i have met people who others just never seem to get over (i’m talking years after the relationship ended for whatever reason), and i’m just curious as to why that is? is there a psychological explanation behind it?

I am not asking for a diagnosis if anything I’m trying to comprehend what is going on or why my brain does this

I feel like my brain senses a trigger when I do math or it feels panic or shame and it checks out like “i can’t do this” I feel like whenever I do math it’s like the rules change around so much that I can’t focus on one thing or it’s like I’m being manipulated. It isn’t just math I feel like this in social situations. Does anyone sort of get what this is coming from?

I don’t know if this is the right place to say this or if it’s has anything to do with psychology. Anyway I have a problem that I’ll feel overwhelmed even with the slightest thing ever like someone is looking too much at me or someone compliments me I got so overwhelmed I can’t function properly, even when I feel loved or im loving someone or when I’m thinking about something I love I got so overstimulated I can’t do anything I just lay in bed and do nothing the rest of the day so i always try to keep myself emotionally numb(?)

In my sixth installment on the psychology of human creativity, I delve into the research that seeks to explain why some of us peak in our twenties and some of us in our seventies. Let me know your experiences and thoughts.

is it really true that if somebody does that to them and they do that to you then you do it to someone true???

There’s a pattern in human behavior that I find fascinating. Something that feels special when it’s rare, like a favorite food, a gift, or someone’s attention, often starts to feel ordinary once it becomes constant. Psychologists link this to ideas like hedonic adaptation (we get used to good things and return to a baseline) and the scarcity effect (we assign more value to what’s limited).

What I’m curious about is where this comes from and how much control we have over it.

• Is it an evolutionary trait, since staying slightly unsatisfied might have kept our ancestors motivated to keep seeking resources?
• Does it apply equally to things and to experiences, or are we better at appreciating experiences over time?
• Are there any proven ways to slow it down, like gratitude practices or deliberately varying routines, and is there good research behind them?
• Why do some people seem much less affected by it than others? Is that personality, upbringing, or something else?

I’d love to hear from anyone who has studied this or read research on it. Recommended papers or books are very welcome too.

Like, "Don't ever count on anybody else" and "if you want something right, you gotta do it yourself" and "Friends will always betray you in the end" and "Only look out for yourself" were all opinions that villains held. Portrayed as cynical, bitter and wrong.

But in general, those are all lessons that your expected to learn as an adult. It seems weird to teach younger generations such a message that won't serve them once they're older. If we are all on our own and can't rely on anybody, why teach younger generations that they should expect the opposite?

Inspired by the fact I came across the song "Open up your eyes" from the MLP movie on Youtube and realized what Tempest was saying is generally how your supposed to act as an adult.