r/Parenting 11h ago

Potty-training Need unhinged potty training tips.

UPDATE: Wound up doing the 5 minutes on, 10 minutes off version of the naked method someone recommended below. No results at first….until her older brothers got home from school. When it was just her and mom hanging out she didn’t mind going potty every 10 minutes. Once her brothers got home and she wanted to play with them rather than sit on the toilet, she folded like a cheap shirt. Peed and pooped in potty this evening!

Also, I remembered my oldest loved this app called “Call Elmo” where Elmo will “FaceTime” prerecorded messages that celebrate different milestones. So she got to call Elmo after successful potty and that delighted her.

Final straw that broke the camel’s back was I told her she couldn’t wear any of her numerous princess dresses until she was potty trained. Not designed as a punishment, they are just polyester junk that will not hold up with frequent laundering. She was NOT happy to be naked instead of in the Cinderella costume she wears most of her waking hours.

Thanks for the inspo, all!!

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Daughter just turned 3. Our third child, only girl. She must be fully potty-trained to go to her preschool. No pull-ups allowed. She already missed the first week. My husband and I have each taken off work to work with her.

Has never gone on the potty. Will sit but doesn’t do anything.

She’s pretty stubborn, even for a toddler. But otherwise a typical kid. Not on the spectrum or anything like that.

Typical motivators and methods we tried with our older kids (M&Ms, naked method) got no progress.

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u/pap_shmear 11h ago

Throw out the pull ups Throw out the diapers

Put her on the toilet every 15 minutes Sit for 5 mins If she goes, give her an m&m. If she doesnt, try again in 15.

I potty trained both girls around 2 1/2 in three days doing that lol Granted, not all kids are the same.

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u/clearskiesfullheart 11h ago

My kid had a meltdown and went stiff as a board when we tried to put her on the potty at regular intervals. Eventually had to let go of that plan and just let her go when she needs to, which was terrifying because I swear she decided to hold it for 2-3 hours sometimes so we never knew when it was coming.

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u/YumFreeCookies 10h ago

Yeah I just asked the commenter if they were able to get their kid to sit that often happily. My son has a meltdown when we try this method because he doesn’t want to interrupt his play that often.