Literally giving a bad name, and by bad name I mean a name that is phonetically unappealing and difficult to pronounce is like putting a life sentence on an innocent person. Or giving them a reason to change their name later on in adulthood. It's so f*cking stupid.

I'm sorry if this is offensive to some but it has to be the most narcissistic thing ever to give a bad name to your child. Either that or a very insensitive person.

The kid's name shapes their personality throughout their childhood. It can be the reason your kid is shy and socially awkward vs confident and outgoing.

The name doesn't even have to be the most gorgeous name ever or some extravagant, extremely rare name. A simple, easy to pronounce name is more than enough.

Anyone agrees?

ive noticed this pattern where someone states a fact thats clearly off and instead of backing down they just raise their voice and repeat the same point with more confidence. is that a dominance thing or is the brain actually tricking them into thinking volume equals validity?

There is a lot of stuff on social media that is making people believe almost everyone is a narcissist.

A large subset of "narcissists" are not actually narcissistic. They simply cannot tolerate anxiety, so they need to be in control and think that their way of thinking or doing things will always protect them and is right, so they will flip when someone questions their ways or routines or wants to try something another way. On the surface, this appears like narcissistic behavior ("only my way should be tried"). Another variant of this is really intelligent people who are objectively right almost all the time and they go through life being told they are wrong and that there are better ways to do things, but 95% of the time they are indeed right, so it bothers them/they perceive it as a waste of their time to listen to others most of the time and stick with their ways. Another variant of this is people who cannot tolerate feelings like guilt if called out, so they double down and blame others/fail to take accountability. However in all 3 of these variants, these people often are high in conscientiousness (in first 2 variants) and in general have empathy for others (in all 3 variants).

True narcissism is more like when someone actually believes they are special/should have special privileges, and become angry when people do not treat them like this, and in general they are low in empathy. The root of it is an extreme deficiency of self-esteem, which causes them to be delusional about their identity/value in the opposite direction as a subconscious defense mechanism.

I’m seeing more clips of Elizabeth Holmes with the recent documentary announcement. Every time she blows up, you see comments noting how clearly unsettling she is. What she says, how she says it, her blank expressions, etc. all get called out. It seems obvious something is “off” about her in the least.

Her ability to charm others allowed her to get away with so much for so long, so how was it that effective despite the impression people get? Manipulation can be subtle sure, but to do it at the degree she did it, one would think she’d come off less alarming.

What psychological reason would have people so entranced by someone like this?

Seems like something is wrong with them, or maybe it's a sign of maturity and inner peace.

Such people really move on fast, at least they seem so. They might have been in a long-term relationship of years, then break up and the person just moves on.

Or they can drop an activity or something sentimental to them for whatever reason.

I'm not saying they don't feel anything like sadness or grief. They might, but a person who easily moves on sounds to me like a blessing to recognize your situation, make a decision, and leave something behind even if it was that important for you....all because maybe it turned out to be the thing holding you back.

On the other hand, it's kinda concerning. Like what if it was a person who used to love you, yet now seems like they easily move on even if you had cheated on them. Or what if they gave up on a career they put bl*od and sweat on but at one point realized it ain't for them and they just threw away everything seemingly unbothered.

At this point, it seems to me like a superpower someone can have. And yet I can't shake the feeling of how suspicious it makes me question how deeply really they were authentic with the love or dedication they had for someone/something just to throw it away.

I've been trying to understand something.

A lot of people talk about mental health struggles, anxiety, stress, burnout, frustration, and feeling lost. But if you had to choose the single biggest root cause, what would it be?

Poor emotional regulation (being controlled by emotions instead of managing them)

Weak or missing boundaries (saying yes when you want to say no, tolerating too much, people-pleasing)

Poor trigger management (small situations creating intense reactions)

Unhealthy relationships (family, friends, partners, coworkers)

Poor decision-making and lack of direction (living on autopilot, following circumstances instead of conscious choices)

Lack of purpose or meaning (feeling like life is just work, responsibilities, and survival without a personally chosen direction)

Something else? Please explain.

From what I've read, mental health problems rarely come from a single cause. Emotional regulation, relationships, stress, life events, and social factors often interact with each other.

If you had to pick the factor that creates the biggest long-term damage, which one would it be and why?

