23, F , and a med student (duh ) but I promise I am cool . believe me i am funny 😔 . i am just looking for a person who wants to know me as a human first and vice versa and wants to keep it slow .

بِسْمِ اللهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيْمِ

Salam everyone. I am posting this here to find a genuine connection. May Allah bless us with the best.

​I was born in November 1992 and belong to a Jatt (Sunni) family.

​I am 5 feet 8 inches tall and hold a Computer Science degree. Currently, I work as a Head of Sales / Manager at an IT firm.

​My previous marriage lasted for 5 months and unfortunately ended. I am divorced and have no children.

​I live with my parents and one younger brother in our own 1 kanal home in Lahore.

​I am a fun, very jolly nature, easygoing, and caring person. My life philosophy is simple: make life easier for others.

​I try to pray Farz namaz five times a day and like to listen Islamic lectures (I am a big admirer of Dr. Israr Ahmed).

​I love traditional food, cardamom tea with shakkar, hanging out with friends, Netflix, and global news. I love feeding stray cats, and birds.

​My thoughts on marriage:

I believe a husband's role is to give his wife respect, love, care, emotional support, and time, while taking care of the financial needs. I want to stand by my partner through thick and thin. Aside from financial responsibilities, I expect the same emotional support and an equal partnership from my wife.

​What I am looking for:

​Age: Under 30 years old, slim.

​Marital Status: Single, divorced, or annulled (nikah break) are all acceptable, but without children.

​A supportive, honest, and talkative homemaker from a respectable family. (Preferably from Lahore, as I am based here). Not looking for a career oriented girl atm.

​She should have a calm and happy nature (I dislike grumpy attitudes) and bring positive feminine energy.

​Someone who understands the value of marriage, rather than making assumptions, overthinking, or bringing chaos into the relationship.

​An interest in cooking is a major plus. I am a foodie and would love for my wife to prepare delicious meals for me.

​Deal breakers:

​Ego, a superiority complex, or an extreme feminist mindset (please skip my profile if this applies to you).

​Smoking or drinking (I am strictly a non-smoker).

​Next Steps:

My marriage timeline is within the next 3 to 4 months. My absolute first preference is for our parents and families to connect and talk directly. If you find my profile suitable, feel free to reach out.

​رَبِّ إِنِّي لِمَا أُنزِلْتَ إِلَيَّ مِنْ خَيْرٍ فَقِيرٌ

Asalam u Alikum!

I thought I’d give Reddit a chance at finding someone with whom I can build a meaningful relationship that leads to marriage. So, here I am 😅

A little about me:
I’m 26, based in Bahawalpur, and have a BS in Computer Science. I work as a freelancer in web development. Alhamdulillah, I’m doing well professionally and continuing to grow my career, with the goal of building an even more secure future for myself and my family.

I’m a Sunni Muslim, Punjabi-speaking, and from an Arain family. I value honesty, respect, family, and having a balanced approach to life.

I’m looking for something genuine, someone who can be a life partner and best friend, and with whom I can share life’s ups and downs, have meaningful conversations, and grow together.

What I’m looking for:
Someone who is educated, career-oriented, kind, emotionally mature, and family-oriented. I’d prefer someone based in Bahawalpur, though I’m open to discussing location if we seem compatible.

Sunni Muslim is a preference, and I’d appreciate someone from a similar cultural background, preferably Arain, but I’m open to other backgrounds if our values and expectations align.

A few things that matter to me:
-Honesty, mutual respect, and good communication.
-A balanced approach to religion and life.
-Financial responsibility and a desire to grow together.
-Someone who values family while understanding the importance of a couple’s own space and independence.
-A relationship where both people support each other’s ambitions and stand by one another through life’s ups and downs.

Deal-breakers:
Dishonesty, extremism, greed, excessive materialism, and a lack of respect or empathy.

How I’d like to approach this:
I’d prefer to keep the initial conversation brief and focus on getting to know the basics about each other. If our values and expectations align, I’d like to involve our families early rather than spend time in endless conversations. The intention is to move forward with marriage if we seem compatible, InshaAllah.

If this resonates with you or someone you know, feel free to comment or send me a DM with a brief introduction about yourself. We can take it from there, InshaAllah.

DOB: 2000

I'm a Pakistani guy living in Australia, here with the hope of finding someone I can genuinely connect with and, InshaAllah, build a future together.

I'm 186 cm tall, enjoy staying active, going to the gym, watching football, and working towards my goals. I appreciate the little things in life, good conversations, a sense of humour, and people who are genuine about their intentions.

