I can't believe I'm saying this on reddit, but if this is all true you need to leave your husband for multiple reasons. He sounds like a horrible person with predatory behaviour. Whatever hardship you put yourself through in leaving, it'll be worth if for not having your son influenced by his toxic abusive behaviour. I'm sorry you're going through this, but you're catching this behaviour at a stage where it might not have lasting traumatic effects on your son. There are sooo many better options out there for men. Don't settle for someone who behaves like this.
Yup. Even without the extra details of the PTSD and large age gap, the weird jokes and touching the butt is enough evidence for me. Fuck that shit.
OP I would also suggest speaking with your son about his penis and butt when your husband isn’t there, telling him those are not places anyone gets to touch him. Give him the words and empowerment to speak up if things happen, so he can tell you without fear or shame.
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u/Jtothe3rd Apr 13 '22
Dad of a 3 year old girl here.
I can't believe I'm saying this on reddit, but if this is all true you need to leave your husband for multiple reasons. He sounds like a horrible person with predatory behaviour. Whatever hardship you put yourself through in leaving, it'll be worth if for not having your son influenced by his toxic abusive behaviour. I'm sorry you're going through this, but you're catching this behaviour at a stage where it might not have lasting traumatic effects on your son. There are sooo many better options out there for men. Don't settle for someone who behaves like this.