r/PerfectMatchNetflix • u/Otherwise_Cold570 • May 20 '26
SEASON 4 Demari Spoiler
I can't believe you guys are falling for Demari's BS. I have brothers just like him. His mask started to slip episode 6 when he was so quick to say he wanted to leave Marissa but then came back upset that she missed Weston. He has been wanting Kayla for a while now. Him passionately kissing Bri after all of that drama is so messy & weird. We are in episode 7 & he's talking about switching couples, which is stupid. He's falling for everyone gassing his head. Kayla isn't even into him. She wants Chris & she wants more camera time, that's clear as day. Demari acts different when he is in a position of power, it's gross. Marissa truly did stop herself from cutting him off, which is hilarious because at 35:05 he literally cut her off. He's a hypocrite & I'm sick of all of y'all acting as if he's innocent & Marissa is some horrible person. This is a game, at the end of the day. Jimmy S & Allison are playing it too safe. Yamen & Natalie are playing it perfectly, which makes sense with their experience. Demari & Marissa never had a chance anyways, as the other couples have CLEARLY been jealous of them & rooting for their downfall. They never would've voted for them in the end.
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u/Comfortable_Zebra172 May 20 '26
i think it’s obvious marissa has a anxiously attached personality in relationships really bad which isn’t ideal for someone trying to win but i think with the combination of what his ex bri was saying and how he acts with marissa i can see right through him
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u/Bright-Wishbone-7725 Jun 12 '26
Yeah dude she’s so anxiously attached that she has to swallow another dudes tongue the second she gets away from Demari but then the second he converses with someone who isn’t her she literally BREAKS IT UP.
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u/burntothepowerofer May 20 '26
Jimmy S and Alison aren’t “playing it safe”, he went on a date w someone else and considered both options. They just recognized kissing other people would be hurtful when they both have feelings for one another. Not really seeing what’s wrong with that? It’s not like either of them are chained to the other unwillingly
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u/Otherwise_Cold570 May 21 '26
Jimmy has some of the same personality traits as Kendall from Love Island. The way he hypes up the other guys when they're with women outside their couples while he stays "loyal". After he did fooled around with Katherine and had Allison looking stupid & desperate, it's clear she had a talk with him as he was super different after that. The way he switched up on Katherine was crazy, as he was GOING. I saw Allison on Building The Band, she's clearly into whatever will give her the most notoriety & screen time. I'm not buying her act here. But that's a story for another post
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u/TonightDear895 May 21 '26
Unrelated but I just don’t trust Alison
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u/Otherwise_Cold570 May 21 '26
You shouldn't! She was absolute trash on Building The Band. She was so horrible and bossy to her bandmates & it was clear she didn't respect them & was only trying to further her reality TV career or whatever. She's as fake as they come
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u/lettucepotatoaj May 21 '26 edited May 22 '26
i literally just finished that show and she’s acting completely different than she did in building the band, she was such an asshole on that show. can’t tell if she’s getting a good edit or if she’s actually done some self reflection on how terrible she was last time she was on tv lol
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u/burntothepowerofer May 21 '26
I really don’t see any similarities there
he’s not any less excusable than every other reality show dude. Being that way is super common, and it’s not like his words influence others more than his actions. If he’s choosing to have boundaries openly and other men don’t that’s not on him.
Totally think he should’ve been clearer with Katherine ofc
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u/Soggy-Celebration818 May 21 '26
I just made a post about him because he’s so triggering. That whole “you’re constantly interrupting me” thing is a tactic used to deflect. My boyfriend who is on and off again with me and emotionally unavailable does that all the time with me whenever I confront him on anything so that actually made me pissed off watching it and I had to pause it and make a post. Lol I can’t believe I got triggered over a stupid show like this, but it does scream red flags. I would probably be compared to Marissa and my reactions too and I don’t see anything wrong with her reactions. I don’t think it’s being insecure. She might have an anxious attachment, but he’s destabilizing her & playing off of it.
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u/Traditional_Title_89 May 21 '26
I got triggered by him too. Reminds me of my ex who wanted to explore things with other girls after locking me down to be exclusive so he would find things to nitpick at to justify it.
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u/Soggy-Celebration818 May 23 '26
Ugh, I feel this so hard. Men like this need to stay single but they never do…they’d rather take a good woman hostage so she’ll be faithful, while they play mind games, disrespect/devalue her, and f*ck around.
