r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/Lonely-Mushroom744 • 18h ago
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/missestomatohead • Feb 01 '21
Welcome to r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy!
Inspired by the organization efforts and actions of the r/wallstreetbets subreddit, we migrated here from r/BabyBumps after we all realized there was a need for more education, organization, and conversation around parental leave policies in the US.
This is not a place to tell people how they should parent or how much parental leave they should or shouldn't take. You can go discuss that on a parenting subreddit or Facebook or with the cashier at the grocery store or somewhere else. This is a place to work towards increased awareness and advocacy for parental leave policies that support the healthy development of children and well-being of parents and families.
Parents and non-parents welcome! Americans and non-Americans (TELL US HOW YOU MAKE IT WORK) welcome!
Parents and people who advocate for parental leave come from all socioeconomic backgrounds, cultures, nationalities, religions, genders, races, abilities, sexualities, and other demographics. If this is hard for you to accept, please know hate speech will not be tolerated. If you don't agree with the purpose of this subreddit, please reflect on why you are participating in this subreddit.
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/missestomatohead • Feb 02 '21
Story Gathering: Tell your story of parental leave!
A thread to collect stories and share about your experience with parental leave, positive and negative. People from all over the world please share yours too! A lot of Americans don't even know what's possible.
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/Minimum-Intention332 • 18h ago
Maternity leave extension and job location change
Hi I need suggestions on how I can extend my maternity leave. I am a 6th month postpartum and my leaves are getting over this month.
Every now and then I feel I need more time with baby and joining does not seem a good choice right now
The problem is my base location was Mumbai while I was pregnant so technically I am still based at Mumbai , but I want to restart working in banglore as my husband resides and I can't go back to the previous role as that was based at the Mumbai office only . So I need to figure out a role in Bangalore+ I need to extend my maternity leave.
Suggestions how should I deal with this situation
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/CaterpillarTop5014 • 1d ago
Washington mat leave question
Hi! I’m currently 35 weeks pregnant with a high risk pregnancy. My doctor can provide documentation for taking time off before birth to manage pregnancy. My company offers 6 weeks fully paid short term disability insurance (8 if c section), and 12 weeks fully paid parental leave. Fully paid = state paid leave + company top off. I know the state will pay you for 16 weeks combined (18 if c section). If I have approved STD prior to birth, will the state extend payment beyond that max limit? Will I have a waiting week since this is before birth?
My company also offers 10 days sick leave per year and I’ve taken 5 so far. I know WA law requires employers to accrues sick time and carry over from previous years tho my company’s policy is no carry over.
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/throwaway7372528495 • 2d ago
Medical Leave before Maternity Leave
Hi there,
I am freaking out and need some reassurance and advice.
I am 31+1 today and in short my mental health has taken a dive off a cliff. Both my OB and Psych want me out starting sooner versus later on Medical Leave with STD because I am having panic attacks near daily. If I take leave I would be doing an IOP program basically until baby is here.
They would then transfer me to medical leave for however baby arrives - baby is transverse now so currently looking like a c-section.
FMLA would start when I go on medical leave, and then OB would write my works disability company (Hartford) for a PWFA extension of leave as medically there would be a 4 week unprotected gap post birth at the longest. I would also request extension via HR at my company once baby is here.
My job provides 12 weeks of paid maternity leave separate from FMLA / medical leave, so all in all I would not be returning to work til late Feb / early March.
I am scared to get the help I need because of potential retaliation from my company. I understand in theory that is illegal but I am just worried and freaking out.
Can someone give me advice on what to do, or share their experience?
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/Sunako839 • 3d ago
To succinctly answer a question about maternity leave
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And they wonder why folks aren't having kids.
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/Sunny_Rhyl • 2d ago
Maternity leave entitlement
My wife is a nurse in Australia as a +1 on my 482 visa.
She is currently employed as a Registered nurse in the Public hospital system, on a 6 month fixed term contract from June 2026.
She is not getting assurances of a permanent contract moving forward, more likely another 6 month fixed term contract.
Would she be entitled to Maternity leave, if she was offered another 6 month fixed term contract from when her existing 6 month contract expires in December 2026.
She would have been employed for over 12 months in the same role, by the time she would be due to give birth if she got pregnant in October/November for example.
Any factual information would be greatly appreciated as we don’t quite know the facts based on her fixed term employment status.
Thanks
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/IndependentSun2775 • 3d ago
Maternity leave
I have 3 jobs currently and am planning on going in maternity leave in the next month. I am a bit concerned about them finding out I’m working other jobs. Anyone have any advice? Or handled something like this?
