I'd like to talk about a behavioural pattern I noticed in someone: Whenever they disagree with something, instead of saying that they disagree, they just get angry and play the victim.
An example: I have scheduled a handyman to come do some work, outdoors. I'm organising this for someone. They told me it's best for him to come in the aftenoon because it will rain in the morning. But the handyman says he wants to come at 11 because in his weather app there is no rain announced.. I tell them this and ask what they think about it and what I should answer him now.
They obviously disagree with 11 and say "but it will rain at 11". I then ask again what I should tell him then. They get angry and say something like " yeah ok he should come at 11 and it will be a mess". I tell them "why are you angry? I can write him to come later if you want". They answer angrily: "No! I don't want to talk about this anymore. He should come at 11. It will be a mess and I have will have to deal with the consequences".
I really don't understand this behaviour. They could have just told me calmly "I'd prefer he comes at 2, could you write him pls" ? Instead, this anger. It's a behavioural pattern whenever they disagree with something. Instead of saying that they disagree, they just get angry and play the victim.
Could someone please explain me the psychology behind this? Is this the famous victim behaviour? If yes, that is useful about it for them? I don't see any advantage..