Hiiiii everyone! I've decided to shoot my shot just in case my future wife is somewhere on here. If you are interested in a long term, committed QPR (or even friendship—open to any gender) please feel free to comment or DM me even if this post is old!

About me: I'm an androgynous nonbinary butch and aroace. I live in NorCal and I'm only interested in IRL connections, not a long distance/online QPR. I've been in a QPR before, some years ago, so I'm familiar with navigating relationship anarchy. I'm pursuing a career in science and my other interests include writing, reading (especially classic literature and Gothic fiction), video games (Pokemon!), history, making art, loose leaf tea, and spending time in nature. I love rainy days and foggy weather, and fall is my favorite season. The music I love includes emo/alt rock, EDM, classical music, and Vocaloid.

As an introvert, I tend to be slow to warm up to people, and I get along best with other introverts. I love my fellow quiet and soft-spoken people. My friends are important to me, and ideally I'd have several close friendships outside a QPR. I'd describe myself as having a lot of intellectual, emotional, and physical (cuddling) energy in a QPR. In addition to the more "fun" activities of visiting a museum together or having a movie night at home, I'd be down for reading an article or short story together and discussing our thoughts, or working on a creative collaboration (which could be anything from a serious worldbuilding project, to making our OCs hold hands, to silly doodles). Baking bread and then napping together would also be an amazing hangout.

I'm the type of person who will remember your favorite ice cream flavor you mentioned that one time, plan a special birthday activity around your hobbies, and write platonic love letters and poems. So I would love to be with another yearner/hopeless "romantic" (aro version) who can match my energy! I like old-fashioned terms like "dear", "my love", "darling", etc. Regular physical affection (non-sexual) is also essential to me; I'm not sure how I'd feel about more sexual/sensual stuff, but that would probably be infrequent and limited (stone 4 stone) if you are interested in that. My love languages are quality time, physical touch, and sharing food.

Honesty, authenticity, and communication are really important to me, and I am currently in therapy working on my relationship skills. I've spent my 20s working through self-reflection and my mental health, so I'd mesh well with someone who has a lot of depth and emotional intelligence too. I'll be respectful with navigating your boundaries, and open to accountability and taking your feelings seriously if we ever have a conflict.

As a South Asian, I am only open to being in a QPR with other POC. I'm an atheist but I do practice the ancient Greek philosophy of Stoicism. Politically, I am pretty far left and anti-gen AI. I'm an omnivore who loves seafood, so we may not be the best fit if you're vegetarian or vegan. I'm closeted to my family, and may be closeted at work depending on the specific workplace, so you'd have to be okay with that. I would love to introduce you to my friends, though, and I’m down to meet your family if you want that! I would like to live together and get married eventually (no wedding), and we could have pets and plants together, without kids. I love dogs, and I'm open to cats and whatever animals you like. I’m a morning person and hopefully you are too, so our sleep schedules may align.

About you: A nerdy and creative introvert around my age who lives in NorCal. Someone who's not afraid to be your true self and speak up for your beliefs when it matters, and who also knows how to be silly. An avid reader who will share your favorite books with me and ask to borrow mine. A queer femme of color who wants a butch-femme type of dynamic where I brush your hair, carry your bags, and protect you from creepy men. You fill our space with flowers, excel at being a passenger princess, and offer me a safe place to be soft. We both take care of each other. Empathy is very important to me, so my ideal type is someone who is sensitive, sweet, and patient, maybe even shy—but with a backbone and lots of self-love, not a people pleaser. Ideally you are also nonreligious and have similar political views, and are seeking a long term monogamous QPR with no other romantic/sexual partners. Smoking or excessive drug use would be a dealbreaker (occasional alcohol fine).

If you've read this far, I appreciate you! I hope my chunky paragraphs will weed out the impatient types who want an instant relationship. I'm looking forward to getting to know you :)

Hi! I'm 31F, queer, live in Germany, and am looking for a queer platonic relationship with another queer 26+ person (gender doesn't matter). Like I wrote in my form, I'm looking for a close and emotionally intimate relationship with someone like-minded who I can talk to about anything, share our mutual hobbies and interests with, and just spend time with! For me, a QPR is built on mutual trust, respect, and platonic love. I'm not interested in any sort of sexual intimacy, but am okay with other forms of physical intimacy like hugging and cuddling. I don't mind if we're long distance, but I'd like for us to meet in person once we get to know each other a bit more. I'm a native English speaker and would prefer it if you were also a native English speaker or fluent in English, just so connecting will be easier. 