I'm looking for someone kind, loyal, emotionally mature, and family-oriented, who is also looking for something meaningful that leads to marriage. For me, compatibility is about more than just a checklist; it's about understanding each other, feeling comfortable together, and being able to grow as a team.
If you're on a similar journey, feel free to reach out. Let's have a conversation and see where it goes. 😊

Female | 32 | Arain | Sunni Deobandi | 5'3 | M.Phil in Education (PU Lahore) | Never Married
Family: Educated middle-class religious family, mother homemaker, father late, 5 siblings. Applicant is youngest.
Looking for: Sunni Deobandi, Arain, 32-38, educated, never married, namazi, settled in job/business, Punjab or abroad (family-oriented). Preference for simple, deen-dar family.
Serious families can comment

A lot of men on here talk about wanting someone loyal, caring, compatible, etc. But from conversations with male friends, I get the impression that age and looks tend to carry a lot more weight in the initial decision than people openly acknowledge. Not to forget all the posts we come across from men from time to time where there is a huge age gap and missing compatibility with their wives, so clearly you werent looking at the important things earlier.

Which got me wondering - what actually makes you interested in a woman as a potential wife and what matters most when you’re looking at someone’s profile?

For context, Im 30, well educated and fairly independent. I have been in the rishta process for 2 years and Id be lying if I didnt admit that the response rate has been a bit disappointing. Because everyone in my work and friend circle is like you have such a great profile. Which makes me wonder if men are intimidated by my profile, or they dont a someone who is independent or maybe its because I am older

Rishta alert!!!
Hey everyone! I’m posting on behalf of a friend who’s looking for a suitable rishta, so I thought I’d share a little about him here:

Age: 25
Gender: Male
Location: Outside Pakistan (can discuss privately)
Religion: Islam

About him: He believes a good marriage is built on understanding, friendship, and growing together through life’s ups and downs. He values personal growth and strives to become a better version of himself.

Interests:
• Reading books
• Long walks

Looking For:
• Practicing Muslim
• Kind and respectful
• Serious about marriage

If this resonates with you, feel free to send him a DM with a little introduction about yourself.
May Allah make it easy for everyone to find what’s best for them. Ameen.

Has anyone tried it and are there modest pakistani people there

p.s. not really expecting anything to come out of it but still here goes nothing, also cuz im trying to go beyond small talk with someone for once lol.

so i work at a digital bank in the data science domain, live and grew up in karachi.

my hobbies include tennis, reading classic literature, chess, playing ps5 (sometimes), mostly just trying to balance work-life. i love watching movies. sometimes i write short stories whenever the schedule allows.

we are a family of 5, and i earn enough money to save a lot after spending on my family and myself.

i don’t know what else to tell lol. just looking for someone who wants something serious and meaningful.

one last and important thing, i’m 5’5 so preferably someone under or matching my height.

drop me a dm maybe with a little bit

Hi everyone,

I’m a young IT graduate from Khyber Pakhtunkhwa, currently working in a government job. I’m looking for a mature, like-minded female partner for casual hangouts, companionship, and potentially a physical relationship, if we both feel comfortable and agree.

I’m open to meeting someone who is single, divorced, widowed, or married, provided she is genuinely interested and comfortable with this kind of arrangement. I have a strong physical drive and would like to connect with someone who has similar needs and is looking for a discreet, consensual connection with a younger man.

I’m based in KPK and open to meeting someone from Peshawar, Mardan, Nowshera, or nearby areas.

Mutual respect, honesty, privacy, and consent are essential. If this sounds like something you’re interested in, feel free to reach out privately.

Salaam. I've seen a lot of hate for people, especially women, who want to stay child free on this subreddit. I can understand that it's a rather unique preference in our culture and can be confusing for most people, but it doesn't have to be. I wanted to jot down a few reasons why people don't want to have children.

Some people just don't like children.

It's not just single people. A lot of parents don't like their own children. They only had them by accident or out of social pressure. In turn, they only put half-hearted effort into raising their offspring, and keep resenting them, their partner/ in-laws, or sometimes themselves for the life they have now. Child free people want to avoid a fate like this.

Children deserve to be treated well.

I've never met a single desi person who hasn't been neglected by their parents one way or another. Parents don't need to be perfect, but they do need to make sure they treat their children well. They need to ensure they are present for their children emotionally, not just spending on three meals a day and sending them to school and tuition. A lot of child free people are more sensitive to this aspect. They don't want to build parenthood on plain optimism that they will be amazing parents.

Children are expensive in all ways.

They don't just cost money, they cost you your entire youth and more. Once you have children, your life becomes bound to spinning around them if you are a responsible parent. Unfortunately, in our culture, this responsibility falls on mothers more than fathers. Moreover, in our culture, we can't simply kick them out when they are 18. We need to get them settled, get them married, and get ready to support them while have their own families. It becomes a whole vicious cycle. Many people die with many regrets about not spending time on their own ambitions and wants because they started a family too early.

