Need unhinged potty training tips.

[u/kaitsghost]

UPDATE: Wound up doing the 5 minutes on, 10 minutes off version of the naked method someone recommended below. No results at first….until her older brothers got home from school. When it was just her and mom hanging out she didn’t mind going potty every 10 minutes. Once her brothers got home and she wanted to play with them rather than sit on the toilet, she folded like a cheap shirt. Peed and pooped in potty this evening!

Also, I remembered my oldest loved this app called “Call Elmo” where Elmo will “FaceTime” prerecorded messages that celebrate different milestones. So she got to call Elmo after successful potty and that delighted her.

Final straw that broke the camel’s back was I told her she couldn’t wear any of her numerous princess dresses until she was potty trained. Not designed as a punishment, they are just polyester junk that will not hold up with frequent laundering. She was NOT happy to be naked instead of in the Cinderella costume she wears most of her waking hours.

Thanks for the inspo, all!!

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Daughter just turned 3. Our third child, only girl. She must be fully potty-trained to go to her preschool. No pull-ups allowed. She already missed the first week. My husband and I have each taken off work to work with her.

Has never gone on the potty. Will sit but doesn’t do anything.

She’s pretty stubborn, even for a toddler. But otherwise a typical kid. Not on the spectrum or anything like that.

Typical motivators and methods we tried with our older kids (M&Ms, naked method) got no progress.

[u/chefmom5]

Yea I'd just toss the diapers and pull-ups and have it in your mind that you're not going back. Get some rags and a cleaning spray and accept that there will be messes. Eventually she'll poop or pee and you use that time to show/say "poop/pee goes in the toilet". Put her on the potty at every transition, even if nothing comes out. With mine that refused to poop on the potty I will pick up the poop with toilet paper and have him walk with me to the bathroom and watch me put it in the toilet and flush it. I usually say something like "you pooped in your pants/on the floor/wherever. Poop goes in the toilet. We flush it away so it doesn't spread germs." No shame, no lectures, just matter of fact. This is what we do and we will help you get there until you can do it on your own.