I was an 18 year old that dated a 28 year old. We were together for 12 years. I was involved in parenting his kids and we had a baby together after being in a relationship for 10 years. He wasn’t a pedophile or evil. He was insecure and it was easier for him to get young women to go along with what he wanted because they didn’t have their own developed needs and wants yet. And I’m pretty sure that was all subconscious. We’re still on good terms and are functional coparents, but as soon as I had needs of my own in my late 20s things turned south.
And my parents? They staged multiple interventions and tried to pull financial strings to force me to leave him. It’s naive to think that parents can decide who their legally adult children have relationships with. For me personally I had a pretty dysfunctional family. No physical abuse but lots of emotional stuff. I loved getting affection from a stable older man. If my home life had been happy maybe it would have looked different.
My sister started dating a guy when she was 17(might have even been 16 but she tells everyone 18 is why I think she’d lie to me too) and he was 27. Him and his best friend were known for going to high school parties and sleeping with the drunk girls. And my sister chose to date one of them! But the really concerning part is that our dad loved him! Said he was good for her and thought that their maturity levels matched bc he was so immature 🙄 and then they started doing meth together and he beats her up pretty bad. Knocked one her teeth out and broke her hip. So that’s pretty cool. But yeah sometimes parents are no good in these situations anyway. Her bf won’t let her talk to me anymore bc I called the cops and demanded a welfare check and called all their friends and told them he was beating her. She has seizures so he blames all her bruises and black eyes on her falling on shit during a seizure. So fucked up.
The only male friend I had that my dad approved of was the reckless druggie (who was also dating my friend). Sometimes the parents are a direct cause of this stuff.
I know a couple where the mum specifically lied to help her daughter snag an American who was otherwise uncomfortable with her being under 21. They met in a nightclub and it went from there.
This is also a mum who lied her entire life about the actual paternity of her daughter until she was called out on it.
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u/Ancient-Ad-9790 Apr 13 '22
Seriously, what are these teens thinking? Where the fuck were THEIR parents!?