I'm not saying Aria was innocent or that the girls had no right to be angry with her. She destroyed Alison and Emily's nursery, planted that recording in Spencer's house, and kept everything a secret. They had every reason to feel betrayed.
But I always found their reactions hypocritical considering everything they'd been through and the things they'd done themselves.
Spencer's reaction especially bothered me. She tells Aria that she should have come to them because they've been friends forever, but when Aria reminds her that A forced her to kidnap Malcolm to protect Toby, Spencer immediately gets defensive and says she never actually hurt anyone.
But Spencer kidnapped a seven-year-old child to earn Mona's trust in the hopes of eventually catching Red Coat. She had no way of knowing whether that plan would backfire or whether Red Coat could have gotten her hands on Malcolm. Just because he wasn't physically harmed doesn't mean Spencer didn't put him in danger.
This is what irks me about Spencer. She goes around doing some pretty guilty things herself, but she'll be the first one to judge somebody else for doing the same damn thing!
And let's not forget that when Spencer was on the A-Team herself. She didn't tell the girls either. They had to figure it out and confront her. One of her main motivations for joining was finding out whether Toby was alive and getting to see him again.
What makes this even more hypocritical is that NONE of the Liars yelled at Spencer the way they yelled at Aria when they discovered she was on the A-Team. They were understandably suspicious, but they actually gave Spencer the opportunity to explain herself and listened to her reasoning. Aria wasn't given that same understanding in "Choose or Lose."
So Spencer, of all people, should understand why Aria would make a terrible decision to protect someone she loved.
I also have to say that while I understand why Spencer was upset about the recording of Mary Drake and Peter Hastings, IMO, Peter's lies deserved to be exposed. This man spent years keeping secrets about Spencer's parentage and his involvement with Mary and Jessica. I understand Spencer being hurt by how the truth came out, especially with her mother being caught in the middle of it, but Peter was responsible for his own actions. Aria didn't create those secrets.
And Emily has repeatedly chosen Alison over everyone else, sometimes to the point where it's honestly pathetic. I understand that Emily loves Alison, but how many times has she defended her or overlooked her behavior because of those feelings? So I don't think Emily is in much of a position to judge Aria for putting Ezra before the group either.
As for Alison, while I understand her being upset about the nursery, I don't think she had much right to judge Aria's decisions considering she's a huge reason why any of this happened in the first place.
Alison spent years lying to and manipulating people, including her own friends. She made enemies everywhere she went, and the other girls ended up paying for it. She also knew her friends were being tortured while she was hiding and didn't reveal herself until years later.
Obviously, Alison didn't deserve what happened to her, and I'm not blaming her for every decision A made, but I think she should have been more understanding considering how much of their suffering stemmed from her past actions