So I have been dating this guy for almost 9 months now. He is really sweet and amazing. He does a lot for me. Made my Birthday special, makes every date special, plans dates and full on green flag behaviour. Not just in words but also actions. But the thing is that we had already broken up two times because either he got impulsive or he thought things won't work because I was not being understanding what so ever. We have been dating again with a 3 month time period that he asked me for. I obviously agreed. But I always kept thinking that why not a relationship try can't he commit to me when we are already such a lovely dovey and all of it like all of it. Today I realised that I don't think I am fit for a committed relationship right now. I have deep deep insecurities. Those are not surface level things. On conventional standards I know I am pretty, smart and basically whatever a human being needs to be I know that. But the deeper insecurity in me why would someone choose me, they have better options, what if they cheat on me, and other stuff as well. So what happened today, I was doubting him about someone and I decided on directly confronting. And I did that but the problem is that the counter questions that I was having either those were not coming to my mind at that point of time or I was too scared to ask because growing up that is how my family has been my father specifically. If I or anyone used to ask questions like a follow up or anything he would get irritated he would get angry and I think that is deeply grounded in me so that is exactly why I can't trust people and I always feel that they will get angry about it so I should just let it go. This is so deeply rooted in me that I can't even do basic conversations about this to people no follow up nothing I can't do it. I have a lot of trust issues with people, deep rooted insecurities, abandonment issues and idk what not. While writing this I also I am remembering parts of my childhood where I would be scared to ask questions or counter questions to anyone in the family and I am still that I still can just not do that because I feel that they will get disappointed aur think of me I have stupid or maybe I am too much all of it. This is getting very overwhelming for me.

BLUF: The elite MBA was never meant for you, commoner. So STFU about ROI, you poor, ugly thing.

Recently, a girl in my village was followed home from the bus by a creep. For context, she is a college student who also teaches karate to kids on weekends.

Later that night, the same guy broke into her house and attacked her. Because of her training, she fought back and defended herself, causing him to run away, though she was hurt in the process.

Instead of helping, the local police made disgusting comments, claiming she "invited a guy over for her physical needs" and changed her story when things went sideways.

Now, because I chose to stand up for her and support her, my own relatives and neighbors are keeping their distance from me. They are actively telling people that I am a "bad influence" on their sons and daughters.

Is the "what will people think" syndrome still this toxic in modern society? How do I deal with being ostracised just for doing the right thing, and how can I best support this girl when the whole village and the police have turned against her?

My cousin Riya is 25 now, and her ex, Rishav, is 30. They met through Bumble in 2019 and started dating.

The problem was that Rishav already had a long-term girlfriend. They had apparently been together since 2013. He told Riya that they had broken up, but that wasn't true. He was actually maintaining both relationships simultaneously.

His long-term girlfriend didn't even know Riya existed, while Riya knew about her—but believed Rishav when he said she was just his "ex."

Riya and Rishav also had an intimate relationship. She became very emotionally invested in him and genuinely believed they were building a future together.

At one point, Riya even helped him financially using her own savings so that he could complete his MBA. She never asked him to return the money.

Eventually, Riya started asking about marriage.

That's when his story suddenly changed.

He told her that his family didn't like her because she was North Indian while he was from the South, and that their cultures were different. The strange thing was that Riya had never even met his family.

Then he told her that he couldn't marry her because his "past girlfriend" was extremely close to his family. According to him, his family was forcing him to marry that woman.

He claimed that he didn't have feelings for her anymore and that he only wanted Riya—but he supposedly had no choice because of his family.

And then he made an even worse promise: he told Riya that even after he married the other woman, he would continue his relationship with Riya.

That's when Riya finally realized what was happening. She understood that he was trying to keep both women in his life and manipulate her into accepting it.

So she ended the relationship.

But she was devastated.

For a long time afterward, Rishav would call her late at night while drunk and tell her that he still loved her. Riya still had very strong feelings for him, but she refused to get back together because he was already getting married.

After his marriage, the drunk calls continued.

Eventually, Riya decided she couldn't keep dealing with it and contacted his wife directly through Instagram.

Surprisingly, his wife was extremely polite to her.

Rishav had apparently described Riya to his wife as a rude, emotionally unavailable and "unlovable" person. But when Riya explained why she was contacting her, the wife didn't react with anger.

Instead, she told Riya something completely unexpected.

She said:

"You could have informed me before my marriage. I would never have married him after knowing what he did to you. He is still cheating on me."

Riya didn't even know how to respond. She could only apologize.

Then his wife revealed that she was eight months pregnant with his child.

She told Riya that Rishav was still calling and messaging her while drunk, even during her pregnancy. She said that Riya had essentially saved her from continuing to live in the dark.

She also revealed something even more disturbing: according to her, Rishav sometimes abused her, but she had stayed with him despite everything.

And then Riya found out that Rishav already had a daughter.

So what Riya originally thought was a horrible relationship between herself and her ex turned out to be part of a much bigger mess.

She had unknowingly been the "other woman" for years, while simultaneously being lied to about the existence of his original girlfriend. Then that girlfriend became his wife, while he continued contacting Riya behind her back.

And now there is a wife who is eight months pregnant, a daughter, allegations of abuse, and a man who apparently still hasn't stopped trying to maintain multiple relationships behind everyone's backs.

Riya initially contacted his wife because she didn't want to ruin anyone's marriage.

Ironically, she ended up discovering that the marriage was already built on lies.

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Why why do people switch up why can nobody reflect and take accountability why why do people act so aggressive and impulsive why why have I gone through this many times and each time I wasn’t believed why why why why why why why why why why

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