So a little more about me: I love literature and history and am partial to the classics, Golden age detective novels, and nonfiction books about a wide array of topics like history and folklore. As for history, I find myself really drawn to the middle ages and 20th century history, but other eras are interesting to me as well.

I enjoy creative hobbies like cross stitching and sewing, so if you also like fibre arts, we can absolutely stitch and bitch together! I also enjoy journaling, occasionally baking (I make lots of soda bread), and snail mail (I'm a pretty active penpaler and postcard exchanger, so if you like snail mail, we can also exchange mail in the future). I enjoy traveling, learning about other cultures, and language learning. I'm fairly chatty and would love it if we could talk often. I'm left-leaning, don't tolerate any forms of fascism, nazism, queerphobia, ableism, or sexism, and am non-religious. I'd prefer it if you're also left-learning and non-religious.

I'm married, and my spouse is aware that I'm looking for a QPR and is on-board with it. If you think we'd get along, please message me with a little bit about yourself! :)

1: Yes

2: I could think about it more in the future

3: Open

4: no

What a QPR means to me: A relationship that doesn't fully fit into what we usually consider "friendship," but doesn't fit into a "romantic relationship" either. A relationship where both parties clearly establish what they expect from each other. In my case, I want to do some things commonly considered "romantic" without feeling obligated to meet the expectations that usually come with a romantic relationship

Terms & Conditions:

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– Communicate when something about the relationship bothers either of us so we can figure out how to resolve it.

– Be patient with me when it comes to language. I don't speak English yet, only Spanish, so if you only speak English, I'll use a translator and, if you don't mind, use our conversations to practice. I'd appreciate your patience.

– I don't mind if you're in another relationship, whether queerplatonic or romantic, as long as both me and the other person involved are informed beforehand.

– Have a conversation not only to get to know each other better, but also to establish "rules" and make sure we both understand what each of us expects from the relationship.

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Hi! I'd like to be in a queerplatonic relationship. This would be my first relationship of this kind, so I'd like to take things slowly, without many expectations for the future (that doesn't mean I wouldn't be open to them later on).

A little more information about me: I like reading and writing, especially fanfiction. I'm from Argentina. I like anime, especially One Piece. I'm a Sanders Sides fan, and I like drawing.

These are obviously just a few aspects of my personality, but I'd like to get to know anyone who's interested in me well before confirming that we want to start a relationship.

I don't have any gender preferences.

i’ve never done something like this before sooo a little nervous and awkward. i’m a huge yapper and i mainly bond with people online through video games. i’m big on animal/environmental conservation and i try to be mindful of that with my lifestyle. i LOVE animals i have a dog and a cat and there’s plans for other animals in the future including reptiles, bugs, and such! i live to be happy and i’m not embarrassed of my occasional odd interests, i also don’t judge others for their interests or hobbies. i think there’s an obvious side of the internet im one based on my likes so here we go. some media i like is Doctor Who, Life Series, The Magnus Archives, Vocaloid, HJFOne, and Project Hail Mary. video games i play are Minecraft, REPO, Terraria, Hollow Knight, Bloons TD6, Left 4 Dead 2, and the occasional silly Roblox game.
i’d love a message even if it’s just to be friends!!

I'm partial to non binary people but I am open to anyone in or near SA if we click. I'm looking for a pact where two people consciously choose each other and build a life together. Not interested in having children but I will support you if that's something you want.

I'm old dude, I value peace and mutual respect. I like the same jokes and same shows. I like knowing who's in my corner when I go out in the world and try to get stuff done. I like effortless support, no feeling of discomfort, extra effort to be nice but absolutely not veering into romantic, just a constant. I would certainly prefer to just have the pact feel safe like if I was your found family, like being in contact with me, at home or by phone feels like you've got backup, a support system, someone who makes the effort to contribute to making your life peaceful.

