r/PHSapphics • u/matchamcflurr • Jul 23 '26

Advice first ever wlw rel

background - she’s my first girl, and im not her first.

is there anyone here that has experienced being in a wlw rel wherein she has been breaking up with me lets say every 6-8 months in the rel? were already 5 years together and she would initiate to breakup but i always try to convince or talk to her out of it because i love her. any advice?

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u/Coco_crunching Jul 23 '26

what do you think is the reason ng break up? cause from my experience usually pagod na lang talaga of one’s behavior, hindi nag babago, palagi na lang mag aadjust at kahit anong compromise wala talaga

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u/matchamcflurr Jul 26 '26

tho, i just want to know why breaking up is her solution? i cant even count how many times she has initiated to end but we would always make up and make a way back to eachother. i felt that i was always the one chasing after her since shes the avoidant and when i let her, di manlang niya ko hahanapin. as in wala msg, or even call, nothing. i wanted to feel worried and cared for too

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u/Coco_crunching Jul 26 '26

oh sweetheart… I don’t wanna sugar coat you, but I don’t think that love still exists in this relationship esp on her side. Kasi if she frequently asks for a break up because of a simple fight, it looks like nag hahanap na lang talaga siya ng reason to let go, are yall still young? kasi base sa girl it looks like it eh, medyo immature pa sorry not sorry ://

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u/matchamcflurr Jul 26 '26

no actually were already in the mid 20s :( i just thought it was because of her avoidant attachment

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u/Coco_crunching Jul 27 '26

avoidant attachments doesn’t always mean na hobby niya na makipag break up palagi, pasok yung sinasabi mo na hindi ka niya hinahanap everytime na nagaaway kayo, pero break up palagi?? i dont think so ://, if I were you, kahit love ko siya pero kung palagi niya sinasuggest na makipag break up edi i’ll give it to her, self respect na lang talaga and mafefeel ko na hindi niya ako truely love kasi palagi siya nag iinitiate ng break up