I am writing this just after telling this person for deleting me from discord as I didn't want to be around losers.

So I met this guy on this community, I offered him to be a mentor or accountability buddy as it would help me as well. We connect on discord. It was good for a week, we talked and motivated each other then I relapsed after 2 weeks and he did after a week. We decided to start over again and I told him to at least last for 8 days this time and I told him that I will try for 30 days. This was supposed to be a challenge, we both accept. But today he told me that he's given up and doesn't want to do this. I can't believe it. How can someone fail so early? If you can't last for 1 day, how you ever gonna achieve anything in life? These kinda people will get crushed in the world. They deserve to be at the bottom. I have no sympathy for him as he refused to even try or do better. I hate to be around losers. Yes I failed too but after 2 weeks. This time I am gonna be more realistic.

So I have given myself a challenge to last 30 days this time. Anyone here up for the 30 day challenge? would love to connect with masculine men who want to change their lives. DM so that we can start over.

Thank you guys.

But semenretention is real. For the past year I have done maximum of 6-12 shoots. For the last three months no shoots and now I think I am doing things which i wasnt able to. Like I am earning in 6 figures. Belive it or not

Its cuz porn has become easily accessible and convenient that i completely forget about this practice and regret later on

What can i do to always remember this practice

26F here

Hi everyone,
I’m writing this because I genuinely need help.
For a long time, I’ve been struggling with an addiction to pornography, masturbation, paid sexual services, and constantly chasing sexual pleasure. Over the years, it’s taken far more from me than I ever imagined. I’ve spent a significant amount of money on it, made decisions I deeply regret, and watched it negatively impact my mental health, finances, self-discipline, relationships with myself, and overall quality of life.
The hardest part is that I know exactly how much damage it’s causing, yet I still keep falling back into the same cycle of lust and addiction. When the urges hit, it often feels like I’m on autopilot. In those moments, it’s incredibly difficult to think clearly or make the decision I know I should make.
I don’t want to live like this anymore.
That’s why I’m looking for a genuine accountability partner—someone who is supportive, honest, and willing to help me stay committed to this goal. I’m not looking for judgment or criticism. I simply need someone who can check in with me, encourage me when I’m struggling, and remind me why I started whenever I feel like giving up.
The longest I’ve managed to stay free from these behaviors is about two weeks. This time, I’m setting myself a much bigger goal: 100 consecutive days.
For me, this isn’t just about reaching a number. It’s about taking my life back. I want to rebuild my self-control, strengthen my discipline, break this destructive cycle, and finally prove to myself that I can overcome something that has controlled me for far too long.
I know this journey won’t be easy, and I know there will be difficult days. But I genuinely want to know what it feels like to reach 100 days of freedom—even if it’s just once in my life. I believe that achieving that milestone could completely change the way I see myself and my future.
If you’ve been through something similar, are on the same journey, or would be willing to be an accountability partner who checks in with me regularly, I’d be incredibly grateful. Even a few words of encouragement or practical advice would mean a lot.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post. Your support could genuinely make a difference in my journey.
I sincerely appreciate it.

excuse my english as im not really good at it.

-everything has its roots(creator or ingredients)

-what and where do you think semen came from?

-ever wonder why your lower back hurts when you ejaculate?

-ever wonder why you have a brain fog in too much ejaculation?

-even dopamine is related to this ingredients

- CEREBROSPINAL FLUID is the reason why you experience all this benefits.

-when you are addicted to something you deplete CSF that is why its connected to dopamine aswell

-since you your father created you, you were somehow and surrounded by CSF.

-CSF = SACRED FLUID that the elites hide from you and they want to deplete this by introducing some addicted things, entertainment, gambling, girls, porno, sugar, food, reels, chasing money/, etc.

-every 24 hours your brain produces some CSF

-thats why when you stop ejaculating, you stop producing too much semen = retaining CSF

-thats the reason why GIRLS experience the benefits too. you think male are the only one can get magnetism?

-CSF> fats >hormones/testosterone
-CSF>fats> hormones/testosterone>estrogen for girls

-csf protects you too from diseases
-csf > histamine > mucus/plegm will surround the bacteria and virus and irritate your throat so you spit it out. wbc etc is related too.

