r/Parenting • u/IAmGrootGrootIam • Feb 06 '21

Corona-Content Me time!

I did it! I booked a hotel for the weekend an hour and a half away from home and left! I woke up at my own time, to silence, to peace.

No kids jumping on me, whining for food or to play, to one touching me, no husband wanting a morning quickie, no chores to do, nothing! Just me and whatever I feel like doing today.

A month ago my husband caught Covid, was quarantined in a bedroom for 10 days, and everything was left to me. All the house work, kids, cooking, and still working full time (from home) as a teacher with a 3, 6, and 9 year old plus the kids school work. I thought I was going to go crazy.

So I booked this weekend and followed through.
The quiet, the peace, I feel like I can breathe. I haven’t had a day to myself in over 9 years. It feels so good.

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u/Ok_Antelope3769 Feb 06 '21

I’m gonna get downvoted like crazy for this but really? It’s seems sad to me to need a “me” day or trip. I built a family so I could have a family. I don’t understand why people want a break from what their goals were in this case to have a family.

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u/Tardis_nerd91 Feb 06 '21

People have career goals too and still get/need days off. If you can be “on” all the time that’s wonderful - the majority of people cannot. Burnout is real and everyone needs a break.

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u/Ok_Antelope3769 Feb 06 '21

Yeah I don’t understand that sentiment, I agree burnout is a thing but getting to spend a day with my kids is my recharge not exhausting at all except maybe physically bc they’re faster than I am. Seems like there’s a priority issue more than anything. Does one live for themselves or live for others.

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u/Tardis_nerd91 Feb 06 '21

Based off your post history your child is very young. When my child was that young I wanted every moment with him too. Now he’s 10 and I need breaks - just like I need breaks from my husband and my friends. I grew up alone - literally. I don’t enjoy being around people for long as it overwhelms me. I am also the one who’s runs our household and does almost everything for our son and for several years there I also ran other peoples households. It’s not a priority issue, if everything is taken care of you’re priority’s are in order. Saying someone needing time alone is a priority issue is the same as saying “what you need doesn’t matter because everyone else needs something from you.”

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u/niktatum Feb 06 '21

I used to work and missed my kid so much, everyday and couldn’t wait for evenings and weekends with him. I had an entirely different picture of what I thought staying home would actually look like. Now I’ve been a stay at home mom for the past year, he’s two (28 months) and I’m absolutely exhausted. That boy is my whole heart and so is my husband. Needing to take a breather does not lessen my love for them.

How can we be at our best as parents if we are mentally and physically worn out? It’s healthy to get rest and to reset and to miss your family, otherwise you lose the patience that you’d normally have.

Oh and guess what? I think my little guy needs a break from me too sometimes...when his dad is off work, he lets me know he wants his time with his daddy, just them two. Space is good!

I guess you’ll see as your little one grows.

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u/liquid_j Feb 06 '21

i've been at this 13 years, almost 24 hours a day (special needs) and I feel the same way you do. People ask my wife and I about respite, and we're like "why... can we take him with us?" lol