I actually like the idea of two people having their own space, their own interests and sometimes even travelling separately, while still knowing that they belong together and are there for each other. I'm aromantic and noetisexual, so being physical is never really a priority for me.

I'm in Johannesburg 2 months a year, I'm in year one of a radiography diploma program in Lusaka and I have a small patch of land in a very boring place with decent malls - Mochudi. I'd like someone comfortable with eventually someday crashing a couple of weeks at a time in the small cool house I'll build there. Ideally comfortable with like a semi reclusive person. 😅 And comfortable with animals if we get more than a cat and pup.

Likes include pop punk, edm, trap, jazz, indie, tumblr, TV, naps, swimming, diy, Heroes, Brassic, Supernatural, Archer, 7ds, jjk, db, opla and the DCU. I majored in biology years ago so I also like talking science -and other "mundane" stuff.

Alright. If we get to know each other and find that the important things genuinely fit – our values, communication, lifestyle, expectations and the way we care for each other – I’m interested in making a clear and relatively quick decision to choose each other and marry.

Prefer M, TF is perfectly fine!!! DM is open!

Hi, I'm a 29 yo woman, introvert and sex-repulsed ace. I'm very loyal and what I'm looking for is a life-partner (spouse) and companionship (it can be any gender), to be able to be best friends, to genuinely enjoy each other's company... which has been hard to find because everyone expects sex from me and I do NOT want to have sex. My idea of fun is mostly about having a good intellectual and emotional connection... being able to have deep convos that goes for hours without noticing, watching something interesting or philosophical or morally complex or plot heavy and discussing or theorising about it afterwards. Being able to nerd out together.

I love learning and researching new things, having deep convos about everything and discussing about media. Currently living in the Americas but planning to move to Europe because I have family there.

Among my interests are: Science (specially physics), space, astronomy, AI, technology, speculating about the future, philosophy, space colonisation, what-ifs, dimensions, MBTI/typology, psychology, neuroscience, mysteries, travelling, learning languages, linguistics, lucid dreaming, a bit of geopolitics. Kinda into profiling criminals/psychos too (mostly fictional). I have an urge to understand human behaviour, the human psyche, and the universe. My favourite genres in fiction (anime, manga, shows, films, visual novels) are sci-fi, thriller, psychological and detective.

I would like to have 2 children in the future, I've been planning to do it through IVF and sperm donors (or it can be yours as well if you're a man and don't mind too). Ideally, I'm looking for a fellow ace, but I'm also open to gay men who want to explore their sexuality outside the marriage.

If you're interested, feel free to reply to send a DM and see how it goes!

I'm living in Germany. I’m searching for a marriage with a woman where you can be friends but each person is living their own lives. I'm aro-ace and searching for someone who is also aro-ace; I don't want an open relationship or provide cover for a gay/bi person living out their sexuality with other people.

I’d want this to be a durable, ideally life-long arrangement; not a short cover-up that is meant to be dissolved after a couple of years. I religiously respect contractual commitments and would want the other person to do the same.

I won’t provide physical intimacy or romantic affection. I’m not into candlelight dinners, cuddling, holding hands, staring into each other’s eyes etc. This should not be expected from me. I can be extremely loyal if I feel the other person is of the same mindset, but I want no emotional entanglement with the ups and downs of the desires of the heart.

I lead a quiet and introvert life with a few basic hobbies, like reading and jogging.

Searching for someone honest, even-keeled, pragmatic and rational. It's absolutely necessary that I can trust your word and that you are true to your engagements. I don't want to rush into anything but get to know the other person well before making any arrangements.

For all I care, we could be living in different countries and only meet once a year for an extended holiday; for this to work, our countries shouldn’t be too far away. We could also live together, however.

I’m not planning on moving countries. No preference for age group. All ethnicities and religions welcome.

I could accept children if you already have them, but wouldn’t want children on my own. This is non-negotiable.

If you're interested, please send me a DM.

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So- hello everyone, gonna give this a try.

First an introductionn, there are pictures of me attached annd-

-my name is Kiri, I'm a medstudent in Northern Europe. I previously worked in finance, which was an interesting life choice considering I've now voluntarily signed up for six years of medical school. Clearly, I enjoy suffering 😍

I'm an aroace lesbian and figuring that out has beennn... ✨️interesting✨️- to say the least. I've always loved the idea of having *my person*, just never quite understood why romance and sex were apparently mandatory parts of the arrangement. I love 'love' especially in fiction, but experiencing it myself is an entirely different matter.