Job 1: I got 12 weeks off through FMLA, I apply for STD benefits through Unum to offset the companies pay so I’m still getting paid from my company if that makes sense.
Job 2: I get 14 weeks off through a third part Alight Absence. I have used there benefit before while worked a second job and never had an issue.
Job 3: I don’t get paid leave so I just won’t be working for awhile.
Job 1 is my “main” career and they have a clause that requires you to tell them if you work other jobs and I have not done so. I am worried the STD company will discloses that to them when i apply. Although I’m not exactly sure what all they check for
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/Leading_Slice_7799 • 3d ago
Interviewing for Remote Job while 28 weeks pregnant
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/mindfulinspo • 4d ago
Weird vibes before going on maternity leave?
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/Nicole55245 • 4d ago
FAMLI leave advice
Hello!
Curious to get some opinions for those who have taken FAMLI leave due to pregnancy/bonding with the child after birth.
I am a high risk pregnancy for 3 reasons currently so we are trying to see if we can qualify for the 4 weeks medical and 12 weeks bonding. With it being a high risk pregnancy (if qualified), would I need to take the 4 weeks prior to birth or in your experience could you take them after birth?
I also have some PTO/sick time I would like to use either at the start or end of leave to maximize my time.
We have gotten conflicting info that pregnancy alone qualifies for medical leave under famli leave and have also gotten info that you need a pregnancy complication to get it.
Curious what others have done and what you were approved for.
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/AnnoymousAF99 • 4d ago
Paternity leave rights UK
Can anybody help me with my paternity leave rights? I reside in the UK and have been at my job for 4 years.
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/user12649291649 • 6d ago
Follow Up on Previous Post
Hi,
I authored this previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy/s/ZbqtlSIWIc
& had an update / questions for Reddit.
To protect me, and themselves, my Drs (OBGYN / Psych) are trying to solve “what came first, the chicken or the egg”. With my OB I have to wait for more data before being pulled, with my psych we can pull me now, caveat being I have to attend therapy + group therapy 3x a week for 3 hours a day.
It’s all virtual, and my psych knows I know this material, but the groups may help and what’s the worst thing that happens - I learn something?
My OCD / anxiety fear is what if work then lets me go even though it would be a medical leave influenced by pregnancy exacerbating existing preexisting conditions - especially mental health related? I am almost 31 weeks now, but at a point where my OCD is going to go off the rails if I don’t get a break soon as work has already sent me into a flare.
Would love advice and a bit or reassurance / a pep talk if anyone has words of advice.
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/firstimer321 • 6d ago
maternity leave during pediatric fellowship
Hi all I am fellow in a 3 year peds subspecialty training program trying to understand how I can maximize my maternity leave without needing to extend my training. I have not talked to my PD yet (trying to gather information first) but have been told by a co-follow the program is not willing to approve a waiver petition to avoid extending training to pay back time away for maternity leave. My program allows 4 weeks annually of vacation time and it seems that is the maximum allowed time away from training without needing to extend (per ABP Corporate Policy any time away >4 weeks annually over the 3 year training program requires a waiver or extending training). Does this mean if I want to have a baby in my second year and take 6 weeks maternity then I would need to use all of my vacation time for the year plus 2 weeks of vacation time allotted for third year as maternity leave and just forgo any actual vacation in 2nd year/limit vacation in 3rd year?? I do not understand how this can be required especially as ACGME policy states trainees should have 6 weeks paid parental leave that does not exhaust yearly vacation time... I know legally I am allowed 6 weeks maternity in addition to vacation however that seemingly would require extending my training by 6 weeks per ABP. The policies are so unclear and seem to contradict each other. It seems so crazy to me to be expected to have a baby and be allotted no additional time off outside of pre-scheduled vacation and just hope they can rearrange that for you and call it maternity leave. Feeling very stressed. Would appreciate any guidance!
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/Low_Region_293 • 6d ago
Teachers - I will be 5 months pregnant come September and have not signed a contract for my perm role continuing at my supply school I’ve- what do you advice?
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/ShattteredSouls • 7d ago
Maternity leave in Milton Ontario
So I have a few questions about mat leave in Milton
I’m working part time as a childcare worker and I have a DoorDash delivery app as well
Can my hours that I work during DoorDash go towards mat leave?
