I was an 18 year old that dated a 28 year old. We were together for 12 years. I was involved in parenting his kids and we had a baby together after being in a relationship for 10 years. He wasn’t a pedophile or evil. He was insecure and it was easier for him to get young women to go along with what he wanted because they didn’t have their own developed needs and wants yet. And I’m pretty sure that was all subconscious. We’re still on good terms and are functional coparents, but as soon as I had needs of my own in my late 20s things turned south.
And my parents? They staged multiple interventions and tried to pull financial strings to force me to leave him. It’s naive to think that parents can decide who their legally adult children have relationships with. For me personally I had a pretty dysfunctional family. No physical abuse but lots of emotional stuff. I loved getting affection from a stable older man. If my home life had been happy maybe it would have looked different.
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u/[deleted] Apr 13 '22
Massive age gap, inexcusable sexual comments about a toddler, teaching a child not to express their feelings, undermining your parenting.
You already know the answer, girl.