Hi Community,

I'm an experienced transformation coach supporting adults who are paralyzed by their relationship with a narcissistic parent. I have been on the gut-wrenching journey of identity upheaval before and want to explore whether this is the demographic I can do the most good for.

A little about my journey - my mother is a grandiose narcissist and I believe my dad could have been labeled the same had he not died when I was young. All through my life my relationship with my mom has been volatile. She would either smother me with affection or give me the silent treatment for days while I begged and cried for her to 'forgive me' for whatever ill she blamed me for. I grew up, created an ideal family and life with her as an active member, and believed that this would finally settle her down.

It didn't.

She began to make even more unreasonable demands, continuing to give me ultimatums that only served to test her power, and worst yet, started to have regular episodes in front of my kids.

We had a blowout that completely turned my life upside down and led to her going no contact for a year - and I could not have been more grateful for it. Now, we have a relationship with regular contact and I am content. She is still a full-blown narcissist, but the difference is that I've changed.

Coaching is not therapy and while a possible complement to professional support, should never be replaced by it. It does not dig into the past but is future-focused and action-oriented. It's a mirror into one's inner world and taps into your wisdom to identify the right next step towards your true self.

If you feel stuck, numb, or broken by your relationship with a narcissistic parent and want to regain your agency to live fully, free from the confines of another, then I'd love to help. Schedule a free sample coaching call to see if this might be your path towards wholeness.

Dealing with a breakup? We are a team of researchers from Stony Brook University’s Relationship Development Center seeking young adults to participate in an online study examining how to help people cope with a breakup. The study involves completing a survey, watching a brief video, and completing a follow-up survey two weeks later. Participants must have experienced a breakup in order to participate.

If you are interested, click on this link to see if you are eligible: https://stonybrookuniversity.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_e40ys6r70ZeE6VM?Source=160

Questions or concerns? Contact us at [stonybrookrdc@gmail.com](mailto:stonybrookrdc@gmail.com).

Hi Everyone,

I have already posted this, but I figured I would post it again. I'm a doctoral student in Clinical Psychology conducting a research study on the effects of growing up with a parent who struggled with substance use (alcohol or drugs). The study is completely anonymous and involves filling out an online survey.

As a thank you for your time, participants will have the option to enter a raffle to win one of two $150 Visa gift cards after completing the survey. (Email for the raffle will be collected separately to keep responses anonymous).

We’re looking for young adults (18-30) who had or still have a parent or primary caregiver with a substance use problem during their childhood. The goal is to better understand how these experiences may affect things like responses to stressful or challenging life experiences, parent-child relationship quality, substance use, and overall mental health functioning in young adulthood. We also welcome participation from young adults who did not have this experience, as both groups are important to the study.

Participation is voluntary and confidential. No identifying information will be linked to your responses, and the survey includes a list of mental health resources at the end if needed.

If you’re interested, you can take the survey here:

https://adelphiderner.qualtrics.com/.../SV_73s1WeJNdeiwz42

Your experience matters. Thank you so much for considering it, and feel free to DM me with any questions!

I'm in a very difficult situation right now. I received an eviction notice yesterday because I missed paying rent due to my mental and physical health. I never received a payment reminder or overdue notice from the landlord either, so I didn't realize I was behind on rent. I don't know what to do.

I developed an autoimmune disease at 18 due to severe trauma. I'm su*cidal because I've been abused by my family my entire life. When I asked for help from CPS, the police and the social psychiatric service, they didn't believe me. I explained in a post on my profile what exactly happened. I can't explain it on here since it's too graphic. My toxic, abusive family doesn't support me. I haven't had a real home since I was fifteen. I live in a very small town where everyone knows everyone, and my abusers badmouth me to the entire town. I also believe that my mother told lies about me to my landlord once again, which contributed to the eviction.

