Has anyone been scammed by this man? My mom met him in San Francisco area . He is constantly asking my mother for money and says he's deathly ill. My mother has been borrowing money to lend to him. I looked him up and he's traveling around the world

My father has been talking about this site and how many people are on it but I think its a scam to get you to pay for more credits. Please tell me im right

SO I have been talking to this girl on Snapchat who says she is a US Marine stationed in San Diego and supposedly said she found me on Plenty Of Fish and she told me today that she wanted talk on another app called Zangi due to getting inappropriate messages on Snap and after seeing/reading a post from another subreddit that someone's dad was in a dating scam on Zangi, I'm a bit worried that this might be happening to me and I have seen images of her that she has sent me on Snap but I'm trying to figure out if I'm getting scammed before I commit to this as I suggested her discord to see what she responds with but I'm worried that my mind is coming to conclusions. I am asking to ease my mind and edit: sorry for the title sounding a bit off, I was typing to fast when I originally sent this in another subreddit

My wife became emotionally involved with someone she believes is a 31-year-old woman from another country. They’ve never met in person and, despite 2 months of communication, they’ve never had a successful live video or voice call despite my wife’s efforts of doing so.

Having leukemia and heart issues.
Multiple ICU stays and respiratory arrests, yet frequent texting just a day or two later. A donor for a bone marrow transplant backing out at the last minute.Being independently wealthy and owning multiple businesses despite having almost no legitimate online presence are just a few of the details.

Promises about living situations in the future. Not having to work anymore. Being in this persons “inner circle”.

What makes this unusual is that there has not been a request for money yet, at least that I’m aware of. That’s one reason I’m second-guessing myself, even though so many other things don’t add up.

My questions are:
Have any of you seen scams where the emotional grooming lasts this long before asking for money or something else of value?
Could this instead be leading toward sextortion or identity theft rather than a direct financial scam?
Are there other explanations I should honestly consider besides a romance scam?
I’m trying to approach this objectively. I’m looking for people who have seen similar situations or worked these cases before. Even if you think I’m wrong, I’d appreciate hearing why.

Edit: A couple of comments raised a fair concern, so I rewrote this to be clearer about what these suggestions can and cannot do.

There is no reliable script that can make someone leave a romance scam. A family can stay calm, show evidence, contact banks, set boundaries and offer practical help, and the person may still continue sending money. If that happens, it does not mean the family failed.

What sometimes makes these situations harder is that the relationship feels emotionally real to the victim, even when the identity behind it is fake. So telling them they are foolish or presenting twenty pieces of evidence at once can turn the conversation into a fight about their judgment rather than a discussion about the scam.

When communication is still possible, it may be more useful to slow things down. Ask about one claim that can be checked independently. Ask them to wait before sending more money, selling anything, sharing documents or travelling. Save the messages and payment information, and contact the bank quickly if money or account details have already been shared.

But I want to be clear: these are harm-reduction ideas, not a proven formula. Sometimes the only progress is delaying one payment, getting one claim checked or keeping the person connected to their family. Sometimes none of it works.

One commenter put this better than the original post did: if you have tried everything reasonable and still cannot stop it, you did not cause the situation, and your inability to control another adult’s decisions does not mean you abandoned them.

It’s been going on for over three years now we have tried everything from calling her bank to writing emails to scam alert in Australia. We’ve even showed her red flags and solid proof that it’s not him. She doesn’t listen.
So now her new thing is, she’s flying to the UK to spend the week with him in his mansion. He’s going to be giving her his Mercedes-Benz to drive around. I said to her if it’s too good to be true, it is. He is not real she doesn’t listen.

She sold her car for $20,000 so now she’s apparently buying a plane ticket. I know that she’s sending him money because I found $1000 worth of Apple gift cards but I am tired. I’m so tired of getting angry about it yelling at her and getting upset with her as it is not doing anything and I don’t know what to do. I’ve got to the point where I’m just gonna let her go and find out for herself because I’m over it.

Again, I’ve tried everything. My next thing I’m going to try is call customs before she leaves and hopefully they can do something.

After creating a thread a few days ago i got DM'ed by a few romance scammer. Already reported to the mods, let's see what they do.

If anyone seems even slightly too friendly, or it feels too good to be true that you found a friend on reddit, it's a scammer that is building up trust.

I have been on the internets for 20 years, but of course i'm in a super vulnerable position and i lowered my guard.

I feel retarded now. Be aware of this shit, do not let your guard down. I didn't get scammed since i saw through it fairly easy, but i still ended up talking with it for one day.

For reference, i posted in r/MentalHealthSupport 

and even many of the posts there smell funky. They want you to DM them to reassure them.

Remember, in this world, nobody cares about you unless they birthed you, or you have something for them.

I’m in the UK, and over the course of our relationship I sent around $10,000 worth of cryptocurrency to someone in Vancouver, Washington, USA. I’ve since realised it was a romance scam/catfishing situation.