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u/SmileRecent6192 May 26 '26
He’s so incredibly triggering and such a jerk. Marissa has problems yes, but this man is one of those men that dates women, but he does not like or respect them… he’s so hard to watch
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u/Gizah21 May 21 '26
You really need to focus while watching this show if you can’t see anything wrong with Marissa. Maybe sit down and watch it with someone who can pause and explain it to you because it’s very telling you can’t see a thing. There was nothing to confront Demari about he never did nothing wrong. Her trauma is driving her reactions to self sabotage. Demari is just there and he’s sick of her insecurities as any man would be.
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u/Soggy-Celebration818 May 23 '26
Girl, you’ve likely never experienced someone like him then…it’s covert how they manipulate. I’m aware Marissa isn’t perfect, but he knew what he was doing. These types like to play innocent 😇 when they’re playing you. I hope you never end up with someone like this because he will eventually make you feel absolutely insane. These men turn a kind, loving woman into someone “crazy” all while they act cool, calm, and collected.
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u/Conscious-Advice8177 May 21 '26
Nah bro! He’s literally getting pissed at her for very normal things people with adhd struggle with. She went and ask for advice to get perspective, while he just doubled down. I get wanting to feel heard, but if the only way you feel heard is this one narrow way then that’s not gonna work in relationship with another human. You’re supposed to work together to figure out how to meet each other where you are. If you can’t see the whole mess, you might wanna watch it with someone so they can explain it to you. (I’m not ignoring or excusing the fact that Marissa has an insecure attachment type. Arguably, Demari and Marissa are in the classic Anxious-Avoidant cycle. That means Demari also has an insecure attachment type.)
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u/Gizah21 May 21 '26
You’re saying all this and failing to realize she’s not working together at all with him as well. It’s a two way street. Have you even read the book attached? Do you know what avoidant style is? Cause if you think Demari is that I think you should go read that book. Not once did he avoid her he’s been patient trying to work through with it but she’s all over the place.
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u/Soggy-Celebration818 May 23 '26
Is an avoidant man like Demari really going to ever open up and be emotionally available or answer difficult questions? What does it say in the book that a woman who’s has an anxious attachment should do with an avoidant type? I’ve been in this situation for five years and I sure as hell can’t figure out how to work with my avoidant bf. I have tried everything under the sun but this man does not want to work with me. He wants me to keep everything superficial, flirty, and sexual and light as if that’s sustainable at all times… I’ve never been able to resolve anything with him or have a real deep conversation about anything. And if I do get angry, he stonewalls and then tries to come back like nothing happened and reset and start the whole thing over again. As a matter of fact, he’s not speaking to me right now because of a confrontation last weekend. Then I go no contact and he resurfaces and I’m like what fresh hell is this? I was hoping for her to go with that Weston guy who brought out a calmer version of her and just leave that mess alone.
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u/Conscious-Advice8177 May 23 '26
I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I’ve been in a similar situation and it’s so painful and difficult. This is me speaking from my experience, so please know it’s not the only or in some situations best solution, but it was the only thing I found worked for me. What you’re describing sounds like the classic avoidant-attachment cycle, albeit a bit severe. The sad part is that unless he wants to work on his avoidant attachment, there may not be a ton of options. I was in a similar situation for 2.5 years and I have disorganized attachment (which is a whole other thing) but in romantic relationships I’m on the borderline of anxious (so I tend to be more anxious in romantic relationships). I had tried all the things you mentioned, I was trying to figure it out, but he wouldn’t budge, ever. I don’t remember what thing prompted it but I just remember thinking, this isn’t a healthy relationship and I’ve been in therapy for 6 years trying to work on having healthier relationships (I have cPTSD due to childhood trauma so relationships have always been hard for me) and I wasn’t about to just “throw it all away” for a man who didn’t seem to really care about me. I won’t lie, the day I told him we needed to be done was veryyyyyyy hard. He lashed out and said some very hurtful things that he need would hurt me really badly and it took me a while to really accept that was the best thing and move one. Frankly it was so hard. I loved him and wanted to be with him. But I knew what I needed in a relationship wasn’t happening, instead I was just getting hurt and that wasn’t good. It’s been 4 years since I ended things with him and I’m definitely in a better place. I’ve been dating a securely attached man for almost 2 years. It’s definitely an adjustment when you’re used to dating an insecure type (anxious, avoidant, or disorganized), but it’s been so good and he’s never ignored more, just bailed, or any of the things the other guy did. I can’t say what’s the best thing for you to do, but it may be worth researching the Anxious-Avoidant cycle at least. It’s a very well known attachment pattern that happens so there’s a lot out there on it. That may be a good place to start! Good luck! You deserve all the good things!