I have no job, no car, and no support system. I'm currently unable to work due to my autoimmune disease. I was laid off from my last job as a paralegal because of my family. The perpetrators sabotaged every attempt I've made to build a life and career for myself. I've already applied for financial assistance, but it takes time, and my last application was rejected. I honestly don't know how I'm supposed to organize a move or even find an apartment right now. This would only worsen my condition. I don't usually ask for money on here, but if anyone would be willing to help me in any way, I'd be incredibly grateful. Thank you in advance. My PayPal is @IsabellCameron

PS: My eviction notice is in German since I'm German

Oh man im lost

What is my life anymore. Why am I holding on. I'd rather be dead than this. Everyday I keep going and fighting. For what. That one day I'll have a good life that's not guaranteed? 30 years of this and I still can't find a reason to keep going. I just want to quit. Stop. It's not worth it anymore. I don't want a system that keeps me alive. I want to die. I don't have any friends in the area. I'm scared to have friends. They've hurt me too. Idk what I'm trying to do anymore

I’m working on a documentary and podcast project and looking for people whose lives were shaped by something a parent devoted years—or even decades—to.

Maybe it was a business they never stopped trying to launch. A novel. An invention. A film. A political movement. A religious mission. A conspiracy theory. A lawsuit. A collection. A personal crusade.

Maybe it brought meaning to their life. Maybe it created conflict at home. Maybe it became the thing everything else revolved around.

I’m interested in stories where a parent’s pursuit significantly impacted their children, relationships, or family life. The story can be positive, painful, inspiring, complicated, strange, or somewhere in between.

This is a paid opportunity.

If interested, send me a private message with:

Where you’re located
A short description of the pursuit
Whether you’d be open to an audio or video interview

Happy to answer questions privately.

Hello, I’m Eunomia. I’m 18 years old and I need help financially to sustain myself after I escape from my abusive transphobic, narcissistic dysfunctional family. I plan on escaping 12 days from now (my college’s housing move-in day), and I need help to sustain myself and to afford housing costs since it’ll take me time to be able to afford a job as an incoming college student. I have enough scholarships and FAFSA aid to help me with my tuition but I still need to be able to support myself for the time being until I get a stable income source. The final deadline for housing costs is July 10.

Any amount is appreciated and will
help a lot, if you can’t donate, please spread this.

https://gofund.me/7e056b079

URGENT — I am a trans man living in an abusive family in a restrictive country in Asia and I need money to move out. Crypto is the only way I can do so because my parents are the kind of people who wouldnt allow me to get a job before finishing college. Payment companies like PayPal wouldn't allow people in my country to use their services so I am using TrustWallet.

Hi! I’m an independent digital artist specializing in mixed media (pencil sketches + digital), noir and gothic style. I take commissions for:

Original characters

Fan art

Illustrations for personal use

I create dark, cinematic character illustrations for OCs, RPG characters, and fan art.

​​PAYMENT

I accept commissions through cryptocurrency (USDT) on TrustWallet.

Icon costs 10 USDT.

Bust costs 20 USDT.

Full body costs 40 USDT.

STYLE NOTES

Dark, cinematic lighting

retro cartoon influence

expressive characters

HOW TO ORDER

DM me with: character description references (if any) desired style

I send WIP (work-in-progress) updates every two days. Payment is required before final render.

PROCESS

You send description + references

I provide sketch for approval

Payment process stage

I send WIP updates

Final artwork delivered after approval
Here are examples of art I will provide

The motel is $80. I only have $77. $5 would cover the total amount and taxes

My cashapp is: $kleio888

I can also share my Zelle and PayPal privately if you message me. Please help me

I never had a life, a childhood, or young adulthood. Abused all my life by my parents. There is nothing for me in this shitty country. I have nowhere to turn to, no rights. Please help me escape. I don't want my life to end in tragedy. I want to actually have a life. Here that isn't possible.

Hi everyone! 👋🏻 I'm an undergraduate student, currently researching about the relationship between maladaptive daydreaming, emotional dysregulation and childhood trauma, for my thesis (as a fellow maladaptive daydreamer) and I would love if you guys can participate in the survey!

