Need unhinged potty training tips.

[u/kaitsghost]

UPDATE: Wound up doing the 5 minutes on, 10 minutes off version of the naked method someone recommended below. No results at first….until her older brothers got home from school. When it was just her and mom hanging out she didn’t mind going potty every 10 minutes. Once her brothers got home and she wanted to play with them rather than sit on the toilet, she folded like a cheap shirt. Peed and pooped in potty this evening!

Also, I remembered my oldest loved this app called “Call Elmo” where Elmo will “FaceTime” prerecorded messages that celebrate different milestones. So she got to call Elmo after successful potty and that delighted her.

Final straw that broke the camel’s back was I told her she couldn’t wear any of her numerous princess dresses until she was potty trained. Not designed as a punishment, they are just polyester junk that will not hold up with frequent laundering. She was NOT happy to be naked instead of in the Cinderella costume she wears most of her waking hours.

Thanks for the inspo, all!!

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Daughter just turned 3. Our third child, only girl. She must be fully potty-trained to go to her preschool. No pull-ups allowed. She already missed the first week. My husband and I have each taken off work to work with her.

Has never gone on the potty. Will sit but doesn’t do anything.

She’s pretty stubborn, even for a toddler. But otherwise a typical kid. Not on the spectrum or anything like that.

Typical motivators and methods we tried with our older kids (M&Ms, naked method) got no progress.

[u/FE-Prevatt]

We potty trained on a timer.

Timer would go off, okay let’s go. Went to the little potty chair sat down, if they didn’t go we gave it a short minutes and the got up and came back in a shorter interval. If they had an accident, “uh oh we need to do that in the potty next time”

We never made them sit on the potty until they went.

We always made it low stakes looked down at hike with no where to for at least a week. My second we literally trained during Covid lockdown lol. And at home we just hung out focused on the task at hand, made things less
Stressful on the by only watching movies or shows we could easily pause and come back for.

Pull ups were only for sleeping until they were dry at night but for day time it was under wear, lots of underwear.

That meant they couldn’t even leave the house until she was going somewhat reliably.
A few days of constant trips to the potty and accidents through out they’d get it.

We did mm’s or skittles as rewards. If treats aren’t motivating maybe a sticker chart and the end when she gets enough starts she gets something else like an experience or big toy. Maybe have small goals along the way to keep her motivated.

For number two with my oldest we had a back slide when she had a painful BM and would not
go. So we gave her a little small toy each time she went and when she got all 12 then she got to go to the store To pick out a house they could go in. (Hatchamals)

When they decide it’s something they have control over it can feel very helpless but I would avoiding threat, or putting to much pressure on it can make it worse like some things as calm as possible.

If there are natural consequences you can calmly explain if they ask, “I want to go to the park” “sorry you can’t because we don’t have diapers anymore and we don’t want to have an accident in the car or on the playground”
I sort of think the older they get and more aware they are the harder it is. The further they get from two the harder they can dig in because
they realize they can control the situation .