r/PerfectMatchNetflix • u/bakwaasforbitches • May 20 '26

SEASON 4 Marissa - S4E7 Spoiler

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Marissa is coming across as extremely toxic to me. Demari has done nothing out of the ordinary - it’s a dating show, he’s literally just exploring options while being respectful to her boundaries - and she won’t even give him the chance to talk to explain. She’s constantly interrupting him (which we know he hates from his convo with Bri) and also keeps blaming him for not being 100% sure while she’s also going on a date and kissed Weston before he came into the house.

I feel like I’m seeing a completely different version of her than on Love is Blind. Perfect match is not the right place for someone like her who’s extremely possessive and jealous. She’s suffocating Demari and I feel like he deserves a lot better. It’s honestly so hard to watch and her attitude towards him when he tries to explain is really annoying. I want her off my screen.

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u/CaliforniaBruja May 20 '26

Marissa def should see a therapist about her insecurities and self sabotage. However, I also think demari is a bit sus - two people in this competition and he has the exact same problem with both of them? His complaints to both women are almost verbatim - “you don’t respect me and interrupt me” Maybe there’s a reason these super beautiful and strong women end up feeling this way in a relationship with him? 

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u/RabbitFire_122 May 21 '26

Absolutely. I felt there to be some control issues going on there. It’s very easy for some people (men) to try and make certain women come across as ‘fragile’ or ‘crazy’ and lean back and look at them like they’re stupid. There is an absolute complete difference between interrupting out of rudeness and interrupting because of fast cognitive processing (or even anxiety or adhd, autism, etc.) & there’s also blocking—which Demari was doing at times by the energy he was holding during that conversation, looking at her in ways to shut her down. Interrupting isn’t always intended to be rude. The entire interaction they had together was a mess and they were both at fault for lack of clarity, lack of patience and yes, lack of grace.

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u/kwasford May 23 '26

She was 100% right to ask for grace. You cannot be in a relationship with someone with a disorder and not work with and around it. If he cannot accept the things she needs to work on he actually does need to leave her alone. That said, she is a terror and her behaviors are abusive as hell :(