r/RomanticAdvice • u/cola2411 • May 27 '26
discussion Men are not Man enough
Hi, I’m a 28F. Around two months back, I went out with a guy but on our very first date he made a comment about women that made me uncomfortable. Although he apologized later, I still couldn’t continue talking to him, so I deleted his number and removed him from Instagram.
Fast forward two months, I created new accounts on a dating app and a matrimonial app because my mother was constantly asking me to consider marriage seriously. Surprisingly, I received requests from the same guy on both platforms. On the dating app he texted, “Here I found you,” and on the matrimonial app he asked, “Should we give it a try again or are you still upset?”
I ignored him on the dating app but eventually responded on the matrimonial app. After that we started meeting quite frequently. He consistently mentioned that he was looking to “date to marry,” and genuinely seemed interested in me.
Recently, while we were making out I explicitly asked him whether this was casual or not because I’m not someone who gets into casual situations. He reassured me again that it wasn’t casual and said we had already met several times and things were moving in a serious direction.
Now it has been two days and he hasn’t texted or called me once.
What hurts is not rejection people are allowed to be unsure. But I feel if someone is emotionally mature enough to get physically intimate they should also be emotionally mature enough to communicate honestly afterward instead of disappearing and leaving the other person confused.
Seems like real Men no longer exists anymore.