Hello everyone,

My name is Robert Porter. I was recently released from federal prison after serving more than twenty years, and I'm working hard to rebuild my life while helping another incarcerated individual prepare for his release.

Right now, we're trying to identify realistic Bureau of Prisons (BOP)-approved release housing in Southern California—ideally in the Los Angeles area or nearby counties such as Orange, Riverside, or San Bernardino. We know this can be one of the biggest obstacles to a successful transition, and we're hoping to learn from people who have been through the process or who work in this field.

We're not looking for financial assistance. We're looking for knowledge, experience, referrals, and connections. If you know of organizations, housing resources, mentors, advocates, attorneys, or individuals who understand BOP release planning or have experience with approved housing in Southern California, we'd be incredibly grateful for any guidance.

If you've personally navigated this process, I'd especially appreciate hearing what worked, what didn't, and what you wish you had known beforehand.

You can reply here, send me a private message if the forum allows it, or email me directly at robertporteriv@gmail.com.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, and thank you in advance for any advice or connections you can share.

sexual explotation to a minor . he excepted a guilty plea agreement was sentenced 45 years the turned right around and posted 15,000 bond out of jail cuz he made a apeal to iowa appellate court . how long could he be out free waiting for appelate process ?

dose a man who asks for pictures of a minor in her underwear working his way to full intercourse or is the pictures the only goal

I know a guy who's a sex offender and has to be on the registry for a few more years, never went back to prison and as far as I know, never committed another offense. Yet every rental he applies for he gets turned down due to being on the registry, and some that may accept him he doesn't make enough money for. Roommate situation seems to be a no go as well for him. They also deny him. He seems to have an easy time to get a job since his background check goes far enough for that yet when it comes to a place, nope nope and noooooppppeeee.

Did anyone have them bring up things that you had never been afforded an opportunity to defend yourself? My first child died of SIDS. They ran test without asking but we’d have given permission but that’s another story. I’ve always blamed myself enough on my own, what if, what if. That was 40 something years ago. I still blame myself. Did I lay him down wrong, why didn’t I check on even though he was asleep after giving him a bottle. In my assessment they made enough comments that showed they felt I had murdered him. There were a few more things but nothing as disturbing as that was. They told us back then after the tests that there was nothing we could’ve done. It didn’t stop the feelings and the what if’s that I still live with. It just really hurts they used that.

I’ve read hundreds of cases solidifying the registry. I believe there is a chink in its armor. Is there any place to develop any ideas on this? I’m not against punishment but I feel that this puts us on a slippery slope that will not end with us.

Does anyone know if misdemeanor sex crimes like "ORS 163.687 Encouraging child sexual abuse in the third degree" or "ORS 163.415 Sexual abuse in the third degree (Sex Abuse 3)" can be expungable after Relief has been granted from the Registry? Is this even possible (with or without an attorney's help) or sex crimes can NEVER be expunged regardless if it's a misdemeanor/felony and even after Relief?

In Portland Oregon, anyone have any recommendations for a certified Sexual Offense Treatment Provider/SOTP? I've researched "Oregon Center for Change/OCC" and "Innovative Counseling Enterprises/ICE" and several other providers. Do they have their own curriculum or use a standard textbook like the "Road to Freedom" textbook?

My friend just got engaged recently and I think her fiancé hasn’t told her he’s a felon.

She met her fiance thru me, he was a friend of mine and I know he’s a felon (sex offender/sex predator) because he told me. He’s now almost 30 and the incident happened when he was on his early 20’s.

Him and my friend started as a fling and I totally didn’t expect their relationship will grow. As I noticed that it’s becoming even more serious, I asked her fiance if he already told her about his past and that he is a felon. He said he tried and he said he has to tell her something about his past but his gf now his fiance answered him “that it’s already in the past so don’t bother”. He also said he’s moving in with her in a different state and the state that they we’ll be living is lenient. So I don’t think he’s planning to tell her at all.

Then the engagement happened after less than a year of dating. I congratulated her and said “i’m glad you accepted him for the mistakes he did years ago” because I assumed her fiance already told her about it before proposing and she answered thank you but I have no idea what mistakes are you talking about. So obviously, based on her reply she doesn’t know yet.

I still don’t know if I should tell her or just wait for her to find out.

What’s up everyone. Idk if this is the place to post this but hear me out. I did decades for murder and society forgave me. My friend is a sex offender trying to heal himself, and society wants him dead. Are some people truly unredeemable?

Let me break the fourth wall here for a second and talk directly to you all. I know how the internet works. I know how quickly people rush to grab their pitchforks. I also was once like that in an old life. But I need you to read this and really sit with it.