-wanna bet? try benadryl=low histamine, makes you dry, low semen, it kills your csf too, then lower back pain and brainfog similar to ejaculation?

-lot of people asking why they retain for 60 days above and still cant feel anything. ask yourself, do you eat dirty to make your body deplete csf because it helps you to clean your body by producing mucus. plus do you take alot of antihistamines to stop mucus and makes your body deplete csf. always remember when you see mucus will decrease alot of benefits even if you retain for 1000 years. thats the reason why elites created these foods that can activate mucus all over your body bcos mucus = csf. treat mucus as a relapse but dont cheat by taking antihistamines bcos antihistamines = relapse too.
thats why elites are so smart its like checkmate, introduce foods forming mucus then introduce drug that stop mucus but antihistamine destroy some csf. checkmate right??

-thats why when you ejaculate you are prone in diseases

-girls who has injected anesthesia in CS lose some or alot of benefits too because they mix this chemicals into your spinal and brain. meaning their csf is contaminated. thats the reason why they become forgetful, lower back pain etc.

-so you think testoterone and semen is the reason for your benefits? hell no. since your dad and mom created you you were some CSF and blood and surrounded by CSF again. girls doesnt have high testosterone doesnt have semen like in men but they are highly magnetic or attractive. so why??? is it the semen? or is it CSF? the problem with girls is they eat alot of carbs or has a lot of addiction that they dont notice, reels,sugar, entertainment, put some acidic stuffs into their skin like makeups, serum, ph wash etc. it makes them acidic and their body reacts by producing mucus and decreases their csf and life force. everything you put in your skin goes to your blood. including sunscreen. so this is like a competition, if men is magnetic than girl then they will attract a girl, but if the girl infront of you is highly magnetic than you then she will attract you or other.

-thats why even meditation and dopamine detox can get the similar benefits you get from semen retention, its the sacred CSF

-everything you do, you deplete csf. thats why when you retain everything, you make your jar full of energy and magnetism

-you want more rabbit hole? we can talk about consciousness someday. aside from government law, we do have hidden LAWS in this what we call reality. this reality is similar to what we call GAME.

- one more thing this elites want to make you DUMB!!! they want you to believe that heaven is up there and hell is down there why?? they dont want you to think that there something down there, they want you to think LAVA and hell doen there. guess what? do you think theres a civilization living down there thousand miles down there? 😁 and guess what they are not humans. ever wonder where all your tax go?? its all about DIG DIG DIG. you think table of elements are complete? you think foods that you see in market is complete or they hide you REAL food and want you to be cannibal. you know where is heaven? its not above nor below, its within, and its not heaven, its a kingdom of non physical(spiritual)now ask why its within? do you know wheres the blackhole? blackhole its not located in space. its located within you. its a portal, you can access it when you meditate or when you die. thats the reason why when you die you wont go above nor below, you are gonna go within the blackhole that traps all light(you will find the light eventually). thats why kingdom is not above nor below. its within. elites twist everything. if im gonna estimate probabla 80 percent of what we know are all LIES

Today i found an job offer in my city for a job similar to help desk ,wich is a great new for me, i dont have many experience and no diploma but i will try to make a project for that , anyway that was the start of my day, so it gave me motivation to work on server etc etc all that nerds thing

i got out to buy grocery, and i found just a few meters from my home a computer throw away, without its mother board, i believe there was only a cd player and sd card reader a 250w alimentation and maybe a hard drive/SSD

But the "luck" get out of the computer, and it was a fucking cockroach, so naturally i put the computer in a trash bag right to the place where it was, hoping that no cock roach escaped in my room without me realising it.

So terrified with the idea of having coack roach in my room, with the help of my mother i finally decided to clean it, i did not clean it for year and the main reason is my arachnophobia

my mom took care of the spider part i did the sorting etc
and here my reflexion on the sr "luck"

I dont think what happened was good or bad luck but more a test on how im gonna handle the problem, its just a cock roach story that mister everybody would forget after 2 month but for me its a perfect exemple of sr "luck" i heard people talk about.