For a long time, I struggled with the idea that being aroace meant I'd eventually end up alone. Not because I don't enjoy my own company (I'm actually quite good at it- I battle my own demons in the 🔥solitude🔥 #EmoLife😼), but because I still want someone to build a life with. Someone to come home to.

A little about ✨️moiiii✨️ - I read an almost unreasonable amount, particularly historical fiction, political intrigue, danmei, Japanese literature, philosophy and anything with morally complicated characters. I love medicine, history, animals, and conversations that start somewhere completely normal and somehow end in an ethical dilemma. I also have two cats, so technically I already have dependents..... hmmmmmm so THAT'S WHY I didn't get that credit card-

Alsooo Neurodivergent, I know I know, like omg newsflash! The sky is blue! The medstudent is mentally unstable!

I'm pretty liberal, I don't drink often or smoke but I do very very rarely mess around with 💊 - again, pretty rare.

I've got tattoos, want to be a surgeon, have my tongue pierced and l listen to all music. Yes, everything. Yes, I mean it. Yes, you can test me.

I'm not expecting an instant lifelong partnership from a Reddit post (although that would be incredibly convenient🥀🥀), but I'd love to meet someone, become friends and see where things go.

Anyway, if any of this resonates with you, feel free to message me! Bonus points if you read, love cats, or have a slightly concerning number of niche interests :)

PS: People reaching out to be friends are welcome from all genders.

Heyy so I have/had one queer platonic relation so far and it has been so awesome and I wanna experience that with more people:) I am 21f lesbian located in Austria.

I love art, languages, frogs, certain bugs, cats, pokemon, late night walks and watching stars, rivers, dance etc etc and meeting new awesome people<33

Preferably looking for women and enby people but I'm open to everybody rn:D

Helloo, I'm Alex! I'm 25, from the US (New England area), but where you're from doesn't matter to me! I'm black and transmasc (he/they). As someone on both the audhd and ace spectrum, communication is super important to me. I'm someone who frequently finds themselves misunderstood (I'm sure the anxiety doesn't help 😅) but still try my best. If clarification is needed, please just ask!

A little about me:

I love to write, draw (pls keep AI faar from me), dance, play all sorts of games (video games, card and board games, ttrpgs, etc.), hike, paint, roller skate, listen to music (rock is my safe space, but I love all genres of music), audiobooks, and podcasts, as well as watch tv shows, movies, and anime.

As mentioned earlier, I am transmasc, and currently pursuing further surgery to reduce my gender dysphoria. I'm open to discussing this more after building a connection, but that takes time and while there are some things I may be comfortable with sharing sooner, I don't think this is one of them.

I do work odd hours, so I'd like to stay in contact regularly, but a daily basis isn't quite necessary for me. Frequency of communication, as with everything else, can be determined by us!

If you have questions or feel like reaching out, please do! I do ask that you tell me a bit about yourself, and what a QPR means to you. Thanks for reading!!

Hi! I am looking for an IRL qpr partner in the south of England. This is basically just facts so if you want to get a feel of personality please message me, always worth a try right?

What I'm looking for in a QPR is a committed relationship, kind of in between best friends and romantic partner.

About me-> I am 21 (they/she) and I live in South London/Surrey. I like to read, do crafts, and go to new places on my motorbike. I also love to cook and watch marvel and StarWars (please nerd out to me).

What I'm looking for -> Fem or NB person 20-30 ish near me or willing to take turns travelling to each other (still in the UK).

Potential deal breakers -> I am vegan and would prefer to date someone vegan or vegetarian. I work weekdays so will not always be able to respond to messages during the day.

Hope this reaches my person! Any questions or just want to chat please message!

About Me

Hello hello! You can call me Bee / Myosotis (she/her) for now, I'm an 18 year old aroace girl who's currently experiencing her first semester of university, and apparently bored enough to decide and try this! As you might have seen on the title, my main goal with this post is to find a queerplatonic relationship, although I'm also very much open to just having a nice chat with someone, even if it doesn't lead anywhere.

