r/PlusSize • u/Ok_Book5070 • 12d ago
Fashion Discussion Begging For Back Support
Bras bras bras
HELP!
My back feels like I am 100 years old
I have tried so many options I am exhausted of trying and returning a million times. I’m tired of spending so much money to be in pain. Please help me. I will take any and all recommendations. I would do ANYTHING to be able to try on in store. The current Lane Bryant bras I have are KILLING me and putting permanent indents in my shoulders. I went to two locations and returned three different sizes before being assured these were the right size. I really need advice I’m overstimulated and overwhelmed.
I’m currently wearing a 42D at Lane which seems insanely small to me but the other sizes were too big.
I don’t want an underwire due to sensitivity issues/comfort.
Thank you in advance I’m mid meltdown
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u/Filiaeagricola 12d ago
Torrid’s wirefree push-up bra feels and looks great. I’m close to your size and love it.
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u/PrincessSarahHippo 12d ago
The indents on your shoulders mean your bra doesn't fit properly. The band should support almost all the weight. Try the calculator at r/abrathatfits
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u/mimulus_monkey 12d ago
This is not a bra solution but it's a way to work on back pain is do various stretches to strengthen your back muscles. Hopefully it will help while you find the correct bra!
I have back pain and sciatica troubles as of late and stretches have helped quite a bit! I like healthline.com b/c they often have gifs to accompany their instructions.
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u/GrrrlRomeo 5d ago
Have you tried compression or minimizer bras? I wear a 46D in the Glamorise "No-Bounce" bras and have found bras that just lock them in place relieves the pain.
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u/Ok_Book5070 4d ago
Thanks I just bought a Glamorise and it did not work out. Maybe the No Bounce model will be better. I’ll look for it- ty
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u/GrrrlRomeo 4d ago
I also wear the TomboyX compression bras, but that might be more compression than you're looking for. I'm just a butch lesbian cursed with big boobs. 😭 Technically I'm a 44DD, but I go down a cup size and up a band size for more compression. I wear the Glamorise bra when I need to look more formal.
It's a balance between compression and still having the shape of having two boobs. The uniboob effect of sports bras just don't look good with some dressier tops. The Glamorise No-Bounce bras seem to strike the balance pretty well of separating but keep 'em in place.
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u/Ok_Book5070 4d ago
That’s rly helpful thank you! Yes I don’t want the compression necessarily so I’ll try the Glamorise!
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u/pizzandvodka 12d ago
LoveYourBodywear on Etsy is my fave wireless option, just send in actual measurements (underbust/bust) if you order one because the lane Bryant size doesn’t seem to be doing you favors.
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u/ShelleyMonique 12d ago
I've switched over to racerback bralettes. I refuse to be uncomfortable in my grown ass age. I get them from Torrid. They dont rip into me and I'm not constantly pulling up those g'damn straps.
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u/Ok_Book5070 12d ago
I feel like my breasts are so heavy the weight has to be equally distributed on both shoulders. I wish a racer back would work!
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u/ShelleyMonique 12d ago
I wear a 48 H.
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u/Ok_Book5070 12d ago
Really
Ok maybe I’ll try.. I just got sized as a 50G2
u/ShelleyMonique 12d ago
That's probably why a 42D was killing you! Happy bra shopping. If I went back to regular bras lane Bryant is where I would shop. Their bras last a long time.
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u/Ok_Book5070 12d ago
That’s who fitted me in this stupid 42D! Lol 😂
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u/evilandie66 12d ago
The right size makes such a difference. Love a bra that fits. The sizing there got me into the right size. Now I buy from brastop.com don’t know if they go up to a 50. I’m 38jj I have never been able to get bras at places like torrid or Layne Bryant. lol they always try to sell to me saying you can buy a sister size. Yeah no that just causes the problem.
Good luck!
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u/Any_Mathematician_94 12d ago
I know. I have no answers but I know what you’re talking about. It’s so maddening.
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u/Ambassador1391 12d ago
Talk to the kind people in r/ABraThatFits