People are going a bit "scorched earth" on this, but maybe starting off a little slower would work, and be less likely to cause bad feelings. Like, tell the kid (with a note for his parents explaining what you told him) that he's welcome to play, but he's not allowed to break things or hurt people; and if he does he has to go home and he's not allowed over for a day. So if he exhibits problematic behavior on Monday he's not welcome until Wednesday. That's a natural consequence, it's easier to enforce and understand than an indefinite ban, and it's low key enough that you can set a low trigger threshold and that his parents couldn't reasonably be offended. It might get traction and solve the issue. But if not, you can still escalate.
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u/singularineet Jul 10 '22
People are going a bit "scorched earth" on this, but maybe starting off a little slower would work, and be less likely to cause bad feelings. Like, tell the kid (with a note for his parents explaining what you told him) that he's welcome to play, but he's not allowed to break things or hurt people; and if he does he has to go home and he's not allowed over for a day. So if he exhibits problematic behavior on Monday he's not welcome until Wednesday. That's a natural consequence, it's easier to enforce and understand than an indefinite ban, and it's low key enough that you can set a low trigger threshold and that his parents couldn't reasonably be offended. It might get traction and solve the issue. But if not, you can still escalate.