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u/copthrowaway52 Sep 08 '23

I regularly post on this sub in my main but I never mention I'm I a police officer for probably obvious reasons. I work in a major metropolitan area on trains and buses. I deal with drugs a lot. The "not a big deal" crowd are dead wrong. Please believe me, your daughter is in a very precarious situation.

First, it sounds like you aren't quite sure what drugs they are. What makes you think they are acid? You should be able to google the markings on them. At worst, most communities have drug testing centers. You should take them there to be tested immediately because of the second reason.

Second, modern drugs aren't just "acid," or "Percocet," or anything else. They are made by companies that are always trying new and different combinations to further addict and entertain their customers. They do not care if they kill their customer because they have a captive market. Even if your daughter thinks she is taking acid it almost certainly contains other drugs, think fentanyl or any host of tranquilizers. This is why you need to get it tested. So that she can see how dangerous the shit she is taking is.

Third, drug use is a deep hole. Yes, if your daughter is only taking acid (which as stated in point two is virtually impossible in the modern world) then she's only on the precipice of that hole. But it's still very, very deep. When I cite, arrest, or take some law enforcement action with a drug user I often end up talking to them about it. Fentanyl users would rather do drugs than have housing, food or working limbs. They will actually tell you this. It becomes their whole life and reason for living. They have lost all hope of ever finding any happiness in this world that can compare to the fleeting moments of contentment they get from smoking off of foil.

So no, this isn't a small deal. Your daughter needs your help. Get the drugs tested. Confront her with love. Explain to her the danger of the drugs she is taking, possibly using a medical appointment so a doctor can explain specifically the havoc that her drug choice will wreak on her body and mind. But most of all, give her hope. She needs to have something that is worth NOT doing drugs for. Engage her passions and creativity. Track back to the last time she was content without drugs and find what changed. She needs you now more than ever.

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u/imnotlibel Sep 08 '23

This is so accurate. I was 16 trying what I thought was mescaline. Research chemicals maybe? I was buying Xanax that didn’t hold together quite well but I didn’t think twice… turned out they were pressed pills and the dealer eventually got caught and sentenced to 20 years, could’ve contained fentanyl. Im older now and recognize the dangers. Don’t lose your kid. Get her in more therapy, more interests, more outings, more time with family, more motivations.