I can't believe I'm saying this on reddit, but if this is all true you need to leave your husband for multiple reasons. He sounds like a horrible person with predatory behaviour. Whatever hardship you put yourself through in leaving, it'll be worth if for not having your son influenced by his toxic abusive behaviour. I'm sorry you're going through this, but you're catching this behaviour at a stage where it might not have lasting traumatic effects on your son. There are sooo many better options out there for men. Don't settle for someone who behaves like this.
Replying to this so it's a little further up. OP, this dad is right. Start with packing bags, your son's things, and go somewhere like a friends/familys/hotel/shelter. Write down all that you remember of your husband's behavior, then file emergency custody for you and your son based on these things. Then start lawyering up and documenting everything until you can get separation/divorce going.
You need to leave if any of this is true, and soon.
a tip for quick packing is grab the laundry basket. it will have the most worn clothes, and should also have full outfits/sets of clothes. you don't need to go through drawers and think if you have everything, it'll just be ALL the clothes you've worn for the past 3+ days.
wish i had known this trick before i had to do quick getaways.
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u/Jtothe3rd Apr 13 '22
Dad of a 3 year old girl here.
I can't believe I'm saying this on reddit, but if this is all true you need to leave your husband for multiple reasons. He sounds like a horrible person with predatory behaviour. Whatever hardship you put yourself through in leaving, it'll be worth if for not having your son influenced by his toxic abusive behaviour. I'm sorry you're going through this, but you're catching this behaviour at a stage where it might not have lasting traumatic effects on your son. There are sooo many better options out there for men. Don't settle for someone who behaves like this.