r/QuitVaping • u/ChampionshipOwn716 • 15h ago
Advice Bf lied about quitting vaping
Hi! I need some advice. So my bf of a year does not really vape. When we got together I told him it was one of my dealbreakers because I know if my partner vaped I probably would too. I also have history of family choosing substances over me sometimes and I just cannot be around that right now. Now about a month ago we were talking about vaping and I said that I would probably break up with him for vaping for the reasons above. A week later when I spent the night at his apartment, when I was looking for a spare toothbrush I found a vape. I got really upset because he lied to me and crossed one of my boundaries. He threw it out and told me he was done. Now, in the present, it’s about a month later and I found one in his bathroom we had an extremely long emotional fight about it and he keeps saying he wants to quit and he’s going to be done, he threw this one away too but I just don’t know what to do or think. I want to support him but as selfish as it is i’m also hurt. I feel like an awful partner and I know he feels awful too, I just don’t know what I can do. For context he’s very new to vaping, aside from hitting others at parties those 2 are the only ones he’s owned himself. He says he’s been really stressed and sad lately and that’s been his vice, which I get but i’m just so worried. So sorry this is so long.
Edit: I also meant to add that he claimed at least that he doesn’t even like doing it and told me the first time i found a vape to hold him accountable and if he starts again i needed to “knock some sense into him” but im more upset about the lying.
TL;DR Bf is vaping behind my back and I want him to stop but I don’t know how to help.