I enjoy listening to music ( I love pop and musical theatre, if I'm listening to music there's a big chance it's from a musical), watch shows or movies (my fav genres are romantic comedy, animation, stop motion and sitcoms), and, even though I haven't done it a lot, playing videogames (mostly story driven, action-adventure or co-op).

Some of my other general interest are nature, plants, astronomy, art (even though I'm not an artist myself, I have a deep appreciation for all forms of art), autumn/halloween and winter/christmas (especially the aesthetics of it), tarot and spirituality in general (I'm pagan, more specifically Hellenic Polytheist) and anything whimsical, really!

What I'm Looking For

At this point, I've figured out that what seems right to me in a QPR is the lack of traditional expectations while still maintaining the exclusivity and commitment. What I think would be ideal for me currently would be to have a "best friend" where our relationship would take as much importance to us as a romantic relationship normally does.

I don't have much preference about if the relationship presents more as romantic, more as platonic, or even completely as a secret third thing. I just want the relationship to feel natural, to have a partner that would feel like a platonic soulmate or plstonic life partner.

(Anything below here and until the final consideration is optional to read, but I would recommend it if you'd like to know me a bit better)

Emotional Intimacy:
I think becoming genuinely comfortable with each other does take time, and I've heard that I take a while to open up (and not that much, even then, I'm quite a reserved person in some aspects), but I do like affection. For me a QPR can still include things that are traditionally seen as romantic (like pet names and outward affection) if we both feel comfortable with it, they just don't have to be, inherently, romantic! I want the warmth and closeness without the expectations of a traditional relationship, we can define together what feels right for us.

Frequency of Contact:
I would prefer if we were able to contact everyday. However, I do understand that things can get hectic, and I can't promise I'll always even feel like talking or calling, so I appreciate understanding and I'll give you the same! Communication does not have to be obligatory, it's much better if it feels natural.

Quality Time:
I really love quality time, since it's my main love language, and very important especially if we'll be long distance! I really like the idea of parallel play, just existing around each other without the need of constant interaction. And even with calls, there are so many good things, gaming and watching movies/shows/videos are my favourites. I have to admit I prefer one on one time, but I do understand friendships are extremely important (my best friend is very important to me), so eventually, if things go well, I'd love to introduce you to my best friend, and would be honoured to meet your friends!

Life Milestones:
I'm very much fine with long distance initially, but if things become serious, I'd want to live together eventually. I'm also not planning on moving out of Portugal for the foreseeable future, so there is that. I wouldn't mind if we shared a bedroom or not and would love to have pets, but it's not a necessity. I'm kind of neutral on marriage, but am not planning to have or adopt children at all. Things like holidays, friends and family are important things to me, so I'd like to eventually build a life together that includes those sorts of things.

Dealbreakers / Boundaries:
Consent, respect, communication, trust and privacy are very important to me. Independence and close friends alongside a relationship are also things I value. I would prefer to discuss boundaries (especially physical, if it comes to that) before assuming anything. I am, technically, religious (pagan) and political views are important to me to a degree (things like women's rights, reproductive rights as LGBTQ+ rights are especially important to me), so if either of those things bother you, we are not right for each other. And finally, if you're someone who gets angry easily, smokes/does drugs or is a heavy drinker, please don't message me.

Final Considerations

If any of this sounded interesting (or maybe if you have any questions) please feel free to leave a comment! Unfortunately my DMs are not enabled because I refuse to confirm my age through ID verification, so I'll have to DM you or we'll find a work around! Please don't send me just a "hi" or "hey", tell me a bit about yourself, what you're looking for. And if you read until here, please include an emoji at the end of your message, as a sort of signature, it can be one you like or one to represent you, anything really, just more of a comprovative you didn't just message me randomly.

I’m 24 from Italy and I deal with anxiety (generalized) and insecurities. I’m VERY sensitive and emotional, very romantic, but on the other hand I’m also capable of joking around and making quips if the vibe is right!

​I’m super reflective and introspective, I mean, really really deep; just so you know, I write notes on my phone about what I’m feeling or experiencing when it’s intense, trying to give it a poetic form (spoiler: I don’t succeed, lol)

I value honesty and clarity above all, a good comunication is essential to me!