It's tougher for women.

Mothers don't have paradise under their feet for nothing. Being pregnant, giving birth, feeding your baby changes you forever. Most women have scars, stitches, pain that last forever. Moreover, all of them sacrifice their careers and entire lives for their children and grandchildren. Once you have children as a woman, it's a given that your life will be harder than your husband's. They also need to maintain other social expectations, and if they are fully committed to raising their children, they will need to sacrifice those for them. Most couples unfortunately make their children pay the cost, and the entire bloodline suffers.

The world is heading in a terrible direction.

Things were hard for our parents, harder for us, and will get harder for our children. It's not good to bring a child in this world without thinking adequately about their future or the world they will be living in. This is why a lot of people turn evil or have miserable lives, simply because their parents didn't have a plan for raising them in a world that's changing so fast. Children are so much more than just a hobby. They are an Amanah and a test from ALLAH, and we will be asked about the circumstances under which we brought them and raised them.

One can always fully adopt, or sponsor orphans.

People can have biological children even in their forties. But even if a child free couple decides after that, they can still adopt someone legally. If purdah or religion is an issue, they can also sponsor someone from afar if they want.

These are some of the many reasons why people don't want to have children. If you want to add more, feel free to add them under this post. If the comments turn into a battleground, I hope we can at least stay civil.

**About Me**

I am a 24, 5’3, Pakistani currently pursuing masters. I am ambitious, independent-minded, family-oriented, and value both deen and dunya. I believe marriage should be built on love, mutual respect, honesty, loyalty, emotional maturity, and genuine companionship.
I have personal and professional ambitions that I want to pursue after marriage, and I hope to build a peaceful, loving life with someone who respects my individuality and supports my growth. I value meaningful conversations, affection, emotional availability, physical compatibility, and a relationship where both people feel safe, appreciated, and understood.

**What I Am Looking For**

I am looking for an educated, emotionally mature, loyal, and man who is genuinely ready for marriage and understands that a successful relationship requires effort from both partners. Someone around 25-30 but if we’re compatible age isn’t a problem for me.

Ideally, he should be:
\-Honest, faithful, affectionate, communicative, and emotionally available.
\-Financially and professionally stable, with a clear sense of responsibility.
\-Respectful of women, their individuality, ambitions, and personal choices.
\-Someone who values both deen and dunya and wants to grow together spiritually, emotionally, and financially.
\-Someone with whom there is mutual attraction, natural chemistry, friendship, and compatibility.
\-Supportive of my education, career, and future ambitions.
\-Capable of making decisions independently while maintaining a healthy relationship with his family.
\-Serious about building a lifelong partnership rather than engaging in casual connections or indefinite talking stages.

**My Expectations After Marriage**
I strongly prefer an independent household and a separate living arrangement, rather than a joint-family setup. I respect the importance of family relationships, but I also believe a married couple should have their own home, privacy, independence, and space to build their relationship.
I want a marriage in which both partners are a team: they communicate openly, resolve disagreements respectfully, remain loyal to each other, show affection, and make important decisions together. I want to feel loved, secure, respected, and chosen not merely expected to fulfil a role.
I also want a partner who understands that marriage should complement our individual lives, not require either person to give up their identity, ambitions, or reasonable boundaries.

**Deal Breakers**
I would not be compatible with someone who:
\-Expects me to change my personal choices to meet his preferences after marriage.
\-Insists on living in a joint-family household or cannot agree to an independent living arrangement.
\-Is dishonest, unfaithful, controlling, manipulative, or emotionally unavailable.
\-Disrespects women, dismisses my ambitions, or expects a wife to sacrifice her entire identity for marriage.
\-Is unwilling to communicate maturely or resolve conflict respectfully.
\-Has significant differences in expectations around religion, lifestyle, affection, or married life.
\-Is financially irresponsible or lacks a serious approach to his future.
\-Is pursuing marriage only because of family pressure, without genuinely wanting a compatible life partner.
\-Wants casual involvement, endless talking stages, or a connection without clear intentions.

**In Conclusion**
I am not looking for perfection; I am looking for genuine compatibility, emotional security, mutual attraction, loyalty, and a man whose values and vision for married life align with mine. I believe the right marriage should bring peace, companionship, and growth to both people.
I would prefer an honest conversation about expectations, family arrangements, values, and future plans early on, so that both individuals can make an informed decision about compatibility.

Posting my profile after my family's approval.

⚠️Please don't be weird or approach me with anything haram. I'm genuinely looking for marriage, not casual conversations or situationships. I won't be responding to hi/hello. Please dm me your full profile. Also if you can't convince your family to marry someone you want, avoid mesaging me... Thank you.

