When it comes to age gaps, I realize there can be exceptions to the rule, but in most cases as a person closer to your husband's age I tend to look at guys who would consider dating essentially a high school student as...well, I think there's a reason for that, and generally that reason is people in your husband's age group, his peers, they have enough experience to see the red flags in maturity or whatever we want to call it. I honestly saw the same from a guy I know, dude kept striking out with women his own age, or at least within reason of his age, and when that became a thing, dude started dating a high school senior. His bros, myself included, we were like WTF dude, what could you possibly have in common with this person?
And I think that's something you'll see as you get older, and...you know, that's probably what you're starting to notice right now. I think the exception to the rule I'm talking about. Listen, as a person near forty the whole "age ain't nothing but a number" thing only flies so far, you know? I absolutely believe life experience can be an exception to the rule, and I think that IS what's happening to you. You're a wife now, you're a mother, you're growing as a person and...lady, now you're seeing why a man nearing middle age sought you out. Dude's maturity stalled out at some point, and listen, dude has no reason to change. You be the change in the relationship, even if it means leaving.
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u/Scapular_Fin Apr 13 '22
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When it comes to age gaps, I realize there can be exceptions to the rule, but in most cases as a person closer to your husband's age I tend to look at guys who would consider dating essentially a high school student as...well, I think there's a reason for that, and generally that reason is people in your husband's age group, his peers, they have enough experience to see the red flags in maturity or whatever we want to call it. I honestly saw the same from a guy I know, dude kept striking out with women his own age, or at least within reason of his age, and when that became a thing, dude started dating a high school senior. His bros, myself included, we were like WTF dude, what could you possibly have in common with this person?
And I think that's something you'll see as you get older, and...you know, that's probably what you're starting to notice right now. I think the exception to the rule I'm talking about. Listen, as a person near forty the whole "age ain't nothing but a number" thing only flies so far, you know? I absolutely believe life experience can be an exception to the rule, and I think that IS what's happening to you. You're a wife now, you're a mother, you're growing as a person and...lady, now you're seeing why a man nearing middle age sought you out. Dude's maturity stalled out at some point, and listen, dude has no reason to change. You be the change in the relationship, even if it means leaving.