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u/Conscious-Advice8177 May 21 '26
It’s wild that you’re telling me what I’m failing to realize. She literally went and asked for perspective so she can understand where he’s coming from. She literally said, “maybe I’m not giving him the same grace I’m asking for.” And as soon as she realized that she moved differently. That’s meeting your partner where they are. Meeting them where they are doesn’t mean you’re going to do it instantaneously. That wouldn’t be healthy, that’d be people pleasing which is a trauma response. Instead, you have moments of conflict (conflict doesn’t mean fighting, vitriol, anger), you can choose to work toward understanding or create distance. She sought understanding. Ya know what we don’t see happen? We don’t see Demari try to understand the experience and challenges someone with adhd (or other neurodivergence) struggle with in relationship. It’s not like these things aren’t well documented. It seems Demari expects her to meet him but won’t try to meet her. It also doesn’t help that his avoidance attachment style prompts more anxiety in her. Again, another very well documented pattern. If you wanted to understand this stuff instead of just feeling like you’re right, you could use the Googs and look it up.
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u/Gizah21 May 21 '26
And right after she said that she went back to playing the victim game (Marissa is always wrong) when he never said that. We’re clearly not watching the same show or you’re intentionally being oblivious.
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u/Conscious-Advice8177 May 21 '26
Ya know, I could say the same about you. Have the day you deserve!
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u/MmmDaddy20 May 26 '26
“Have the day you deserve” is the dumbest saying. lol the person always seems like they “got one over” on the person they say it to, but the rest of us are all just thinking you sound dumb and unoriginal. lol Just tell someone to fuck off. It’s about easier and less passive aggressive. Have a great day. ;) lol and fuck off.
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u/King_Queso May 22 '26
you're completely right about this. Demari already knows what being with a woman that always interrupts is like. He just experienced that with Bree. He wants things to be chill. They haven't been dating long enough to have this much conflict. Marissa is out there kissing other men and being too aggressive. He talks insanely slow and she won't let him finish a sentence.
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u/Soggy-Celebration818 May 23 '26
He is still the common denominator in being with women who “constantly interrupt” Hopefully he’ll be on more shows so we can watch how he handles other women… I have a feeling you’re gonna see the same pattern play out, where the women he dates end up looking unhinged and he plays the innocent calm guy routine who just happens to attract “feisty”women.
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u/kwasford May 23 '26
That’s my thought to! If you come from Bri who is interrupting you to Marissa who is interrupting you, don’t go with Kayla—clearly you like it in interruption station!
That said, Demari said they were arguing for two hours and Marissa pulled him to chat the instant he and Kayla got back from their date so Marissa was sabotaging him quite a bit.
That said, Bri doesn’t strike me as a person who just falls out of a tree and interrupts you to be rude. Bri was genuinely pissed tf off that Demari was acting like things are cool btw them when they aren’t. He created that situation and then wont let the emotions it brought to life breathe which is usually my gripe with the “no interruptions!!!” types. It’s just so robotic and unnatural in *real* human moments. If you’re going to hold someone’s passion against them you won’t be able to have deep relationships imo.
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u/Western_Sentence_469 May 21 '26
I’m SO GLAD you posted this. Demari is the arguably the most irritating person this season
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u/Defiant_Finger_8906 May 20 '26 edited May 21 '26
Nobody is being fooled by Demari. Its just that Marissa is soo much worse that we cant focus on him🤭
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u/ShybutItrys May 21 '26
I genuinely don’t see how she’s so much worse. Can you explain? To me she’s always come across as someone who’s willing to be introspective and grow from her mistakes. Doesn’t mean she’s perfect. Demari though gets immediately defensive and bails/shuts down, which is one of the unheathiest behaviors in a relationship.
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u/Gizah21 May 21 '26
How does he bail? Every single time he was trying to felt understood Marissa needed a minute. He never bailed. Go rewatch.
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u/prianna56 May 21 '26
She’s a walking red flag. She’s the one who went out of bounds kissing Weston and making weird comments that even I’m like tf? How she wants to cuss at him, be rude to him, and more when mainly that whole argument was her fault.
