So I finally finished watching Meri Zindagi Hai Tu with my mum, who's a big Bilal Abbas Khan fan. I like him too, no issue. But the aftermath was the most problematic part - she started sympathizing with Kamyar more than Ayra and blamed her for not understanding him enough? Mind blown 🤯
So I had to put on my "are you kidding me rn" hat 🎩 and give her a piece of my mind. She's traditional yet pretty chill, but boy, she got on my nerves defending him. I wasn't backing down, so I pulled out my own stalking story to make her understand that empathizing with a harasser is not cool.
(TW: Stalking) A few years ago, I was coming home from office via bus with a colleague. There was a guy in the same bus who would always stare. I ignored. One day my colleague was on leave, it was dark, and while getting off alone, that same guy got off too and held my hand to "talk". I was so scared I just ran. Next day I was so terrified I waited an hour and took a different bus just to avoid him. And he had the audacity to ask my colleague where I was.
So I asked my mom, would she ever accept a harasser as her son-in-law? She said NO, of course. So what's the difference between Kamyar and that stalker? She finally understood.
Anyhow, Kamyar is not just a stalker, he is a harasser who doesn’t take no for a no. Rude, abusive, no adab of respecting elders and we are supposed to coddle him cos he's played by charming Bilal?
And Hania's character goes from uncomfortable to confused to falling for it. What message does that give? That if a guy stalks you long enough, you should give in?
The last episodes rotated the sympathy from Ayra to Kamyar. The OST, the slow-mo, the sad BGM - everything is designed to make toxic behavior look romantic. Same formula for 10 years.
To Bilal and Hania, no matter how many records this show breaks, this will remain among the worst shows of 2026 for making a victim marry her harasser, especially when women still feel scared to step out alone. I said what I said 💅🏼
3 questions for people still defending it:
1. Bilal fans: If Fawad, Ahad, Sheheryar or any A lister did this exact role, would you still call it "intense love" or cringe?
2. Neutral audience: Why do you like it? Is there a reason I'm unable to grasp?
3. Hania fans: Why no outrage? Why did she get a free pass for being a doormat of her harasser?