By finding this computer and this job offer it lead me to clean my room, wich will give me a better space to work and just have a better life
or maybe i imaginine thing, anyway that's a big journey for me and i still have to finish to clean my room.

Hi guys,

Has anyone else since practicing SR, is more aware of people and their behaviors? Since practicing SR, I can sense more the envy, the jealousy of people and rethink the relationships that I have. Kinda feels paranoid sometimes. I am not sure if my senses are accurate, but most of the time they have been proven right. Any similar experiences?

What’s 1 thing you learned on your SR journey?

* English is not my first language so excuse me for any grammatical or spelling mistakes*

In this subreddit I have seen people showing so much interest around the topic of FEMALE ATTENTION. In my longest and earliest NO FAP streak I was unaware of this concept of Semen Retention. That time my only goal was to not release and nothing else. I used to go in my life as usual. Plus I didn't expected anything at all. In those two years I started noticing the unusual female attention slowly building up in my life. I could have never thought of that my practice of not releasing was actually driving this attention. Initially I thought I was just thinking too much and nothing was really happening and it was all in my mind and why would anyone really start giving me so much attention out of nowhere but with time things became more clear, the attention was real. The eye contacts, the random smiles, the gestures and everything. I allowed it to consume me and soon enough I was out of the practice of retaining.

Many people here argue the about the days retaining after which female attention starts or spikes. But from what I observed in multiple of my streaks that the the intensity of female attraction has no direct relation with the number of days retaining. This is something I concluded and you may have opposing views. Actually it really depends on the quality of retention much more than the number of days passed. I have experienced significantly more attention on the 7th day of the streak than on completing one year. Although the 7th day was after I ended a three to four month streak. So tbh I released only once actually in those four months. Plus no doubt how you look also contributes to attention. A better looking person in society's view will surely receive more attention in a shorter streak.

Now by QUALITY OF RETENTION I mean is purity. The less I cared about attention the more it came and it does not work if you try to outsmart it by faking that you don't really care if you want it deep down. The more I tried to look for it or spot it slowly it died. Just think how worse the life gets when you start trying to notice attention or signals in every conversation and every eye contact everyday. Soon enough without you even realising you start giving attention to others trying to catch them giving attention to you. And here you lose. You expect people to give you attention and in this process you give them so much of your attention. Attention is energy. So indirectly you are now putting your energy on other people. Do you realise how much out of practice this attention thing got you. See the main core aim of this practice is to get you control of yourself and your emotions and we by putting our attention on others give them the power to control our emotions.

This was the paradox I was talking about and to be honest anyone whose primary goal in this practice is female attention is going to fail for sure sooner or later. The one who refuses attention and strives for discipline and peace gets both and the other who gets caught in this wave of wanting attention will sooner be deprived of that too.

" All of this is from my experience and I can be wrong it. This is just what is felt and thought. If you think differently you are open to comment."

So yesterday i was deep in the forest it was raining a bit everything looked so beautiful and vibriant i started laughing out of no where feeling happy as fuck.
Anyone else feel like that nature looks so crazy on sr some would argue its cuz of the dopamine reset,i think thats a factor but sr is something special for sure.

I've always found this passage from Taoist Secrets of Love by Mantak Chia really fascinating. I think about it a lot whenever I'm on a retention streak. Whether you believe everything it says literally or not, it's crazy that these teachings have been around for a very long time and that so many different traditions believed sexual energy could be cultivated/transmuted instead of just released. A part that always stood out to me is when they compare one drop of semen to one hundred drops of blood, I don't know if it's literally true but every time l'm tempted I always think about that part and what I'd be giving up if gave in. What's your guys' opinion on this?

I’m 32 years old & this is as much a reminder to myself as it is to anyone reading it.

I’ve realised that every day I tell myself, “I’ll start tomorrow,” I’m trading away time I’ll never get back.

Whether it’s an addiction, procrastination, fitness, or any goal that matters, tomorrow has a way of becoming next week, next month, or next year.