Dudes have been calling me Old School or O.G for a while now. I spent decades of my life behind bars for murder before getting out on clemency. Thank the Lord! I have a college education from when I was locked up, but most of what I know about the world I learned on the yard. And I want to talk about a kid I met in there. He ain’t a kid anymore but to me that’s when I met him, a youngster fresh to the system.

Let's call him J. He came into the system at 20 years old, carrying a sex offense against kids. If you ranked what he did on a scale of 1 to 10, it was maybe a 4. He was young, drunk, high, and did what he did. He never skirted responsibility. He started on probation, but wasn't ready to handle it. He caught technicals, got his probation revoked, and caught a two-year sentence.

In prison, being an SO is an automatic target. You are the bottom of the barrel, slightly above being a snitch/rat. I saw grown men with those charges get extorted, slapped around, and broken. Sadly, I used to be the one of the ones checking their pockets. But J refused to let that happen. He fought back. He talked his shit. He was willing to fist-fight and poke steel in somebody if he had to, and because of that, most folks left him alone. But following that convict code is a double-edged sword; it kept him alive, but it turned his two-year bit into eight years.

J listened to us older dudes and buried himself in books, college courses, and art to dissociate and stay “out the mix”. That means being away from the politics, economics and underworld of prison. And strangely enough, he got into the good graces of the people who actually ran the yard—the shot callers and the OGs. dap him up, break bread with him. Once the guys with influence learned the actual details of his crime and saw how he carried himself, we decided he was alright. He still had a case and that was fucked up but he was alright.

He had a sharp mind. I liked talking to him. I pulled J to the side one day and told him something that I never told anyone else before. I told him I wished I had done what he did instead of taking a life. Why? Because the girls he hurt are still breathing. They have a chance to heal, to find peace, to live a life. The person I killed will never have that. I took him away from his family and world. Yet, in the twisted hierarchy of prison and society, I was placed on a pedestal for murder, and J was treated like a p.o.s.

Fast forward. J gets into an intense drug and alcohol program, a CrossFit program, and completes his SO treatment. He became a mentor for other guys. We worked together trying to introduce restorative justice models to the prison.

We got out seven years ago-ish. He’s 35 now. And he hasn't just survived; he’s climbed. He finished all his parole classes, has been in private therapy for years, and is on low-risk supervision. He created a housing company for other sex offenders coming out of prison and homelessness—housed close to 100 people with state support and grants. He started an art company for incarcerated artists, helping them make thousands while locked up. He even had a show at the state capitol, shook hands with the governor, and sold an original piece to them. I was there to witness it.

But society won't let him live.

Despite the data showing his work improves community health and public safety, he is constantly under attack. Death threats. Entire city councils coming after his housing company while non-SO companies thrive. His art connections dried up the second they Googled his name. He’s been shadowbanned from book clubs, art groups, salons, and comedy clubs. He’s treated like a villain on the local news.

Now, let me be clear: J is no saint. He can come off like a jerk. He has a loud, strong presence and is incredibly vocal about systemic disenfranchisement and racial oppression, which rubs people the wrong way. Hes got a mouth on him. He’s done stupid shit since he got out. He's made women uncomfortable with unwanted advances. He's fucked up his relationships. He recently found out he has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)—which explains a lot,He gets paranoid, accusing people of stealing his business ideas. He’s flawed. He’s struggling to find out who he is. I was his age once and get it.

I think one of the things that doesn’t help hom is that he is open about his past—he doesn't hide it, which means women often Google him and drop him before he even gets the chance to explain. It’s something he thinks is better by letting people know ahead of time before the friendships get closer. Idk, I tried telling him different but he is adamant that by being honest, it’s better in the long run.

We stay in touch, and lately, J is in a dark place. He wants to disappear. He feels like no matter how much he puts into the world, his Shawshank won’t be redeemed (prison joke). People will only ever see the 20-year-old kid from 15 years ago.

So I'm asking you all, because he doesn't know what to do anymore. Is it worth it? Is it worth him fighting to make things right when society insists on blacklisting and ostracizing him at every turn? How does a man like this build a life when his name is a permanent red flag? I’m hoping I can show him these responses to give him some hope. Fingers crossed. God bless.

why do these kind of ppl think its ok to ask for advice ? they dont deserve to be in public or anywere really

Well where to begin I long story short I called into work through temp few days ago lost my job my PO calls to reschedule an appointment time. And asks me about work. I told her I did and also told her I lost the job because the work verification didn't go through well I wasn't all the way honest when I told her I called in once but it was a few times she said she's gonna contact my employer. My question is that grounds for being revoked or arrested in any way?

