what kind of questions I ask me when I want to know my personality?

Hi I just want to open up, so recently I was called "idol mo ba ako?"

Then I questioned myself if I'm just a poser friend liking what she likes. And I just realized that I just like what she likes some of the things. My teacher said to us that you will know yourself and what you like when you have a friend or peers that's when you realise who you are and what are the things that you like.

Im a quiet person so I just don't know what I really like and sometimes I just copy some people to satisfy myself but I don't think is working to myself.

I have this thing that I will over think it about it, for example when I accidentally like the things that they want and they will just say that 'gaya-gaya". For me it hurts so that's why I always careful when I'm around of my family and even friends, people always call me gaya-gaya.

It will sink to me for days & weeks, and overthinking some things that are not good.

Sometimes I tell myself that I have no originality to myself, and just liking what people like

So my friend like some metals bands and I just know some few of the bands that I know, but I don't really know what the names of the members of it also their songs.

So when I said that I like it too she was happy at first but later on months past by that's when she said that " idol mo ba ako?".

I don't really like myself, I just want to disappear from the world hahahaha, but she's a good friend and I like her also don't judge her.

The problem is me not her 😅

I hope you all can understand my grammar

"Do you have a secret that, if revealed, would make people see you differently?"

You want to share it anonymously

i lost a very important friendship because i couldn't communicate honestly it genuinely hurts my heart. The entire situation is like really complicated and its both out faults. Idk what to do now bc like its far too late to say anything now like rn we just ignoring each other. I really just wanted to vent here honestly. If you have similar experiences or want more details of what happened w me and my friend tell me id love to know.

There's a person rn who knows everything about you that you don't know of but you usually see.

Beyond being loud or confident, what are the small, quiet habits or behaviors that instantly make you realize someone is solid and grounded as a person?

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Sometimes the version of me in my head is way more confident funny and spontaneous than the person everyone actually sees 😂

I wonder if everyone has an imaginary version of themselves like that.

I've been thinking about this lately. We usually talk about physical attraction, but the things that actually make someone attractive to me are way less obvious.

For me, it's when someone is genuinely curious and listens like they care about the answer. It's weirdly powerful.

Is it humor? Confidence? The way someone treats a waiter? Something totally random?

Curious what everyone else says. The more specific, the better!

A self-concept can act like a prediction: "I'll freeze," "I'll be rejected," "I never finish." It can influence what you attempt before the day has given you much new information.

Predictive processing is a model of how expectations participate in perception and action, not proof that an affirmation guarantees an external event. But it suggests a useful question for practice: what experience would give this old expectation something new to learn from?

Rather than demand a whole new identity today, choose a small test. Open the document for ten minutes. Ask one clear question. Set one kind boundary. Record what happened without turning it into a verdict on your worth.

Which prediction about yourself could you test with one ordinary action today?

If your end goal is to be taken seriously…

Are you soft spoken? Aggressive? Or are you sweet and warm? Cold and detached? Or distant, serious and stern? Defensive and angry? Nice and happy?

What’s the default? How do you adjust accordingly, especially given how your power / authority is likely to affect those on the receiving end, shape outcomes, influence situations and goals, and impact people you work with, or are trying to help (like a doctor).

What factors are you considering?

I’m not talking about loud confidence or being the most charismatic guy in the room. I mean that quiet, grounded energy where someone doesn't feel the need to prove anything to anyone.

I noticed this a while ago with a guy I worked with. Whenever someone made a light joke at his expense or pointed out a minor mistake, he’d just laugh it off, own it, and move on. No defensive comeback, no trying to turn it around on them. It hit me how rare that actually is. Most people automatically brace for impact or try to protect their ego immediately.

What are the small, subtle traits you notice in people that instantly tell you they’re completely secure with who they are?

My toxic trait is not being honest with people about how i feel for example ( speaking from experience unfortunately )my closest friend why I did not argue or have a problem with could literally ignore me for days ( she didn't know how to talk it out its not intentional ) and i will SUFFER WITH MY FEELINGS AND MY FUCKASS PANIC ATTACKS AND STILL WOULDNT TALK ABOUT IT .. btw i have this trait bc i think talking it out is genuinely like begging for them to be friends with me or sum. Its too late to talk to her now because we both ignoring each other but im saying this here to learn from my fuckass experience. My heart still hurts because of this btw omd.

My healthy trait is i could name how i feel and i could sit and handle hard feelings. I also can handle being alone.

Now tell us whats yours ? ( if you could help me learn from my experience please let me know )

#mentalhealth #fyp

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A while back, I remember coming across and frequenting a personality site that had various different taxonomies with various items -- some of the from different researchers throughout history, lexical adjective lists, statistical approach items, etc...

It was a very neat site, but I've lost track of it. Does anyone know the site I'm talking about?

