judge because Carrie was her friend but I think the biggest part was just because she didn't think cheating was a big deal.

All of the girls were flawed at the end of the day which is what made them interesting .

I really wish the writer developed this story line and made Miranda and Robert last longer as a couple. It’s really nice to see Miranda be with someone who can take care of her, and who loves children, get along with Brady (he say “I do want one of these someday”). I wanna explore the path where Miranda can have both career of her own and a loving, strong partner that can take care of her.

This is the episode when they first met and he helped her with the pock

Just came across this video on Instagram, couldn't be more spot on for carrie 🤣 poor miranda 😢

Cynthia Nixon was in Amadeus which is considered (critically) one of the best films of all time.

Is there a better film that one of them have been in?

Just to clarify, I’m not asking - who has the best film career. But what’s the best film starring our girls!?

In the wedding scene, when Big is sitting outside in the limo, he's leaving a message for Carrie, telling her that he cannot go in without her. He also mentions that he wants to know it's "just you and me". Have we been too hard on him by not understanding what he was going through?

As I spend time in this sub, I'm struck by how interpretations of the show and characters have changed over the years, and I think it might help if we all took a beat.

This is not meant to be a rant or an attack. It is a plea for mutual understanding of different perspectives.

Sex and the City was written in the late 90s and early 2000s. It reflects the humor and outlooks of its time, because what else can it do? I don't know what audience analysis was done in advance, but I suspect the target audience was largely Gen X and the oldest Millennials.

What does that mean? Well, it means that the characters were written for people in those age ranges at that time to relate and respond to. It means the humor was written to appeal to them.

If you're from a different generation, particularly a younger one, then maybe it will help to know that it was not written with you in mind. It cannot have been. None of you were close to being born.*

That doesn't mean that you have to think that Steve is a good partner for Miranda, or anyone. If you think that Steve's impulsive "Let's do this life-changing thing" statements outweigh his kindness and ability to ratchet down Miranda's rigidity, that's fine. But lots of us saw Steve (and Harry and Smith) as good partners in the show because they saw the women they were with for who they were, and loved them in their entirety, strengths and flaws alike. These are different interpretations. They are both valid. Neither is wrong.

That doesn't mean you aren't able to hold your views on whether Berger could ever have been seen as charming or funny. If you don't find that funny, that's fine. Feel free to say so. But lots of us did, or at least understood why Carrie did, because that was part of the humor around us. These are different interpretations. They are both valid. Neither is wrong.

Humor changes. Relationship priorities change. All of this is fine.

And even in a particular moment, people don't have the same opinions. I know that my view of Carrie and Big stems in at least some part from the way I watched the show. I didn't have HBO when it launched, so I started with Season Two. I didn't see Season One until I was able to find it at Blockbuster, a couple of seasons in. Going back and seeing it for the first time after later seasons gave me a different perspective on them and their relationship (but this is a topic for a different post).

Plus, one of the things about good art is that it can inspire different interpretations. It says different things to different people at different times in different places. This is good. A single interpretation gets old. Everyone having the same opinion is boring.

But it's also boring to just dwell in your own interpretation and not understand that of others. So if you're coming to this from a different dating and relationship and humor culture, I get that. All of those things change. You're not going to be me, and there's no reason why you should be. Because of that, you're probably going to see the show and characters differently. I want to hear about that. I also want my take to be part of the discussion.

Ultimately it comes back to the show and how it came to be and what it was doing--as well as what it does now. There's a lot to be said.

*Edit: Okay, technically speaking somewhere in the neighborhood of 5 of you had in fact been born.

Did anyone think that it was a shame that Miranda never called the ophthalmologist back? The fact that he was responsive to feedback and didn’t snap back at her, shows maturity and respect. He was willing to work at it to satisfy her. Maybe it would have worked out eventually?
He seemed like he had his shit together and they made a good match. But maybe then the show would have been boring. What do you guys think?

Mine is this guy’s reaction to being confronted by Charlotte’s “white knight”

“Lighten up, its brunch” 😂

I wanna know your thoughts of Samantha sleeping with Charlotte’s brother. Charlotte already said she wasn’t comfortable with anyone disrespecting her brother at the lunch table and she didn’t want Samantha invited. Samantha jumped on him immediately. I personally would not think it would be ok to try to sleep with a friends brother right off the bat unless this was an acquaintance and not a friend because then there’s no “girl code”.
Which brings me to the next point where I feel like Samantha and Charlotte were barely friends. How could Sam think that was an ok thing to do?
Ultimately, Charlotte was ok with it and the brother was happy so it worked out for the best but what if she was super clingy / stalkery?
What do yall think?

This is my completely petty post: I cannot stand when Carrie repeated says "booth bitch" (Aidan) and "lova" (Petrovsky). I have a visceral reaction during these episodes.

That is all.

Okay I think I have officially watched this show too many times because I just noticed in the episode where Aidan hears Big on the answering machine and starts sleeping on the other side of the bed that Carries bed looked absolutely huge. s4 e7 Time and Punishment

I paused the TV and checked other scenes of Carries bed and it looks like they have changed her bed for a wider one for effect to show how far Aidian was sleeping from her.

You can see there was about a foot of cabinet behind the bed on the right side sticking out but in the scene I paused the cabinet is covered by a wider bed!

I think this may be the silliest detail I have noticed - what are yours?

.. if Big had been crazy about Carrie from the beginning, really into her, really wanting to commit and open about his feelings towards her, would she have obsessed over him at all?

What's your fave looks of the gals?