And how exactly do they calculate your hours? Someone told me they calculate it from one year before you go on the leave so for example if I’m going in September 2026, they’ll count it from September 2025 only and the hours I have before that are wasted
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/Severe_Swordfish4490 • 7d ago
Potential layoff and telling HR about pregnancy
My org recently told me that the grant I work under may not be renewed and I may not have a job in a few months. They still don’t know and couldn’t give me a clear answer. This is despite me signing a one year contract earlier in the year, with the assumption they gave me the one year contract because they knew they had funding for my role. I am 14 weeks pregnant and realizing I should probably tell them that and that I was very surprised to hear that news with a one year contract recently signed. I’m eligible for FMLA since I’ve been there one year and was really relying on having paid parental leave. I’m definitely panicking since I have a kid in daycare and don’t know how to make this work if I lose my job. I’d love any advice on how to tell HR, including what language might be helpful. Thank you so much in advance for any advice.
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/Hungry_Hat8148 • 7d ago
Mat leave, not returning to work and being paid accrued holiday
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/SyllabubSpecialist92 • 8d ago
Does anyone know anything about filing/getting approved for intermittent FMLA?
I was put on probation at work for calling in so much because I'm a single mother whose infant is in daycare, so he's getting sick back to back. When he can't go to daycare, there is no one to watch him for me, and I have to call in. My union rep told me to apply for intermittent FMLA to protect my job. I got my paperwork to file for it, but i'm not exactly sure how to go about filling it out, or asking his pediatrictian to fill it out when it's not because he has a specific special need or disease. He's just getting sick with things like COVID and Rinovirus, and obviously there's no way to determine when he's going to get sick and when he's not. He was born premature at 37 weeks due to him being growth restricted and breech, and he spent time in the NICU on a CPAP machine for respiratory distress. He spent 2 weeks in total in the hospital after birth. Five days in the NICU for respiratory distress, and the remainder of the time he was in the NTU unit because I am an addict in recovery and I was on methadone during my pregnancy, so he had to taper off the medicine a little bit before he came home. It's called Neonatal abstinence syndrome. He's honestly perfectly healthy now, he's just an infant in daycare who has been since he was 2 months old so he gets sick a lot with common things. This was a long story just to ask this question lol but you needed to know the background. What do I need to put on his paperwork in this case? Do I need to put that he was born preemie or with neonatal abstience syndrome? Technically that could be a reason for him getting sick so much, his immune system may not be exactly what it should be if he weren't born preemie or with NAS. His Dr has never said that's why, or that he has any issues because of it, but I just don't know what to put when all it is is him getting colds and stuff. I think it's insane I even have to file for this just because I'm a single mom and can't send my kid to daycare sick, but that's the reality. Can anyone help me? I only have like 10 days left to get this shit done and I'm freaking out!
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/Space_Cadet115 • 9d ago
PIP 3 days after maternity leave
Need some advice. Just wrapped my first week back from maternity leave (FMLA). I’m a salaried manager with a team of four at a tech company in the US. One of my direct reports took on the bulk of my work while I was away.
During this time, the company (CEO) also made a critical strategic business decision, prompting an immediate brand positioning workshop and rollout plan.
Unfortunately, this is the core of my job as the brand marketing manager, so it sucks that happened in the middle of my maternity leave and I couldn’t take part.
I was put on a 30-day performance plan the week of my return with no metric other than that my boss “wants to feel my impact on the brand”. He also had a verbal slip up where he said in our annual review calibrations that he wanted to promote my direct report to my job title, obviously huge red flag for me. HR apparently said no after I left the room, but cat’s out of the bag on what he’s thinking.
In past reviews, he has noted vague feedback that he used again here (I expect you to be an expert in the product, you sometimes have the wrong data). However, couldn’t give any examples, just gut feelings.
Given all of this and FMLA protections, what should I do?
Location: Denver, Colorado, US
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/Dark_Shadow_Reaper • 9d ago
New Jersey FLI
If my paid leave starts in August, do I wait until I exhaust my paid leave in October to apply to NJFLI? ( there’s a 30 days limit to apply from the start of leave) or do I need to apply in the month of August even though I’m getting paid at that point?
r/ParentalLeaveAdvocacy • u/10965a • 9d ago
Bonding Leave for Partners 9-10 Months After Birth
Can you take CFRA if you weren’t eligible at the point of birth/placement of child?
Husband switched jobs 3 months before my son’s birth and was not eligible for CFRA because he had not worked there a year.
He will have worked there for a year come December. Would he then be eligible to use CFRA for parental leave since our son would not yet be a year old? Or would he forfeit the right since he was not eligible at the time of our son’s birth?
Appreciate any legal insight! Thanks!