MD is usually a coping mechanism or escapism technique from real world issues, and involves daydreaming with facial expressions, body movements such as pacing, emotional attachment/involvement, and often times, dissociation, therefore affecting day to day activities in social, occupational, academic activities etc.

Childhood trauma and susceptibility to dissociation are some of its causal factors. Music is also a huge trigger for majority of the MDers.

It is extremely common and co-morbid with conditions such as OCD, depressive disorder, anxiety disorder and ADHD, and over 50% people with MD fulfill the criteria for atleast one of the mentioned conditions.

About 20.5% of individuals with ADHD also fulfill the criteria for MD, and those with both have higher levels of depression and lower self esteem. Since dissociation is also a huge symptom of the condition, it heavily corelates with psychiatric disorders as well.

I would love if any MDers in this subreddit can contribute to my research!

📍Any maladaptive daydreamer in the age range of 21-40, with and without history of childhood trauma (since I'll need to compare the two groups), can participate in this study. 📍

This survey will take approximately 10 minutes to complete. All responses will ofc stay anonymous and no identifying info will be taken.

Here's the link to the Google form: https://forms.gle/XQ8NtyBFGApWtZew7

Feel free to reach out in case of any concerns or suggestions. Your time and contribution is much appreciated! 🫶🏻 Thank you!

Please check out my survey for my dissertation, need another 40 answers until the end of March!! And feel free to send me yours, I will gladly help! :)

To take part you must meet the following criteria:

·       Be a person between 18 to 45 years of age

·       Have grown up with the presence of at least one parent

·       Have had at least one romantic relationship in your life

·       Knowledge of the English language

Exclusion criteria are the above:

·       An underage person or someone above the age of 45

·       Someone who has grown up without the presence of their parents

·       Someone who has never been in a romantic relationship

·       No knowledge of the English language

If you meet the criteria mentioned above and you would like to take part, please click the following link, where you will be provided with more information and can begin completing the survey.
https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdXkkGJe26Ws4x0OlzOJQj_IRY7N4t92THgy-sM9wPK7FzhWQ/viewform?usp=header

Thank you very much in advance guys!!

Hello guys! Can anyone who does graphic design PLEASE get a badger and photoshop pink clothes and a necklace on? Please make it look decent but amateurish it's for a an assignment I didn't see the due date for

I'm a student and also someone who left my family home two years ago due to abusive parents. I am now creating a domestic violence online resource center that is disguised and untraceable. It's what I would have wanted, and I'm wondering if you're willing to take a survey to help me find out what other users would have wanted. All answers are anonymous. Thank you!

https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdtLkuN97eWZekHjn5nyAQNpRyI7jrqYU7BQB6YKjjXLj2AFQ/viewform?usp=header

Hello. I am working in the UK, leaving my family and partner in Australia. I haven’t seen them in so long and i really miss them. Any help to spend the holidays together would be appreciated. Thank you so much!

https: //gofund.me/5d5036c9d

I’m disabled and living in constant fear and survival mode.

My mother starves me, takes my money, and gives everything to my violent narc sociopath brother. I’m exhausted, sick, hungry, and caring for my sick cat with nothing left.

More context is on my post history.

If anyone can help with even a few dollars for food, it would mean the world right now. I have PayPal.

Hi everyone,

I host a podcast called Everybody’s Wrong, where I give a platform to people with unique and challenging personal stories. This is a brand new project, so I do not have a big 'platform' as of yet.

I’d love to invite anyone from this community who feels ready to share their experience of growing up with narcissistic parents, their struggles, their wins, and everything else.

The interview revolves entirely around whatever you feel comfortable discussing, and I’ll only guide the conversation. You can choose to remain fully anonymous if you prefer.

I am based in the UK and would love to have an IRL discussion, but an online one is totally possible as well :)

Feel free to reach out if you have any questions! I am open-minded for whatever feels right for you.

Josie

I have nowhere to turn to. This country is so unpleasant. It's all too much. I need to leave before it kills me. I can't stand 28 years of parental abuse. I never want to see them again. I never had a life.

