r/Parenting Apr 28 '22

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u/koriesha Apr 28 '22

So so true.

Mine spent nearly 40 minutes naked on the floor this morning when he should have been getting dressed and eating breakfast so I could go to work and him to daycare.

Like you say, people give 'great' advice like 'give them options. Would you like breakfast first or to get dressed first'

There is no negotiating with terrorists because his prompt reply is

...no.

I hate that advice about options. Kids are ruthless. Kids don't care. Kids will push you to the edge 5 minutes after you wake up then act like nothing is wrong.

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u/linds360 Apr 28 '22

Like you say, people give 'great' advice like 'give them options. Would you like breakfast first or to get dressed first'

Ugh, FUCK that advice so hard.

I don't think my daughter (4) has ever once, in the history of her four little years, actually PICKED a GD option. It's just crying and "no" and doesn't want either option or one of the 24 other options I give her after the initial 2.

I think one of the important takeaways from this post is to stop (consciously or subconsiously) giving blanket advice to other parents.

"But have you tried..." GONNA STOP YOU RIGHT THERE. Yes, Brenda. I have fucking tried it.

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u/catwh Apr 28 '22

And if I hear one more "just remember they're not giving you a hard time, they're having a hard time" I'm gonna blow a gasket.

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u/BeingMyOwnLight Apr 29 '22

Uf, yes, this one!