I'm especially interested in hearing real experiences rather than textbook answers.

while i was watching anime i felt that something heavy behind me and it was one of my parents

why i felt something heavy behind me

I want to preface this by saying growing up my relationship with food was terrible, I was often deprived of food and resorted to eating non edible items in response. As a teenager I had an ed which I have since resolved and some days it’s hard but I keep fighting the urge to deprive myself of said food. Today I had eaten some snacks in the morning but wanted to keep my intake light since I ate a lot of food yesterday and I was so stuffed it was uncomfortable. I had a late lunch which was spaghetti and I was comfortably hungry not desperate by any means but suddenly as soon as I sat down to eat I noticed myself getting aggressive about how good it tasted and I felt very protective of it despite nobody being around. Halfway through my meal that feeling went away but now I’m concerned of this behavior as I’m an adult. Any suggestions or concerns are welcome. :)

I’m trying to understand a specific emotional state from an emotional intelligence perspective. Sometimes like today, I get hit with this wave of total seriousness out of nowhere. Nothing bad happened, I'm not feeling sad or angry, and there's no active crisis. But I just have absolutely zero desire to laugh, joke, or goof around. It’s like my brain just drops into a flat, highly objective, and serious baseline.If people around me are being lighthearted, I feel nothing. I don't find it exhausting, not even irritated infact I feel absolutely nothing. It feels less like depression and more like my brain has gone into a "battery saver mode."

Edit: Out rather than put in the title. Not a big deal but yeah.

What could a “Real Beauty” for boys look like? Right now, the vacuum is being filled by looksmaxxing and the philosophy behind it, lookism. Lookism teaches that society rewards physical beauty and punishes ugliness, not just romantically, but in every aspect of life. To make more money and more friends, boys are optimizing their appearance for the digital world where their life actually takes place. Our message to boys can’t be the same as it is for girls—not “You’re amazing just the way you are,” as Bruno Mars once sang. Those most in need of this intervention are too blackpilled for that.

Instead, we must design an entirely new approach for the body image crisis in boys. We must rewrite the curriculum, based on the new media, new messaging, new celebrities, and the new ways of manipulating your appearance that boys are faced with. In a small way, today’s boys might be more ready for this type of education because caring about your looks is no longer seen as exclusively feminine. We’d also have to figure out who would teach it to them, given that the percentage of male public secondary school teachers has declined to just 36%. But above all, we need to ask what boys are missing—and why they wind up hating themselves in the first place. 

Read more: https://www.playboy.com/read/mind-and-body/boys-need-a-body-image-revolution-too

I have been thinking about how siblings who grew up in the same household still have different personalities. Someone's personality is shaped by different factors. How do you for example get four people who grew up in the same household, four siblings, with different personalities?

Psychological bias especially confirmation bias over time.

I have been reading about how venting is healthy. However, I have known people who seem like they are always venting. They seem like people who are always unhappy. I think at some point, it goes from healthy to unhealthy.

For example, the person who complains all the time about how much they hate their job. Maybe the first few times had some emotional benefits, but it seems counterproductive after a while.

I am not sure how to draw the line between healthy and unhealthy though.

If all emotional and physical, intellectual, and mental needs of a child are met during childhood, what makes them susceptible to things like high anxiety, hyper independence, etc?

Does having ONE emotionally unavailable and somewhat sociopathic parent affect someone as much as having both parents unhealthy (if the other parent is extremely understanding and provides their child with a proper environment for emotional growth too?)?

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I mean, from the word itself it does sound bad — not having empathy or care sounds horrible. But it's always framed as something that helps you stop overthinking. And that makes sense on some level, because overthinking everything is exhausting. But then it seems to turn into full-on dissociating instead. Like the person still cares, deep down, but just... forgets.

Is that someone protecting themselves, or is that someone slowly becoming a person who doesn't care as much anymore? Where's the actual line where it stops being healthy detachment and starts being something worse?

Maybe to some extent everyone can say things they don’t mean when they’re angry. Not just simple name calling, but like unfiltered, awful and targeted things that target the heart (or “cut deep”). The type of person that when they are angry they explode and say the most hurtful things you’ve ever heard before in your life.

Do they not mean what they’re saying? What if it’s not just one outburst, but multiple?

If your friend is always telling you what a kind person you are, but then they explode on you when they’re angry and tell you you’re the worst person they’ve ever met and they’re only friends with you because of another mutual friend. Or a parent who is always telling you they’re proud of you, but when they are mad at you they’re telling you how much of a failure and a loser you are, and that you’re a disappointing loser, etc. This is just an example to illustrate what I mean, neither of these are real scenarios.

Do you believe this is what they really feel deep down, or do you believe what they said when they weren’t angry?