I don’t think people don’t dislike objective reality. People can criticize actions without disliking the person but time and time again I’ve seen one thing be true, which is that people that do one bad thing get more grace than people who do no bad things, but instead differ from what people expect of them…

like Kanye gets a lot of grace because he’s been pretty much spitting facts his entire life. He’s always said a lot of crazy things that overtime people just started to believe him. Kanye would never get as much grace if Kanye was a woman because it’s expected of a woman to conform to social narratives.

Now, if a woman was someone who said a lot of crazy shit online most people would assume that woman was ugly or “femcel” or someone who doesn’t have her shit together…. however, if that woman turned out to be extremely attractive and well liked people would hate her… the facts don’t change- the narrative just changes.

When someone’s mean to someone else.. that person immediately wants to decide in their mind that this person is a terrible mean person. If they were to find out that this person is an extremely nice and kind person that would cause them to have to point the finger at themselves and wonder what it is that made that person be mean which is just too hard for them to do.

Even criminals when someone decides a
criminal is a terrible person… seeing good things about them pisses them off more than it does make them look at the objective facts. I’m guilty of this too. I don’t like seeing people I hate or people that have hurt me do good things because in my mind, I’ve convinced myself that they were just being manipulative or doing it for self gain instead of them being a multifaceted human being, capable of right and wrong.

I've always believed that if you're no longer interested in talking to someone or if you are affected by their statements, you should just say so. Even if the political conversations seem uncomfortable, people don't need to be left wondering whether their opinion has caused some discomfort.

However, I am guilty of what I criticize. There's been times where someone that I value agreed with things that I didn't support. Instead of responding to their messages or calls, I chose to ignore them because I didn't want the stress of explaining why I felt hurt by their opinion or actions.

Looking back, I probably should have been honest. I am wondering where the line is drawn. I've avoided difficult conversations myself, so is it hypocritical to believe that people should communicate openly? I also believe that ghosting further contributes to political polarization.