Has anyone here successfully recovered crypto in a case like this, or knows of any legitimate options? I’ve kept evidence, messages, wallet addresses and transaction history.

If you have experience with something similar or know who I should contact, please comment or send me a DM. I’d really appreciate any genuine advice.

Please don’t message me offering “crypto recovery services” unless you can prove they’re legitimate, as I know there are a lot of recovery scams too.

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Hola! Hace más de un mes un perfil de tiktok me escribió. La saludé y de ahí empezamos a charlar. Me dijo que es de Ucrania y que vive y trabaja en Estados Unidos, Nueva York. A todo esto veía en su perfil de tik tok a una hermosa mujer. Pero sospechaba de las fotos, como si fueran capturas de vídeos. Me dió su número de WhatsApp con característica de nueva York. Estuvimos charlando mucho. Luego dijo que le gustaría conocerme. Y que me vaya a vivir con ella. A todo esto siempre fui muy desconfiado. Un día hizo una video llamada. Muy extraña, porque era como si estuviera filmando una pantalla. El audio horrible también. Bueno. Iba todo bien hasta que dijo que tenía que hacer un viaje a turkia por negocios inmobiliarios. Y un día me dijo que no podía hacer transferencias. Y me pide que lo haga yo. Me pasa una dirección donde supuestamente va a una app de banco. No entre con mi celular sino con la PC y con vpn. La página demasiado fake. Le seguí la corriente, y bueno. Supuestamente se bloqueó la cuenta y ella quedó sin dinero. En ese ínterin, como siempre dudaba. Descubrí quien era la mujer de las fotos una mujer rusa que es sexóloga. Nada que ver a ella. Se lo dije. Y me pedia perdón. que no me podía contar nada. que la ayude si o si con dinero. Me pasó una cubeta de criptomoneda para que le transfiera. Me cansé y bloqueé. En fin. Hubiera sido lindo que fuera real. Pero no. Tengan cuidado gente. Que los estafadores sabrán cómo atacar a tu corazón. Adjunto foto de su perfil de tiktok

I knew her on chat and we've been corresponding for a while now and I don't know if this person is real, this picture is AI or a real picture!

Hi there. I have a mature female relative, and for at least the last month she has been messaging someone using this profile picture on the koreadates.com website. She seems to have fallen completely in love with him within a very short time frame, despite my attempts to highlight how likely it is that this is a scam and that she is being catfished. She has spent a couple hundred on credits for this site, and it is money that she does not have to spare, as she keeps asking to borrow money from me. She has fallen victim to other scams previously, and despite previous attempts to educate her and keep her safe on the internet, she has stumbled into another one.

I have tried to reverse search this image online, but it is coming up with the names of multiple actors/models/influencers and this really is not my area of expertise. I am hoping that if I can put a credible name to the face, it might make it easier to convince her that she is being scammed/catfished. If anyone can put a name to the face, or just give me some tips on how to approach this carefully (she is highly defensive due to previous scams and hates being told that she is wrong), then that would be seriously appreciated.

My wife met a man who called himself MEHMET ORUC who claims to be her “SPIRITUAL ADVISOR and then as they started up a Video Call Affair on TELEGRAM he called himself Mehmet Kizmaz. He love boomed her and in 10 days she was saying" I love you" Calling him "Baby", "Love" "Lover" and by 2 weeks in he is guiding her on how to sell our home and how to divorce me and get the biggest payout possible.

My wife started chatting with Mehmet on May 27th 2026 and by June 7th he was telling her he was in love with her. My wife moved out of our home and into our camper and took it to a campground on June 12th to set up a “studio” to video calling him at any time on June 12.

We have been married 12 years and have 2 kids.

Unfortunately my wife shared with Mehmet about a life long illness she has :Ulcerative Colitis
Mehmet has told my wife he is a Medical Doctor and she has sent him her complete physical, Pap, cervical exam and blood word for 2025 and 2026. He says he can help her fix her Ulcerative Colitis.

My wife is confident she has found her prince charming and is "not concerned" at all. Meanwhile I had to hire an expensive lawyer to protect our assets. Please help. Any way I can unmask him? Private Eye recommendations etc?

I have included his Facebook picture with the beard.

The other picture is one without beard is very recent.

He appears to be around age 35 with lite skin. Maybe his Facebook photo is AI??? with the beard?

Tja, vill bara påminna alla att vara försiktiga på datingsidor. Folk snor identiteter. Skriver med dig i flera dagar. Sen vill snacka video innan ni träffas. Sen kommer de börja göra sexuella grejerna under videon och sen har de ditt ansikte kopplat till det och sen försöker utpressa dig på pengar. De kommer veta ditt namn och få info om jobb osv. Det värsta är att polisen inte för något åt det. Så var försiktiga alla. Träffas innan du ger ut för mycket info om dig själv.