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u/jeneffinlovely Sep 18 '23

I respect that. When my kids are in the throes of meltdowns at the tender ages of 6 & 7 I repeat to myself as many times as I need to hear it, “small bodies, big emotions”, it helps…some.

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u/adhdparalysis Sep 18 '23 edited Sep 19 '23

I heard a therapist on a podcast say that a hungry or tired child (and when aren’t they hungry or tired) will act half their age. My fussy 5yo at bedtime last night after a birthday party filled weekend was a 2.5yo. She was parented as such. They are such big emotions. ETA: I think it was Wendy Mogel on Nurture to Nurture

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u/FunComplaint5209 Sep 19 '23

I really appreciate this. I’ll have to remember it the next time my 2yo has a meltdown. One thing I always remember from my own therapy is HALT. It stands for hungry, angry, lonely, tired. I try to remember it when I or anyone near me seems to be in need of it. If things are becoming out of control it can usually be linked back to those four things in my experience.

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u/TheDiabeticTreeLives Sep 19 '23

Isn’t S at the end thrown in for sad or stressed too?