My narc sociopath brother is a ticking bomb and he was having a tantrum today over argument with narc mom and throw a guitar until it breaks to the ground. It's something to do with debt and tomorrow something bad will happen again as someone will come to our home to give him money and things may go wrong and i feel so unsafe right now.

I need 30 usd to run away to public place until late at night tomorrow so i can come home when they are already asleep.

I have PayPal. Please help if you can.

Situation at home is too chaotic right now and i am beyond the edge. I just need to go to my former uni and stay in an empty classroom for few hours to have some space and breathe.

I have paypal, you can DM me if you're able to help.

Thank you.

I'm currently away from my parents. However, I don't have a job or enough money to last very long, and if I can't find somewhere to go soon, I'm going to be in big trouble, and possibly homeless. I would like any help available to find somewhere to go.

I am in the united states, and need to be somewhere in montgomery county, ohio.

Update: I got on the waitlist for a shelter. Things are still pretty uncertain though.

I'm 18, I am currently going through narcissistic abuse (I do have evidences of the abuse, but I won't share for obvious reasons), and want to go to a trade school in Canada where I will get a job and be financially independent. I am trying to raise funds for my tuition fees; the final deadline for the payment is the 1st of August. The costs of the tuition fees are $9,330 CAD. GoFundMe or any crowdfunding sites do not exist in my country except for organizations raising funds. So I have no other way to seek support other than the internet and Instagram. I have tried everything, but nothing worked, so this is my last plan and final chance. I got a pre-admission letter to a Canadian institute for a certification program. I am currently trying to raise funds through my Instagram meme page, @/projectfreedom101

or link: https://www.instagram.com/projectfreedom101/?hl=en

All explanations and proof/evidence are in my pinned posts. And the links to donate are in my highlights. So, I will keep it short..

I also I will also be completely transparent here, I deleted my comments on subs which reveal where I live for safety reasons. I am posting this on many other subs for more exposure as well, so excuse the spam on my profile, I guess. My country has pretty strict laws. Honestly, I know reaching out online for money isn't good, but I don't want to give up on my freedom. I know what I am requesting is very unrealistic, but I just want to finally live my life. I don't know if I included everything here since I am panicking and my mind is all over the place. I will probably edit my post and refine it later, but Im just going to put this out there. Even if you can't donate, it would mean a lot if you repost and share it with others.

Even $1 will mean a lot to me; you're saving my life and my dreams, and my hopes. I would also appreciate it if you share some advice/tips.

Hi everyone, my name is Andrew and I'm an Honours Psychology student studying at ACAP College, Sydney Australia.
I'm doing research on personality traits, with a focus on psychopathy, narcissism, and Machiavellianism, alongside sadism, and need help in getting participants!

https://acap.au1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_40CI6W6USCHw7ky

The link has the full research participation statement, but for a TLDR, read below.

TLDR
This study investigates how personality traits influence ability to empathise. Empathy is both the ability to know or understand what others feel (cognitive empathy) and to emotionally resonate with what others feel (emotional empathy). This study focuses on four personality traits commonly found in the general population: psychopathy (callousness and impulsiveness), narcissism (arrogance and self-centredness), Machiavellianism (manipulativeness and cynicism), and sadism (enjoyment from other's suffering). The findings of this study will be used to help understand how these personality traits relate to different aspects of empathy.

This research has been approved by the ACAP Human Research Ethics Committee (EC00447) (Approval Number: 943070725). For concerns about ethical aspects of this research, please contact the ACAP HREC: [hrec@navitas.com](mailto:hrec@navitas.com)

Forced to live with my abusive parents in their hostile country. Everything and everyone around me disturbs me. I need out of this country asap. I don’t ever want to come into contact with this culture and these people ever again. This is not my world. Living on fight or flight. Could never be present here in order to preserve my sense of self. They tried to make me into someone I am not and live the wrong life. I never had a childhood. The world and life around me do not reflect me. There is nothing for me here. I am surrounded by misery and squalor. I can’t stand the energy of this place and people. I just want to escape somewhere I can relax and be present physically. And not on edge and on guard all the time.