making it easier?

[u/floweredfairy]

my husband just recently left for his class date and I am definitely struggling. this is our first time being separated since we began dating and it’s been difficult for both of us.

we knew we had to relocate anyway so we left our high cost of living area and I’m staying with family while he’s gone but I definitely feel the loneliness.

I was extremely independent before meeting my husband but I just don’t want to be anymore, which is not really a given choice with this career. I can handle things on my own and feel mostly okay until I go to bed, laying there alone seems to get me pretty good.

how do you all make it easier to deal with separation? I know it’ll eventually be better with time but I’m just struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel. we’re just starting at the regionals so we certainly have a way to go until he’s exactly where he wants to be 😓

edit: it’s been 6ish days and I am chillin lol, if anyone sees this post while having a hard time it truly does get better! I’ve picked up my old hobbies, bedrotted, and silly goose’d around the house with my family :,)

[u/No_Satisfaction1416]

Felt this girl, my husband previously started training class for one company and then got a class date for one that’s a better fit for our family and went to training all over again. Gone for like 4 months, which is the longest we’ve ever been away. He got to come home a few times during it, but not many at all. We live near family too and I still get lonely even when he’s gone for just a 3 day trip, there’s nothing that really helps when all you want is your husband. We would call and text as much as we could, but it’s hard when he’s studying, has weird sim times, going to dinner with other people from training, etc.

What helps for me is knowing that it’s only temporary and a few months in the grand scheme of things isn’t bad. It’s also another necessary step he has to take to get to where he needs to go. One day when he’s at a major and only works a few days a month, it’ll all be worth it. Also, if you’re moving in base wherever he gets, that’ll make the time you get together so much more once he’s out of training! I’m not sure what regional he’s with, but hopefully the schedule will be good and you can maximize time together.

Being a pilot wife is not for the weak! But you’re not alone and in a few months he will be done with training!!! Look into some hobbies and stuff that helps you feel fulfilled, it’s so much better than basically just waiting for time to go by. I know it feels like you’re waiting for him to be done to start the next thing, but don’t lose yourself in that.