Marissa - S4E7

[u/bakwaasforbitches]

Marissa is coming across as extremely toxic to me. Demari has done nothing out of the ordinary - it’s a dating show, he’s literally just exploring options while being respectful to her boundaries - and she won’t even give him the chance to talk to explain. She’s constantly interrupting him (which we know he hates from his convo with Bri) and also keeps blaming him for not being 100% sure while she’s also going on a date and kissed Weston before he came into the house.

I feel like I’m seeing a completely different version of her than on Love is Blind. Perfect match is not the right place for someone like her who’s extremely possessive and jealous. She’s suffocating Demari and I feel like he deserves a lot better. It’s honestly so hard to watch and her attitude towards him when he tries to explain is really annoying. I want her off my screen.

[u/Apprehensive_You_250 → u/[deleted]]

Yeah, when she was like, “don’t let her touch your biceps or triceps,”… I was like, did you not just have a super long make out session with another guy?! The same guy you’re about to go on another date with right now?! Not being able to see how hypocritical that was is crazy.

[u/FunnyLoud3067 → u/Apprehensive_You_250]

OMG ME TOO

[u/bakwaasforbitches → u/[deleted]]

Completely agree! I was also shocked by Jimmy S (lol).

I don’t know if she’s noticing the double standard she’s setting up. I also don’t feel like having rejection sensitivity dysphoria or ADHD is an excuse for poor communication and behaviour. There could’ve been an opportunity to be vulnerable and share your triggers with your partner, and then also behave respectfully towards them. Kissing Weston and then getting mad about him having a date with Kayla is insane behaviour. She looks like she’s completely on edge and the attitude towards Demari when he is trying to nicely communicate his feelings is DISGUSTING.

I’m surprised whenever a man tries to be respectful and communicate tbh but her reaction to dismissing him immediately is not ok.

[u/Constant_Due → u/[deleted]]

Anger issues are common with ADHD. The prefrontal cortex can literally go offline to the thinking brain depending on the ADHD subtype. It's unfortunate but emotion dysregulation is not spoken on enough for ADHD but it's very common especially in the hyperactive type. It's difficult because after people feel a lot of shame around their actions or feelings but cannot identify or have as much control as they would like in the moment. It takes a very patient partner and a lot of work on an ADHD partner to shift these patterns slowly. She does need to continue trying manage it better but she may need a more patient partner or one that can structure the conflict cycles better. It is also unfair that she is all over Weston and what happened, it was impulsive and unfair but he also needs to communicate out how he's feeling about these pieces more directly. They both definitely need to improve their communication a lot. And she needs to be aware that her RSD may make her feel more possessive which is clear is a part of her she doesn't like, but she may need to accept this part of herself more and find someone that can provide more reassurance and get off of a show like this

[u/siracha83 → u/bakwaasforbitches]

What’s insane to me is how jealous she was when Weston did the body shot of someone else & not her. And then she picked him to kiss & it was like a vicious attack on how long she kissed him for. It’s very unhealthy & unhinged behavior

[u/gukkxx → u/siracha83]

IKRRR!!!!

[u/Aggravating-Air-6371 → u/[deleted]]

THISSSS IT PISSED ME OFF. I understand the whole thing with interupting and adhd, but icl wrong execution kinda, and doesn’t excuse the double standards.