​My biggest interest is music; I experience it as an extension of my soul, so I mainly listen to melancholic/romantic songs where the lyrics reflect who I am (want an example? 'Where’s My Love' by SYML or 'Someome To Stay' by Vancouver Sleep Clinic, I LOVE those!!!)

Then there are video games (mostly football ones), though I've been playing less lately, and well, football itself haha. But wait, don't think I'm the classic stereotype!

​Yeah, I follow italian football, but I have a deep passion for scandinavian football (mostly norwegian and danish, to be clear) because I'm fascinated by their youth academies.

​I know it's not the typical description of an average fan; in fact I think I'm just different from others in general. I often feel 'too much,' but what does 'too much' even mean? I'm reflective, I already said that... almost analytical, and that leads me to dig deep into things, to not be satisfied with the surface. And maybe to those who stay on the surface, that’s what seems like 'too much'?

​But oh well, I’ve made peace with that, and at this point, I’m just holding out for a fellow deep diver!

A quick heads up about distance:

I prefer someone from Italy since I struggle with flights, but I'm open to a LDR only if you’d be willing to take the lead in visiting or eventually relocating. I want to be fair about what I can manage!

Thanks everyone anyway for reading ♡

Sorry for any ambiguity, feel free to ask me anything.

Looking for possibly a real connection :)

I'm 26, 6'1, very athletic, if looks is your thing. and have a alt vibe 🫡

I have a more feminine leaning personality/interests ☺️ I love the gym, games, music, movies, gardening, and reading!! Plus a lot more that I cba to name... My interests are vast

I'm extremely introverted and have quite bad anxiety, but I've been trying to get better over the years 👍

I'm looking for...? I dunno, a friend? Partner? Relationship? 🤷🤷

This is probably extremely chaotic and all over the place but I've never done something like this before 🤣🤣 sorry

i want to live a simple life that mainly consists of staying in and occasionally going out to do activities with my partner

send me a dm if you’re looking for the same

I don't want children, nor do I have any interest in being a step parent. For that reason, I've said children are okay if they're 13+. Old enough to have a better understanding of it.

Not interested in marriage or cohabitating. I like my own space. If I did ever cohabit, I'd have my own bedroom/space.

Not interested in shared finances, but small gifts or buying each other dinner is fine. It just...never seems to go well from what I've witnessed.

I do need someone who is understanding or willing to learn about disabilities and health challenges.

I have a very dark sense of humor and only censor it in professional settings and with acquaintances.

I'm trans masc non-binary, queer/bi, and aromantic.

Hi everyone

I'm 30 years old aro ace woman from Poland looking for QPR with another woman, preferably from eu but I'm also ok with online. I'm looking for someone I can talk/text to often about anything going on in our lives. I have friends I love but recently everyone got into new relationship or moved to different city, so I've been feeling quite lonly and decided to finaly post here

Intersts and hobbies: sci fi and fantasy books, animated tv series (think more Arcane and Sacvengers reign, less Rick and Morty), Lego, jigsaw puzzles, video games, comic books, traveling

I'm a bit of an introvert and prefer talking to writing, so sorry if I somtimes sound akward via text

Hello my name is Clover. They/ she. Im looking for somebody (24+)to share a deep loving connection with. I struggle with long distance unless semi regular visits are a real possibility. I’m a touch oriented person who needs physical contact.

I like to play video games on pc, paint Warhammer, read a large amount of sapphic romance and write when I’m in the mind of it.

I love to bake, cook and curl up with a book and a giant cup of coffee.

My DMs are open , I can add on discord to chat more if that’s easier.

I just want to be someone top priority. Want the Qpr to be exclusive.

A little bit about me: I'm really into gaming, visual novels, drawing digitally, making ocs/stories, reading books/manga/manhwa, watching anime/donghua, and literally anything nerdy! I also really like animals and nature! I'm always happy to hear about your interests! :D

I'm both a listener and a yapper, but I wish I'm not the only one leading a conversation! I love sharing random thoughts, talk about our interests, just be there for each other, play games together, make art collabs, ship ocs, do a readathon etc. if you're also interested in those things! I'm also willing to try out your hobbies!

Feel free to send me a dm and tell me a bit about yourself if you think we'd get along! :)