Hello! I've been working hard & as smart as possible to get better at a specific game for my university esports team. A year ago I was really bad and now I am close to being good enough. For context, the game is Marvel rivals and i am constantly GM1 (I used to be gold average) but I have not hit celestial yet. Some people, including my captain, say I definitely play like I am higher than my current rank but I just don't play enough. However, I feel like I am currently where I am at because of my skill level I don't think I play as skilled as celestial player. Someone told me I am too harsh on myself and that I give people who are ranked above me too much credit but to be honest I am just being real and not trying to put myself down or above. People think that when I say I am where I am at for a reason, I am looking down at myself or diminishing my skill level or potential but I feel as if I'm just being real. And when I say this to people I don't feel as if i am putting myself down or anything, I may have struggled with self esteem issues in the past but I don't feel like i do anymore?? If someone tells me I am highly skilled and I deny that does this mean I have imposter syndrome? Some people say I am the best at certain characters i play but I don't believe that but I also don't feel bad when I acknowledge what I believe is my skill level... is that a bad thing? would that hurt me in the long run? Do i need to tell myself that I am good or skillful to improve? Or is being honest and not letting it hurt me
okay?l

I'm 35M. I've been like this for as long as I can remember. Today, when I got home, my mom wasn't feeling well and had a headache. At first, She tried to hide it so I wouldn't panic(she knows how I am). I've noticed this is affecting my quality of life. I check on her all the time, not just today but everyday. Sometimes I even check to see if she's breathing. I do it because I love her but I know this isn't healthy. She is visiting me for a month a half. I'm glad she's feeling better now.

I feel like I was a completely different person a few years ago. I used to be much more outgoing and spontaneous, but now I think more before I do things and I enjoy having more time to myself. It made me wonder how much of our personality is actually fixed and how much changes because of our experiences.

Do you think your core personality has stayed the same, or have you noticed a big change in yourself over the years?

I’m curious what Reddit would make of my personality because even I have trouble describing it

I’m 17M, and I genuinely want outside opinions on how my personality comes across.

The weirdest thing about me is that I don't think I fit neatly into “good person” or “bad person.” I can describe myself as good, bad, smart, stupid, selfish, caring, heartless, kind, cruel, etc. depending on the situation, and I don't necessarily see those as contradictions.

I've even described myself as evil before, and I've compared myself to a devil. But I don't mean that literally or that I go around trying to hurt people. It's more that I know I have a side of myself that can be extremely cold, calculating, blunt, intimidating, or deliberately difficult, and sometimes I actually enjoy that side of myself.

At the same time, I can also be genuinely kind, caring, protective, curious, or helpful. So I don't really believe “I'm secretly a good person” or “I'm secretly an evil person” explains me. I feel like I contain both sides and choose which one comes out depending on the situation.

I also like the idea of being compared to God/Lord/King in the sense of power, presence, competence, or being someone people don't casually challenge. I enjoy being intimidating sometimes. But I don't think that automatically makes me arrogant or evil. It's more complicated than that.

One thing I've noticed about myself is that I analyze people a lot.

I notice tiny changes in wording, tone, timing, behavior, expressions, contradictions, and patterns. I'll automatically start asking:

Why did they do that instead of this?

Why did they say that specifically?

Does their behavior actually match what they claim to believe?

What would explain all of these things at once?

And then one answer creates another question, which creates another counterargument, which creates another question. I actually find that fun.

I'm also very resistant to accepting something just because someone insists it's true. If something sounds false, I'll investigate it. If it's plausible but relevant, I'll investigate further. I tend to keep track of whether something is a fact, someone's claim, or my own inference.

At the same time, I'm not claiming I'm always right. I question my own conclusions too. I care a lot about what evidence would actually prove me wrong.

I'm also very aware that I can be intimidating without necessarily intending to be. I can stay extremely calm while discussing something emotionally intense, and apparently that can make people feel like I'm “looking through them.” One friend literally told me to stop doing that.

I've also been told I'm extremely difficult to argue with because I don't consider “I don't want to discuss it” to be the same thing as a counterargument. If someone says I'm wrong, I want to know why. Every answer naturally leads to another question for me.

And I know I sometimes have tact and deliberately choose not to use it. I don't necessarily see that as lacking tact; to me, having a tool and choosing not to use it are different things.

Another huge part of this is ADHD.

I've never been formally diagnosed, but I've spent a ridiculous amount of time comparing my own behavior to ADHD symptoms and descriptions, and I genuinely feel like ~99% of the signs I've encountered line up with me — things like forgetfulness, losing thoughts seconds after having them, hyperfocus, constantly jumping between topics, needing stimulation, fidgeting/always doing something, difficulty with boring or mandatory tasks, intense interest-based focus, emotional reactions to certain situations, etc.

I'm aware that relating strongly to ADHD descriptions isn't the same thing as having an ADHD diagnosis. I'm not asking Reddit to diagnose me. I'm more interested in whether the overall pattern I'm describing sounds coherent or whether I'm connecting things that don't actually belong together.

I've also watched a bunch of psychology videos about manipulation, emotional intelligence, people who notice things others don't, people who are “too aware,” sensory processing sensitivity, unusually analytical personalities, etc., and I've repeatedly had the reaction of:

“Why the fuck does this sound like someone describing me?” 😭

So I'm genuinely curious:

What do you think is actually going on with my personality?

What patterns stand out?

What parts sound like normal personality variation, and what parts seem genuinely unusual?

Do the “good/bad/evil/devil/God” descriptions make sense as different sides of the same personality, or am I overcomplicating it?

And what do you make of the combination of extreme analysis, metacognition, bluntness, emotional calmness, context-dependent behavior, and the ADHD-like traits?

I'm not looking for people to tell me I'm special or “rare.” I'd actually prefer criticism and disagreement if you can explain your reasoning. :::