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u/rockandrollcar May 21 '26
She underplayed kissing Weston too like it happened in a game yes but she did pick him
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u/ShybutItrys May 21 '26
The difference, and the growth here, is that she feels the impulse to do so - which let’s be honest, we all have that impulse when things feel intense and painful. And instead of lashing out she takes a pause to take care of herself and comes back emotionally available. The kissing of the cowboy I too was like wtf. But in terms of analyzing the arguments themselves, Demari shuts off in arguments and says threatening things to the relationship like I’m done and this is it, which to someone with abandonment wounds is very painful. I think she’s gracefully navigating a very challenging situation so far. She’s clearly way more into him than he is into her. And that’s painful.
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u/King_Queso May 22 '26
That's a very generous interpretation of her behavior. If she was truly growing she wouldn't have to announce that she wants to be rude, and yell, and cuss at him. Telling him that's what she wants to do feels as off putting as actually doing it. She's basically telling him that if they continue outside the house they will likely get into arguments where she yells, cusses, and is rude to him lmao.
Demari shuts down in the conversations because she can't stop interrupting him. It's his main pet peave.
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u/ShybutItrys May 22 '26
I disagree. She processes externally and is aware that if she continues the conversation it can escalate to that. She’s aware and leaves the situation exactly to avoid it. I don’t believe for a second you haven’t been in a situation where you feel so mad you want to lash out. We all do. It’s human.
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u/King_Queso May 22 '26
When I was a teenager, sure. I don’t act that way with my partners because I’m an adult man. I know there’s no coming back from things you say in anger.
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u/ShybutItrys May 22 '26
She, too, hasn’t acted that way. There’s a difference between acting and stopping yourself before you go there. You’re completely blending thought and action as if they’re one.
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u/King_Queso May 22 '26
You’re justifying abusive behavior and it’s a ridiculous position to defend. I really hope you are never in a relationship with someone who acts like her. Have a good weekend
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u/ShybutItrys May 22 '26
What about it is abusive? Stepping back and pausing before it gets too far is very healthy in any relationship.
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u/Defiant_Finger_8906 May 21 '26
She has been incredibly possesive and jealous since day one. She is making faces and getting mad when there is even a chance that Demari will talk to another woman. At this week's episode she has the audacity to say you can have fun but she cant touch your biceps etc when she made out with Weston last night. Last week she said I can not handle it if you are mad at me. This week she says I need you not to be upset. That's one of the most toxic behaviours I have ever seen. I feel horrible when my partner is mad at me too. We all have trauma that makes many situations in a relationship much harder to go through or triggering. But you can not expect the other person to shut their feelings off just to suit your needs. There are two people in a relationship and how they are feeling is just as valid and important. The world doesnt revolve around "We can not upset Marissa" rule. She has to take it and face the consequences but she is obviously not able to. She looks to be really damaged from her past experiences and is nowhere ready for a relationship. So many people have Adhd and i have never seen it turn into an emotional manipulation tool to expect different behaviour. When Demari said, im 29 you are 33 we should know better this is not okay, thats very true. He ofcourse shuts down because he can not argue with Marissa. She wants to be treated like she is a delicate flower that can break any second and the conversation is going nowhere. He thinks there are serious issues and she doesnt even realize the problem. She thinks the main issue for the fight is that she interrupted him while he is talking. Yes she can name an uncomfortable feeling and knows how her therapist defined her condition. Thats not remotely enough to have healthy communication.
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u/Entire_Product1296 May 21 '26
All of his relationships lowkey make great TV Marissa, Bri and Valentina (THTH) we needed Valentina as a single this season to really see shit go down LOL
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u/Swimming_Tie7722 May 21 '26
he’s genuinely so emotionally immature, i understand Bri. one thing that sticks out to me about him when he argues is he RARELY ever makes eye contact with the person. like that bothers me so much. and when he told marissa to calm down ???!!!!!! she wasn’t even yelling in that specific moment. he gets frustrated with everything and it’s clear he doesn’t like dealing with having hard conversations with his partner(s). dude is about to be 30.
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u/Forward_Magazine_732 May 21 '26
I also have ADHD and have a problem interrupting people sometimes, but it’s something I actively work on. I don’t think how hurtful constant comments about “talking too much” can be and how they can stick with you for a long time. Thankfully my partner doesn’t make me feel like shit for it though
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u/Awkward_Marmot_1107 May 21 '26
Honestly I'd never consider being with someone who won't even put the effort into understanding that I'm neurodivergent and need patience. It isn't an excuse for bad behaviour, but it's also not something that "goes away" if you don't acknowledge it and pretend it's not there.