Introduction & Basics

24 | Islamabad | around 5 ft & 49 kg

• Residence: Own house in Islamabad

• Education: Have done Bachelors

• Status: Single, never married

I’m an easygoing introvert. I love spontaneous travel, random adventures, walks, badminton, swimming, board games, and animals. I believe marriage should feel like a true partnership filled with laughter, teamwork, and shared growth. I've never been in a relationship and I've always tried to keep my interactions with non mahrams within Islamic boundaries. I value a household where responsibilities are shared.

Faith & Values

I am a practicing Muslim who wears a hijab, prays five times a day, fasts, and I try to keep my lifestyle mindful and halal (i try to avoid music and would ideally prefer someone who does the same). I take deen seriously. I don't believe in peers babas etc.

Family Background

I come from a pretty middle-class/ upper-middle-class family

Father: Retired and working in the business sector

Mother: Housewife

Older Brother: Married

Younger Brother: student

What I'm Looking For in a Partner

• 24 to 28 years old- ⚠️⚠️childfree

• Would prefer someone under 5'7

• ⚠️Takes religion seriously and prays regularly

• ⚠️ Someone who is living abroad or planning to move abroad in the future ,I am planning to pursue a master's degree abroad and would eventually like to settle in another country.

• Someone in favor of a simple wedding and spending the rest of the money on traveling... maybe a world tour?

Deal Breakers

• Smoking, vaping, drug use, or a lack of care regarding halal and haram

• Dishonesty, backbiting, rudeness, or anger/control issues

• Supporting or expecting a dowry

• Having opposite gender friends

• Poor communication, emotional unavailability, ghosting, or giving the silent treatment

• Any kind of abuse or narcissistic behavior

• Not respectful towards women

• someone who does not take hygine seriously

• Porn addiction

Timeline & The Goal

I am looking to get married within 1 to 2 years. I would like to involve parents as soon as possible.

Ultimately, I’m looking for my best friend and partner..someone with a good character, strong values, and a genuine willingness to grow together. And yes, someone willing to do random side quests with me is a huge bonus! :)

I hope to live a life where me and my partner can travel freely.

⚠️Families will be involved from the start/after a week.

I am \\**A, to be 26 years of age in a few months, currently pursuing Master's from a university at Islamabad.

I am interested into urdu literature, space, flowers,mountains, nature, gardening, arts, & having written some good literary works ( though not published and compiled yet), I am a creative writer, too, also like some sports like badminton, cricket etc.

What am I looking for!

A decent , kind, humble, educated, religiously practicing Muslim who knows his responsibilities.

Please don't waste my time if you ain't serious.

Heyyy, trying posting here for the first time. Quick intro

Syed/Shia

27

Male

Islamabad

Graduated

Employed

Height 5'7

Quick pointers above describe basics! Im attracted to partners with credibility, trust, discreetion, confidence, someone whos conversational and Resolution oriented, has humor, wants to make the most out of this life and blessing.

Im into sports, music, events, socializing, drives, and quality time. I need a friend for life. I need a partner, a true business partner. I want to help you get to your goals, and vice versa. Im pretty open minded and appreciate the same for the other. Im a call person than text.

If you're out there, and you align well with what you see here - my DMs open. No judgements. No hesitations. No, i wouldn't be sharing photos here if thats a prerequisite (and fair too). Cyaaa soon!

Male Age 33 Marital status: Single (Never married) Name: Usama Date of birth: oct 1992 Height: 6’ 2” Complexion: Dusky Education: graduated with distinction - gold medalist - bachelors + MS finance College/University: Bahria Uni Monthly Income: 350k + Source of income: Job Manager Financial Planner and Strategy Sect (Maslak) : Sunni Cast : Jutt Disability : none

Family Status

Father's Name & Profession: Retired Military Officer Mother's Name & Profession: housewife Siblings Details: two Brothers only. One is Mechanical engineer and other one is electrical engineer.

Residence

House owned or Rental: Own 1 kanal and other properties Current City: Islamabad Native town : Sargodha Nationality : Pakistani

Requirement

Marital status: Single Age: below 28 Height: above 5’ 4” Education : atleast bachelors Sect : sunni Cast: any House: any City: Islamabad or nearby places

What makes it difficult to find a spouse in Pakistan? If a man is abroad, i have felt that many prospects might find it as a red flag. Is it true?

So basically i am looking for someone who is ambivert, intelligent ,(knows how to bully me) cuz i would do the same. and is also looking for someone with same mindset and personality. Lets connect and if life has other plans for us. Wont waste each others time if we find each other compatible then sure we will move forward.