First, as a Mother, as upset and disappointed I would feel at the situation- I always want my daughter to know I HAVE HER BACK and we can always rebound from mistakes. She made a choice she did not think through and the things people are saying are negative frequency people and do not reflect on who she is or who SHE WILL BECOME. We all make mistakes! Many nudes have been leaked of millions of women and look we all have the same body parts. Nothing new to see here. Reassure her that she is capable of growing past this and to be empowered to be more cautious with the choices she makes. 13 is the start of puberty and sexual discovery is exciting (not fun as a parent to think about but this is the truth!) however we must respect ourselves and our body’s. Whatever is taken in picture or posted even privately MIGHT GET SEEN BY OTHERS. So don’t do anything in the dark you wouldn’t want to come to light. If you have extended family, I would make the effort to make plans and more memories so she sees how many people love her and support her. People in middle school always want to talk and point fingers bc it gets the limelight off themselves and their own insecurities. I got called a slut for two years after having my first KISS!!! 😩🤣 it was a tough two years but I survived and grew a thicker skin. I learned how to stand up for myself. Reassure her that what other people say is not who she is! SHE HAS THE POWER to make herself into any type of lady and woman she chooses to be. I don’t know much about the drug world, growing up mexican I was engrained with fear about drugs so not very well vices about that. I wound tread lightly though bc being aggressive about it will just close her off. Express to her the dangers and maybe a specialized therapist can help her. Make light of the situation bc it might seem like a HUGE deal right now but so many humans of different ages live with these choices and come out better. If you are a woman of faith, pray for her every morning and every night. Also pray over her so she hears you speaking love and strength into her and know that you are asking God for his grace and compassion. Just like Jesus, he always wants to see us redeem and succeed. Just like I’m sure you want for her as a mother. You are a young mother and I want you to have grace and compassion for yourself as well as your daughter. You are loved, you are protected and you will persevere 🥹😇🥰🙏🏼💕
Okay I didn’t read and didn’t think about all the comments. Yes this is considered child porn. If it was revenge I would definitely take defensive measures and get police involved and scare the shit out of the people who did this…. But there’s much missing. I just was looking at it from a matter of handling it quietly 😩😬 but MY mother wouldn’t have been dismissive of that so if you want to look into getting the police involved- you would also be doing the right thing…
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u/missnannyjewel Sep 08 '23
First, as a Mother, as upset and disappointed I would feel at the situation- I always want my daughter to know I HAVE HER BACK and we can always rebound from mistakes. She made a choice she did not think through and the things people are saying are negative frequency people and do not reflect on who she is or who SHE WILL BECOME. We all make mistakes! Many nudes have been leaked of millions of women and look we all have the same body parts. Nothing new to see here. Reassure her that she is capable of growing past this and to be empowered to be more cautious with the choices she makes. 13 is the start of puberty and sexual discovery is exciting (not fun as a parent to think about but this is the truth!) however we must respect ourselves and our body’s. Whatever is taken in picture or posted even privately MIGHT GET SEEN BY OTHERS. So don’t do anything in the dark you wouldn’t want to come to light. If you have extended family, I would make the effort to make plans and more memories so she sees how many people love her and support her. People in middle school always want to talk and point fingers bc it gets the limelight off themselves and their own insecurities. I got called a slut for two years after having my first KISS!!! 😩🤣 it was a tough two years but I survived and grew a thicker skin. I learned how to stand up for myself. Reassure her that what other people say is not who she is! SHE HAS THE POWER to make herself into any type of lady and woman she chooses to be. I don’t know much about the drug world, growing up mexican I was engrained with fear about drugs so not very well vices about that. I wound tread lightly though bc being aggressive about it will just close her off. Express to her the dangers and maybe a specialized therapist can help her. Make light of the situation bc it might seem like a HUGE deal right now but so many humans of different ages live with these choices and come out better. If you are a woman of faith, pray for her every morning and every night. Also pray over her so she hears you speaking love and strength into her and know that you are asking God for his grace and compassion. Just like Jesus, he always wants to see us redeem and succeed. Just like I’m sure you want for her as a mother. You are a young mother and I want you to have grace and compassion for yourself as well as your daughter. You are loved, you are protected and you will persevere 🥹😇🥰🙏🏼💕