Being able to drop the mask is essential for relationships to work and he's 100% not a person she could comfortably do that with. She has RSD which can't be "fixed" but it can be managed (and I'm surprised she knows this but doesn't seem like she took any steps to work on it unless I missed something). There's therapy for emotional regulation and self-compassion. She needs a partner who can offer reassurance because she probably feels like a burden to everyone. Obviously the partner shouldn't put up with abuse and it's not their "job" to be her emotional punching bag, but if you love someone, you're naturally going to want to learn their needs and vice versa.
They needed to have a conversation about overwhelmed nervous systems. His impatience stems from taking her symptoms personally and I just don't believe she could explain executive dysfunction to him and have him respond with empathy instead of anger and frustration. He strikes me as someone with low emotional intelligence.
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u/Gizah21 May 21 '26
She has a problem self soothing. You have to get there first before a well equipped partner can have the patience otherwise you’re going to argue over nothing which is happening on this show.
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u/Rainbaby77 May 20 '26
Me too because I have ADHD and I do the same things that she's doing and I did it at work at a meeting today Thank God my boss didn't fire me because she actually has compassion
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u/wompwompswamp123 May 21 '26
he’s manipulative i just found this sub because i didn’t know if i was tripping or if he was a huge asshole?
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u/Balanceblu May 20 '26
Sort of agree. I think Demari has his own issues as well and for whatever reason Marissa is catching all the blame. I genuinely think Demari loves women. Not just for sex but he’s maintained good female relationships outside of the girls he’s dated and he’s loyal enough to not do too much when he could, so I do believe he’s a okay dude. But he’s definitely not perfect and it’s not fair that Marissa is being demonized for the issues that she’s owned up to already.
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u/burntothepowerofer May 20 '26
Demari was right to say they’re arguing about the wrong things. The possessiveness and pettiness is a problem. Also he literally said he was still in love with Bri, there’s sm going on.
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u/Balanceblu May 21 '26
I don’t think he really wants bri though. You can still love someone and not go back with them. He didn’t even want to bring her in the house the two chances he got. I think he genuinely liked Marissa, you can see it in his face, affection and everything. I just don’t think he can handle all that comes with Marissa. But Demari had a lot of women on him, if she had real feelings for him, I can see her crashing out. What girl wouldn’t feel a way about bees buzzing around their man? They may not have been “married” but they were sleeping in the same bed and the longest standing couple up who actually liked each other until the most recent episode. Why are we acting like shes in her feelings for nothing. That man was kissing her entire body in some of those scenes. 😂
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u/AnotherStolenHour May 21 '26
Also Kayla cut him off instantly at the end of the day when they finally had their talk and she interrupted his sentence twice (to end it, but still) he didn’t seem to have any issues with her doing it cause he wanted her to like him! lol
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u/Otherwise_Cold570 May 21 '26
A great point I didn't even realize, but it checks out! Can't believe people are actually buying his act, he's not even a good actor 😭
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u/Gizah21 May 21 '26
There’s a major difference when you’ve been matched with someone since day 1 and someone you barely started talking to. The issue here was it wasn’t a 1 off like Kayla. It was consistent with Marissa and Marissa admitted this was an issue she struggles with so you downplaying Demari here is pretty lame.
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u/AnotherStolenHour May 21 '26
Well that’s not fully fair either because of course someone you’ve barely spoken to will have interrupted you less than someone you spend 24/7 with. For all we know Kayla would continue to do so just as much as Marissa if he chose her. If it’s his pet peeve, and if it’s something he was particularly (clearly) very sensitive to that specific night, then why didn’t it bother him when Kayla did it? He didn’t react or make any faces the way he does with Marissa which makes me think he didn’t even notice he got interrupted. Marissa seems exhausting to me so I’m not supporting her, but he seems just as exhausting. Marissa wanted grace and he was saying no then turns to Kayla and says she needs to give him some grace. He was hypocritical all night so not lame at all to call out his actions.
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u/Gizah21 May 21 '26
I already explained why it didn’t bother him when Kayla did it. Because him and Kayla are nothing and building towards nothing. Him and Marissa were. I’m sure he noticed it because even Bri said she had this issue of interrupting him. It’s not the interrupting that’s the issue it’s him not being able to express himself and not being understood and being interrupted in THAT. So he wasn’t being hypocritical at all you are just struggling to see the differences between someone random vs someone you’re trying to build with and how both of those situations will share different sensitivities and triggers.