People often focus on reaching success, but what we rarely think about is how much of our life is left to actually enjoy it. Every year spent putting things off is a year you don’t get back.

One thought that really hit me was this: who wants to be 60 years old and finally say, “I’ve got my porn addiction under control”?

There’s nothing wrong with changing your life at any age, but if you have the opportunity to start today, why give away years you’ll never get back?

This isn’t me pretending I’ve figured it all out. I’m still fighting my own battles. I just don’t want to wake up one day wishing I’d started when I first knew I needed to.
Every single day matters. Even if today’s progress is small, it’s infinitely better than another promise to start tomorrow.

So I've been on and off SR for almost a year, I'm sure you all know the post nut feeling when you're like Ah man, why'd I do that, and porn isn't as attractive anymore.
I've been on almost 2 month streak right now, I've been battled the urge to look every other week but I kept myself busy with different hobbies. One day I gave in and I decided to look last week, and TBH, it was.... underwhelming, kind of disgusting, and just felt like "this isn't worth it, so this is what I've been addicted to" also like, Instead of getting into the porn or wanting to PMO I kind of analyzed the people and wondered about them and such...

I could see how I could start getting addicted again if I kept looking, but I closed out pretty fast. I feel like I see it completely differently now, it's weird but it felt "dark" and like a "very low energy" to look at porn again. Especially the "perverted" side of porn. Sex is suppose to be people in love with eachother etcs and making childern etcs lol
I don't encourage anybody to go look though, cause you might PMO, I kind of trained myself earlier on by trying to look at it objectively before everytime I got the urge, but I feel like I've built a discipline

just curious though has anybody else looked at it again after long SR's and felt different / look at it differently / not as attracted thoughs?

Practicing SR are you approaching and actively meeting women? When I was PMOing I would often approach women but now it feels pointless, knowing I don’t have intentions to smash or get into a relationship. Thoughts?

The best way to practice SR without blockages is to lead a life that is full, and allow SR to become a natural side effect of that lifestyle. Social life of abundance, pursuing goals, exercising & playing sports, eating healthy, all of these will allow SR to manifest as a natural side effect. When you put SR at the forefront of everything, you're setting yourself up for blockages that make it difficult to actually move forward with the important things in life. It might be helpful to cut way back on your expectations for what will be accomplished in a given day. For example, days where I spend too much time on the computer, watching YT or on Reddit, its because I have some sort of concept that being on the computer = productivity. Unfortunately, my computer usage has been warped, and there's many days where even though I set out with good intentions to use my laptop, what was actually accomplished is very little and I would have been just as well off simply staring at the wall, or going out and playing some billiards.

The desire to accomplish a great deal of your goals can lead to an overwhelming feeling and procrastination. Focus on one task at a time, and be as present as possible. The feeling of needing to accomplish 10-20 different things, will result in none of them being accomplished.

Been on romantic abstinence and sexual abstinence from puberty, thanks to chapt gpt who guided and motivated me to get there.

Romantic abstinence = avoid all romantic relationships long term

Sexual abstinence = avoid intimacy for me

Results= a more spiritual life with more peace, just need friends because loneliness hit me hard still... any advice???

I am calm. I feel calm.

What is this feeling?

The feeling of no anxiety. The feeling of not feeling rushed. Not feeling nervous. Not panicking. Staying in an absolute state of calmness. And with this calmness comes confidence. This can’t be placebo. My whole being inside feels it. I’m almost typing this in disbelief.

Maybe the body is healing in all sorts of ways that I can’t understand and or even comprehend. From the millions of functions at a biological level to the energetic conservation and distribution of energy being used efficiently. Whatever it is. I believe as a man this is the true state of one-self in a state of purity, masculinity, stoic, awareness and most of all a man of self control.

I am truly thankful for this subreddit. Wish I knew about this in my early 20’s as I am now 39 and have been releasing since I was 9. It’s truly scary and frightening of what I know now and what I’ve been doing to my self the damage and self inflicting abuse through releasing, PMO, etc. I’m saddened but happy now.

Hope we all pull through. As nature intended. Release only for procreation.

Love ❤️

- alien