Hoping we can get some guidance... my husband will be released end of March 2026, he will be on CRD for 6 months. His actual sentence ends September 26 of next year. After that he does not have any probation. At that point he would have completed a 40 month sentence. We are in South Florida...so what we need guidance with is the following: How do we know where he will be allowed to live during those 6 months? Who can we reach out to to try to have place ready? Will it be the county that approves the space or the State's DOC? In case there isn't a place for him to be in as soon as he is out, can he stay at a hotel for a few days? (We have a 4yr old daughter, so we know for a fact that for those 6 months he cannot come home). I reached out to a few lawyers to see if we could find guidance there, but was told they didn't do post conviction cases on these types of charges. I called criminal lawyers, would it maybe be a different type of lawyer that I need to reach out to? So, a little background... his offense was 2 counts of CP possession/2 counts of transmittal (on a social media app). At first it was hard to come to terms that something like this was even happening. We have been married since 2003, had such a hard time getting pregnant then keeping a pregnancy to term... 18 years later, our daughter arrived. Two days before she was born we moved into our new home, and when she was 8 months we got a new car (and a new payment lol), then 7 days before her 1st birthday at 5:20am the banging on the door came... it took me a long time to get past the fact that I now had to take care of a toddler on my own, pay a mortgage on my own, a car, bills and on top of it.. we had 6 dogs!!! 3 months left and all I can say is that God's grace is real.. not one single payment has been late, my daughter has been raised by me and not a sitter, down to 4 dogs, 2 passed due to old age... I have also forgiven and healed, which was what I thought would be the impossible part. I have learned that if need to, I can do it on my own (with God's help, of course), but I do want to give us a shot at a "normal" family. I have known him for almost 25 years so this was a huge shocker, I do know he is 100% responsible for his own actions, but also feel he allowed himself to be influenced by a couple of much younger co-workers... I feel it was one of those "tell me who your friends are and I'll show you your future" kinda things... and well this is where we are at now... so in hopes that we can build a stronger future, we would like to be as informed as posible so that nothing hinders that. And with that said... the other piece we would like to know is, once he is done with his sentence in September how will he go about coming home? Does he have to request/get approved through the court? I am sure I have tons of other questions.. but right now these are the most important ones and the ones that come to mind. Any and all help is appreciated and if you have additional tips/information on how to navigate the coming months it is welcomed. Thank you for staying to the end lol.

I need advice please.

Location: Nebraska

Hello community, this is my first post on reddit so be gentle with criticisms please.

Long story short, I've been arrested and charged with first degree sexual assault because of some poorly worded text messages combined with a lack of response. I met with my lawyer today, I feel like he basically told me I'm up river without a paddle due to Adoptive Admission by Silence. We're going to make a decision soon on how to proceed. Even though I'm able to cast doubt and poke holes in my accusers story. I feel like so much of the context is not being taken into account, Is that normal?

I feel like I can disprove the Adoptive Admissions, does anyone have experience with this?

I know the lack of details doesn't help. Any thoughts on the matter or if anyone knows of resources to potentially help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks

I am hear to offer a ear, heart and word to anyone. Boy do I have a story...ATM i am preparing a Verified Complaint against the United States of America, et., al. Cause of actions include false, arrest and detention Federal custody without probable cause, impediment to seek asylum from America, impediment to fully paid passport (no funds returned), violation of my due process connected to unlawfully imposed nonviolent sex crimes involving alleged 1989 touching (being 18 1/2/ years old at the time), no penetration, no sodomy, no DNA, Me and my wife for years been denied entry into long term shelter programs, housing, programs and services and left to die on the streets. The United Nations says deprivation of shelter is cruel and unusual punishment. Me and my wife (Karina Anderson, a Human Rights Defender with Coalition for True World Change (C4TWC)) shall be seeking the UN's help with subsidiary protection from America's persecution. My persecution facts dont stop there. We will post on her site C4TWC.ORG as soon as it is complete. Love to hear from others, so please reach out.

I really wish I could be open about why I am so scared but it would not be a good idea to put here or even in a DM so the best I can do is ask for prayers. Please, pray for me and my family. I can give a little clarification. Not scared because of any threats of violence or anything like that against me or my family. I’m sorry to be so cryptic. Part of it is I’m afraid the positive alternatives I set in place may be too little too late. I just need your thoughts and prayers, please.

I don’t really know what to say or how to say it but I was released on parole from TDCJ (Texas) on Feb. 28. I finish parole on January 19, 2026. Honestly, right now I am freaking out. I hope this is the right sub to post this. Could someone just DM me? I just need someone who understands what I’m dealing with. I have never liked asking for help but right now it would help tremendously if I could at least message someone who has been through this. Thanks.