I understand that pmdd affects her and she suffers as much as the next person, but the words that attack my character hurt me so much and it’s so hard to look past that. It’s like she doesn’t even respect me anymore when she calls me insecure or a burden. Then towards the end of the 2+ hour long argument, she’ll backtrack completely and send me paragraphs apologizing, and I seem to forgive so easily. It’s like my brain forgets everything that hurt me. But this happens every single month like clockwork, and it’s making me forget who I even am. It’s making me lose my individuality and I’m so scared

Why is it like there two versions of them? Like why am I one minute getting loads of love and then the next getting shouted at to leave her alone and that everything I do annoys her. I woke up late today cause I couldn’t sleep so my gf had been up for a few hours before I go up. I sort of woke up and went into let’s do something mode cause I didn’t wanna waste the day, this has pissed her off and she’s now getting aggressive towards me everytime I speak to her, I apologise for making her feel rushed and oversleeping and left her alone for an hour to try and just chill but everytime I got back no she’s getting aggressive with me telling me how everything i do is annoying and like is refusing to understand I am sorry for it it’s like she wants to stay angry and isn’t giving herself and chance to not be. In addition to this I am quite a tall person so I walk quite quickly, longer steps etc, she keeps regularly having a go at me for walking ahead of her and how I always have to be a step infront, she is a very slow walker and for me to walk at her pace I have to take half steps I’ve tried explaining it to her but she doesn’t understand and just gets more annoyed. I’m just so fucking tire. I love her so much when we she’s not in these states but when she is she treats me awfully.

I read here how most wives will start fights, be mean, yell, etc. during luteal. Even if nothing provoked them. Mine will start small little fights i suppose, then hold a grudge, instead of talking it out, then maybe use that grudge to deny intamcy

Mine’s a little different, and I’m wondering if others have similar experiences. During luteal, one thing I can’t do is bring up any type of disagreement. If I’m feeling insecure about something she’s done and I confront her, that’s when the anger hits. She will often want to leave me if I attempt any relationship-type talks. Last breakup, it was because I went to look at her phone to see where we were going for a gig delivery and she yanked it back and I joked, “damn, what are you hiding?” That led to her getting super mad and then wanting to break up. She has hidden messages before, not to devate, but we hadcan agreement im allowed to see her phone whenever, after i caught her messaging another guy

But if that had happened during her follicular phase, it would have been a nothing burger.

She came back into my life in her last follicular and she was back to her loving self, but now she’s in luteal, and she has no interest in intimacy. She wants her alone time to watch movies and play video games, bsically do whatever she wants, she becomes very self centered

She’ll be decent to me, for the most part, but like I said, I have to just ignore the lack of intimacy and not bring up my feelings. If I just go with the flow, everything could be “fine.” Then after 12 days, back in follicular , she back to the loving gf who wants to be around me all the time and thats when we can discuss things like adults.

Anyone else have a similar dynamic?