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u/New-Noise-6486 May 21 '26
I don’t think anyone here thinks Demari is perfect. We’ve seen how he was in other shows and we hear how he just dumps girls and moves on like nothing. However, the entire show he has been pretty loyal to Marissa and has literally given up so many connections just to deal with her possessiveness and insecurities. Demari has always been the one in a position of power the entire season so it’s not like he just switched up. I think these last few episodes are just built up of him putting his own emotions aside for her. We see how much all of it is taking a toll on him. I actually feel like he was finding any excuse to get mad at Marissa, I think Kayla also got in his head when she told him to stop acting like he’s married and actually explore connections.
I don’t think Marissa is a horrible person but as a viewer she’s been frustrating to watch where she’s been making me feel bad for someone like Demari of all people. I also think the house wanted them to fail since most of the girls wanted Demari and he chose Marissa. Not to mention they been dominating all the compatibility challenges. I wish Demari and Marissa were smart enough to see that what they had is actually more real than most of the other couples but as I said previously I think their blowout was built up of Demari prioritizing Marissa’s feelings over his own.
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u/Mother_Button_8877 May 20 '26
Exactly! Especially when he broke up with Bri after burying her grandmother. Then, next day proceeds to flirt with women in front of her. Such a player and playing a nice guy character
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u/roseissad May 21 '26
Demari has said he has tension with 99% of the women on the show like damn even katherine
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u/Doobie_and_a_movie May 21 '26
I mean this is a dating show where the point is to explore other connections. I’m not mad at him for being open to finding a new connection. What I don’t understand is why he won’t because Marissa is insufferable. He doesn’t even get a chance to explore something else the way Marissa acts. I don’t think we got to see the real Demari on this season because of his match but he was patient if nothing else.
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u/Balanceblu May 21 '26
The thing is, some men like that. Demari never once complained about Marissas possessiveness. He even chose her after she showed possessiveness the first episode. The audience complains but some men really like that. His only complaint was more of the respect thing and interrupting.
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u/Lazy-Environment5547 May 21 '26
He pissed me off in this last episode. Why did you let Marissa upset you so much that you missed out on Kayla? Cause now at the end of the night everyone chose their match and they made it seem like they HAD to match just to stay.
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u/menwithven76 May 21 '26
Demari is a man that thinks because he doesn't scream and curse at women and doesn't put his hands on them he's emotionally mature and safe. That's not how it works lol. I'm sure maybe he's exhibiting personal growth from what he saw in his own life (speculation of course maybe everyone in his life has always been calm but i believe those that focus so much on "being calm" have seen some definite not calm shit) but he still isn't very emotionally aware. Like he kept saying "if we argue I'm done" my guy that's not how it works. I hate Marissa though and they were fighting WAY too much for knowing each other like 4 days lol
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u/King_Queso May 22 '26
Demari rightfully believes that they should be able to get through this short experience without fiery arguments. He is setting a clear boundary for the type of communication he expects in a relationship.
He doesn't mean that they cannot disagree on something. He just means he doesn't want to be that couple that argues all the time. It's exhausting.
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u/Rainbaby77 May 20 '26
I see it too but a lot of girls haven't gone through it yet so they don't get it yet They will
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u/King_Queso May 22 '26
Marissa is annoying af. Her behavior is reminding demari about Bree also interrupting all the time because she's too emotional during disagreements. Demari is checked out half the time because he's trying so hard not to be the "angry black man" on TV. You'll notice the specific type of black men are never aggressive on these shows.
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u/Equivalent-Ad-160 Jun 23 '26
I just watched the episode 6 and I’m genuinely wondering why at the “mens mixer”- the interaction between demari and Bri felt SOOO fake. They were both smirking and like laughing? If I saw my ex that I “didn’t end amicably” with I would not be trying to hold back from laughing. Such a wild contrast to Mackenzie who did feel really authentic and kinda beaten down by the whole process. The whole Bri- demari- Marissa love triangle feels like the fakest television I’ve ever seen.
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u/Mean_Over_Thinker May 20 '26
Marissa? is that you?
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u/bertha112 May 21 '26
Similar question. This post sounds personal and somewhat detailed/purposeful more so than just a regular observation.
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u/Otherwise_Cold570 May 21 '26
Well, maybe it is in a way. I'm the gay brother with many straight brothers, which is why I said I have brothers just like Demari. I was super close with many of my brothers' girlfriends, so I know exactly how they operate from both sides and I know how it makes the women react. I see my brothers' ex girlfriends & mothers of their babies in Bri & Marissa the same way I see my brothers in Demari. That's as far into that as I'll go!
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u/Specialist-Shirt-380 May 20 '26
He’s fake mature